- The world of dating is a complex place, let's be honest,
especially in 2021 where everything is fast-moving,
people don't have time, people can fake themselves.
Relationships are considered replaceable, as are people.
Therefore, as women, we want to know
that we are not wasting time, we are valued,
and we are number one in the eyes of the man that we like.
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So with online dating and more people being single
til later on in life, there are many more options available
to date for people than ever before.
This often makes men and women fall in the abundance mindset
where they are less like to date one person monogamously.
Keep their options and have a lot of potential partners,
but then how do we figure out whether we are a man's
number one, two, three, four, even fifth choice?
In this video, I will share with you three signs
that you are not a man's first priority,
that he may be dating other girls that he likes more
or that he's just not that into you anymore.
Sign number one, he only contacts you for last-minute.
Now, this can happen in or out of a relationship
whereby a man who has either prearranged dates
with you now only does last-minute or a man was asking you
for the last-minute since day one and you allowed it.
Last-minute basically means I have nothing else
to do, so let's hang out.
It could be because the girl he was meant to meet up
with originally canceled, was too busy,
or is not giving him the time of the day or that his mates
perhaps canceled plans and now he's high and dry.
Either way, he's looking to you to fill that gap.
Some men try last-minute as a tease or a test,
but when it's a regular occurrence,
it's usually because he does not respect your time or you,
and without respect, there won't be any love.
The point is don't be a man's backup plan.
Only see him when it's prearranged and keep a man
who does not consider you important in his life.
If you do, you are showing him that you don't value yourself
and you will accept his bad behavior.
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check out my video right here.
Number two, he cancels dates.
A man that doesn't see you as a number one priority
or has a lack of interest will cancel dates.
When a man cancels a date, he is basically saying,
I would rather be doing something else than spending time
with you, and once in a blue moon, this behavior is more
or less acceptable because we all have emergencies,
et cetera to contend with.
However, when this becomes a regular thing
and he is not trying to compensate the time he missed
with you by rearranging, then it's definitely
a sure-fire sign that you are down low on his priorities.
In the early stages of dating if this begins to happen,
it is better to let the guy go,
especially if you have been high value from day one,
as he's clearly not that interested.
If it happens when you are already in a relationship,
then you need to set in boundaries,
evaluate your own behavior, and see why this is happening.
If you want to evaluate your behavior
and find out are you a woman of low value or high value,
please check out my video right here.
Number three, he goes months without chatting to you,
then comes back, then leaves again.
Men who treat you like a revolving door
have no respect for you.
They also have a lack of interest.
If he can leave and come back, he is basically letting
the period of time he leaves be open for you to move on
and date someone else, which means he doesn't really care
if someone else takes you.
A guy like this will keep the revolving door open
for as long as he can and will probably have some
or all of the red flags mentioned above on display as well.
Shut the door.
Now, keep it in mind, these signs are not conclusive.
There are many more signs a man is seeing you not
as his queen, but as his bench warmer.
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