like this is coming from a drug addict once an addict always an addict that is
it coming from a drug addict who has a child who's no longer with that person I
don't know the thing but it's like you have a child you're not married to that
mom you have another girlfriend that's what I'm saying and he acts like his is
so perfect and like just looking at him you know he does judgements just by
looking at our videos and just by looking at his videos not his physical
pain just like looking at his videos and looking at him and the way it's like he
looks tired he looks more like he has like he's such an expert so I am no
stranger to Trisha Paytas making videos that should upset some people so in this
video not only do I hope to offer some solutions for dissociaDID from my own
personal experience but I think it's something that we can all learn from
when it comes to maintaining our own mental health when stuff like this is
going on outside of YouTube and in our regular lives what's up everybody this
is Chris from the rewind so where we talk about the problem but focus on the
solution and if you're new to my channel my channel is all about mental health so
if you are like me and you are actively trying to improve your mental health
make sure you subscribe and ring that notification bell and in case you missed
it in case you missed it yesterday I uploaded a video where I interviewed a
world famous psychologist about dealing with anxiety during this uncertain time
all right his name is dr. Judson Brewer I will
link that video up in the info card and in the hint screen go go go check it out
whether you're struggling with anxiety right now or you've struggled with
anxiety for a long time he is an amazing man when it comes to helping people with
their anxiety all right so yeah anyways I just saw that
dissociaDID just uploaded a video this comes after
Trisha Paytas made her switch caught on camera video that was clearly upsetting
I had a lot of people from the community comment on the video I made discussing
it and everything like that but here's a clip of what the dissociaDID have to
say about new always being creative people saying that you know ain't ever
gonna tell anyone else about their di D the other thing is we were one of the
systems who had a new split because of this stuff we had a lot of flashbacks
from watching the Anthony video which obviously was extremely aggressive there
was a lot written in behavioral or lunging at the cameras wearing directed
particularly at us and our enemy so yeah why why am I making this video okay so
this is something that I've personally been through during the time which was a
pay this made her video about me I had a lot of people from her audience come
over and you know start leaving nasty comments over on my channel I really
hope this isn't happening happening to dissociate did or anybody else who is
talking about this right now because Trisha Paytas has been around for a long
time she's a very large audience and with that comes a lot of loyalty so I
feel like you know as somebody who's been through some of this like I want to
offer you notice oh she did if she ever watches this but also I think it's
important like I make videos for all of you okay all of you watching this and
we're gonna have people in our lives whether it's friends family members
co-workers whoever it is who are going to disrupt our mental and emotional
well-being alright so yeah so obviously you know Trisha Paytas is going to make
these videos and she's not going to stop this is clearly a pattern of behaviour
anybody who's been watching over the years and like as many of you saw from
my last video like that last video it just it really it really bummed me out
right because the intention behind her video
was it was it was just awful okay and something that I've had to learn
through my own experience all over the place is while we cannot control the
actions of other people we can control how we react and respond to them right
like the only reason I'm sitting here with seven and a half years sober after
all the stuff I've been through in the last seven and a half years is because
I've learned to let that kind of stuff roll off of my shoulders all right and
although Tricia said this in her last video about Anthony Padilla you're on
YouTube guess what people are entitled to say whatever they want about your
video it's called freedom of speech you put something another get ready to be
criticized baby all I said was like yeah like watching that I could be like oh
that girl seems crazy you you watched my video and you were you made an
assumption saying I'm mocking people with disassociate if I didn't disorder
what she also has a pattern of behavior where she doesn't respond well to people
replying to that so something that I hope everybody learns out there anybody
watching this is when things like this are happening like dissociated did you
know obviously like she was talking about how she's been dealing with this
and it's you know kind of messed her up internally and everything like that what
we need to do is recognize what's going on within us and take care of ourselves
in whatever way that we can and it's not us it's them all right like something I
always think of something that I just never forget is when I was working at
the rehab center um there was a kid and I I'd only had him in like one of my
groups like maybe once or whatever and I was waiting in the front lobby and I
just hear someone cussing and screaming down the hallway and I'm just I'm just
sitting there away the effort I was waiting for somebody and I just hear
somebody saying f you f your mom after this
that and I just hear some thump though and this kid gets right up in my face
and says and fu - and he storms out jumps over the front gate leaves rehab
right and and yeah like it it didn't affect me too much because I knew that
it wasn't me right I happen to be the target but it wasn't me all right I knew
he was going through something and actually and this is something that's
helped me be a little bit more empathetic is he came back to treatment
after a day or two and he apologized to me and he told me he was going through a
lot of stuff he was afraid to leave treatment he didn't have much to go back
home to and all of that right now I want to make it very clear although it you
know it seems and obviously I don't know Trisha Paytas it seems as though she's
not working on herself or going to therapy or anything like that it is not
an excuse for the behavior okay none of it's an excuse like I for a long
time I leaned on my addiction and my mental health you know or mental illness
rather as an excuse to be a jerk to people lashing out on my friends or my
family members just being an overall garbage person and this has helped me
kind of develop empathy as well like I wanted to blame everybody else right and
when I got sober I was like oh you know I was pointing the fingers like maybe if
my mom was an alcoholic and she raised me right and all you did to all these
other things then you know then I would have have all these issues you know what
I mean but then I had to look at myself in the mirror and realize like I'm an
adult like I gotta take care of this like
nobody's coming to save me I have to actively participate in my mental health
recovery right so for me I started out with 12-step programs obviously but
since then it comes in the form of meditation and journaling talking to a
support group therapy alright if you are somebody who is struggling with like
emotional issues anger issues whatever it is like therapy okay and in scenarios
like this like I I I've seen dissociated did talk about how you know
she gets all the help and everything like that but for all of us who have
friends and family members in our lives who you know trigger us if you will or
upset us again we cannot control what they do all we can control is how we
respond to this situation and one way to respond is getting help right is
actively working on our mental health you see what I mean it builds up this
sort of resilience but finally and kind of lastly is like I'm I'm not special
I'm not any better than anybody else but over the years I've built up this kind
of resilience and responding the Trisha Paytas like I'm glad to so she did said
she's kind of done with this situation is that Trisha Paytas will chase those
views chase that story and everything like that so hopefully you know that's
not a response again the reason I'm making this video is because I've been
through it in the past I've responded to it looking back I probably could have
got a little bit better but I remembered associated ed saying in our tweet like
at a certain point sometimes we are getting upset for our community or our
friends or whoever it is you know what I mean so for anybody else out there
if the associate did does not or decides not to make any more videos on this like
Trisha Paytas will run with this thing until it kind of dies out right until
she's not giving the views or not getting the attention on it and
everything like that so if you're somebody who struggles with your mental
health and this is upsetting with you for to you cut it off right like you can
click on YouTube like I do not want to see these videos or anything like that I
got plenty plenty of people on the YouTube platform where I'm just like I
don't want to watch this stuff it upsets me and that's where it comes to us being
very mindful of our own mental and emotional well-being when it comes to
the actual people in our lives like people lose it on me they absolutely
lose it what I'm like sometimes you got to cut them out like sometimes you have
to cut people out of your lives like if they are regularly and frequently
upsetting you like no joke when I was about a year year and a half
my mama and my relationship was still really on the rocks and I said listen I
love you but right now like I can't maintain a relationship with you I said
I need to work on myself right before we can continue this relationship and now
she's one of my best friends and we have a phenomenal relationship but it took me
working through some stuff and one was realizing you either accept it change it
or eliminate it right couldn't change it eliminating my mom out of my life a
hundred percent difficult but possible but I worked on accepting it and I
realized this is who she is she's you know 50 years old she's not changing now
and I think that's a good thing to think about with Trisha Paytas like do any of
us really think that a video or a response or Trisha Paytas getting hatred
on a video is going to change her nah all right so we we either accept it or
we eliminate it right we accept that she's gonna do what she's gonna do she's
not going to actively participate in her mental health in her recovery right or
we eliminate it we just stop watching we don't pay attention and when people are
talking about on social media we don't pay attention to videos like this like
the one I'm making right now you know what I mean
but anyway it's like I would love to hear from some of you in the comment
section about setting those boundaries like who have you had to set a boundary
with because they were regularly upsetting you all right I would love to
have a conversation about that down in the comments below okay anyways that's
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