everyday we communicate with people around, with family, friends, colleagues and lots
of other people l now Imagine if all these people instantly
like you, they just love to spend time with you, they just want you to be with them always.
if you are not there, they are going to feel that they are missing someone special, someone
they just love and thats exactly what this book is about,
it gives you a practical way to be that person that everyone wants to be with.
applying this method will help you to get that promotion that you have been craving
for a long time, or close a business deal that might change your life or get the person
that you want the most to like you.
In this video I will cover only a chapter from this book and the rest I will cover in
the next videos, so be sure to subscribe .
Lets get started.
The most important lesson out of this book is, Make the other person feel important.
now I want you to imagine that you are walking in the street and a stranger comes to you
and tells you,
I saw you the other day playing soccer in the field and you were amazing.
I have never seen anyone playing like that before, you must be talented.
how are you going to feel when hear that?
i can guarantee you that you will be super happy, whatever problem that was in your mind,
you will forget it and feel awesome and if that guy comes and asks you for a favour next
time, you are going to help him.
you know why? because he made you feel important. he made you feel special
as simple as it sounds yet most of us do not apply.
we humans are craving for feelings of importance.
someone gets a promotion, or buys a new car, he will brag about it so that people recognise
him and give him some good compliment so that he feels important,
just open your Instagram or Facebook, and you will find everyone sharing photos of themselves
going to places such as expensive restaurants, drinking starbucks coffees, so that people
see that, like that and leave a compliment because that will give them the feeling of
importance
nothing wrong about this.
because we humans are designed in such a way.
the desire to be important is the deepest urge in human nature.
we are craving to be appreciated.
and sometimes if we help someone and they don’t thank us, we might say: what an asshole,
i helped him and he did not even say thank you.
and I am going to share with you 3 practical ways on how you can make anyone feel important
- lets say fall in love with you.
The first one is, Be interested in others!
“Did you ever stop to think that a dog is the only animal that doesn’t have to work
for a living?
”
“A hen has to lay eggs, a cow has to give milk, and a canary has to sing.
But a dog makes his living by giving you nothing but love.”
all what you need to make someone to like you is to be interested in them.
everyone is craving for attention, for the same reason that they are sharing their good
pictures on social media.
and thats why Dale Carnegie says that: “You can make more friends in two months by becoming
interested in other people than you can in two years by trying to get other people interested
in you.”
You have to accept the fact that, People are not interested in you, the only one that they
are interested in, is themselves.
take this example, you like playing soccer, but this guy likes playing basketball, what
do you think this guy would most be interested in to play?
what a lot of people try to do in this situation is to show why soccer is a lot more better
than basketball and then try to prove their point.
when its much easier to just walk in and show that you are also interested in basketball
to make that person to like you and want to be with you.
After you take a group picture together with everyone else, friends or colleagues, whoever,
who's picture do you try to see first.
Yours of course
if we try to impress people, we will not make a lot of friends, not many people will like
us because not many people will be interested in us, but if we try to be interested in other
people, then everyone will like us because thats the need that every human being has.
Secondly, be a good listener
have you realised that a lot of times we just want someone to listen to us.
lets say you went to a trip to Africa and you saw some wonderful animals there that
you cant find anywhere except there, you want to share that with someone, you want to tell
to someone what you have experienced.
at the same time when we go through problems, when we are depressed and sad and we just
want to speak out.
we want someone to listen to us and tell us that everything will be alright.
someone we feel comfortable to talk to because he will not interrupt us and listen to us
with full attention.
Imagine if you will be that person with whom people want to share their feelings when they
are happy and their problems when you are sad.
Thats how you make people to like you.
Pay attention when they are talking, Ask questions that other persons will enjoy answering.
Encourage them to talk about themselves and their accomplishments.
Remember that the people you are talking to are a hundred times more interested in themselves
and their wants and problems than they are in you and your problems.
And The last one is, Remember the names:
A simple way to make anyone understand that you respect them and accept them as who they
are is to simply remember their name.
We often take names not very seriously, and we give excuses such as
oh, I am terrible at names or I have a bad memory.
yes this excuse might justify your action but you are missing a big opportunity to make
that person to think that you value him and respect him, because Person’s name to that
person is the sweetest and most important sound in any language.
We feel more valued and respected when someone remembers our name.
We feel more engaged in a conversation when someone uses our name.
Don't you see that people put their name on businesses, building, libraries thats because
ultimate way to make yourself to feel important.
so when you come there and don't even remember someone’s name, thats offending.
So take some time to remember someones name, if you cant get it from the first time, simply
ask them again.
it might not look very nice but that really shows that you are interested in knowing their
names.
here you go, this is how you make anyone to like you and they work in 99% percent of the
cases if you do it sincerely from your heart.
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