Do this one thing, and get everything else wrong and you're still.
Going to get the respect that you want and deserve at work.
If you want to be respected, no matter what at work, you need to...
Hello and welcome back to my channel, where I help you slay your career
and cultivate the successful life you deserve. Buckle up for today,
because this is not going to be your typical video on how to get respect at
work. If you want the generic canned, 'Oh, respect other people,
and they're going to respect you,'. go elsewhere.
Because all of that information is designed for the Corporate Chad.
Those rules don't apply when you're not Chad.
Today's video is for all of the non-Chads in the world on how to gain respect at
work - for reals. The hard truths that you maybe don't want to hear,
but really NEED to hear in order to earn more respect at work.
I highly recommend that you get a coffee, maybe even a notebook for this one.
And if you're ready to learn how to gain respect at work,
tap the like button and let's get into it.
The first thing that we need to talk about is,
let's just talk about that elephant in the room. Shall we?
The first thing that you need to do to gain respect at work is to make sure
that you are somewhere, that you actually can be respected. Nope,
not going to sugarcoat this one and tell you that it's all about mindset,
and doing the right things and blah, blah, blah, blah, blah. No,
sometimes you're just in a toxic, hostile workplace. And the only answer
is for you to actually get out of there.
You need to figure out if the company that you're
at is one of those toxic workplaces where it's not going to be possible for you
or people like you to get respect. Whether you're a woman,
you're a black indigenous person of color. You pray to a different,
God love someone that makes them uncomfortable, whatever it is,
the reason for the discrimination,time for you to move on.
What I don't want you to do is continue and implement all of the tips that I'm
about to share when it's really bashing your head against a wall.
Because getting respect where you're at is not possible in the first place.
I know this is a hard question to ask.
I have a video that can help you answer if it's a toxic workplace where it's
just not going to happen. I.
think you probably in your gut already know the answer,
but you can also look around to see
if there is a pattern or get help from a friend,
family member or a career coach like myself,
to help you figure out if it's a place. And if you change your setting,
if that's going to be the fix for the problem.
And I don't mean to like plug myself here. I just, honestly,
I really want to help you out. Oh, if your company is not a hostile workplace,
it's somewhere where, you know, you can gain respect.
I want you to move into the next step,
which is to figure out what you want people to respect about you.
Okay? Maybe this is a little bit pessimistic,
but I want you to think about it this way.
Have you ever met someone that you didn't really necessarily like,
but you had a heck of a lot of respect for them, no matter what. And it's like,
yeah, I don't like this person, but I really respect this about them.
Like what's the, this for you? Does that make any sense at all?
I hope it does. Also. I really want you to disconnect likability from respect.
There are two different things. And this is one of the
double binds that a lot of women at work experience because they're
likability is something that is scrutinized.
And it seems to be unfairly tied with when you actually
know what you want to be respected for.
It's going to allow you to intentionally cultivate it.
And it's going to bring us into the next ti.
To gain respect at work. And this one quite honestly, is like a bypass,
do this one thing and get everything else wrong.
And you're still going to get the respect that you want and deserve at work.
If you want to be respected, no matter what at work,
you need to build your authority.
There's two types of authority that you can have at work.
There's hierarchial authority where like you're the boss or you're the
supervisor.
So you're given authority over other people or there's authority because you're
an expert.
You are the person that people are going to turn to when they need a solution
answers, advice on a particular thing. Now,
the latter where your authority is through expertise can
be done at any level. At any stage in your career,
you don't have to be like super duper
expert status in order for this to work for you.
And the cool thing about this is when
you're actually bypassing the whole hierarchial thing,
it's actually staging you to be a leader at work,
which is if you're someone who is trying to grow their career,
where you really want to be. If this is a topic that you do want to dive into,
I have a video that I. would love for you to check out after this one.
Then I'm going to link in the comments down below,
and you can see how authority and knowing what you want to be respected for
really go hand in hand because in more cases than not,
they really converge and end up being the same thing.
And when you double down and you know what you want to be respected for what you
want to be an authority in and really what you want to stand out for,
it makes it a lot easier for you to implement the next tip,
to gain respect at work.
And that is to stop saying yes to everything. First of all,
saying yes to everything from taking notes.
In a meeting to, to taking on a whole slew of extra tasks at the last minute,
because your lazy coworker completely dropped the ball.
Isn't the things that get you ahead of work.
The hard truth is these are the things that make people think of you as a
doormat. And despite the fact that some of them are ridiculously cute,
we don't generally respect doormats, do we?
Remember that every time that you say yes to something else you're vital
defacto saying no to other things,
and often what you're saying no to what are the
things that are actually really important that build your authority at are the
things that are going to help you build respect at work.
If you were interested in a video on
how to say no at work without having people hit you for it,
let me know in the comments down below.
The next tip that I have for you to gain respect at work is really,
it's a little bit of a bigger one.
So this might take a couple minutes for me to explain,
but really it comes down to presence. You know,
the fake it till you make a crowd?
This is probably what they're actually talking about.
When you have a presence that is commanding,
people are going to be more likely to listen to you and to respect you at work,
I can make a whole video on this,
but let me give you a couple of tips and hacks that you can implement today as
immediate respect, boosters at work, first things, first posture,
and it's not just good for, you know, your back and stuff like that.
It's actually the way that people perceive you make sure
that you are sitting up straight when you're sitting in a chair or you're
standing up straight.
Whichever when you're doing hold her head high and shoulders are back with this
as well.
And this is something that men are really good at. You know,
the manspreading thing can.
You can do it, the femspread thing. All right. So take as much space as you can.
One of the things that a lot of women and to do is we just,
we tend to physically minimize ourselves,
which kind of psychologically minimizes us to other people as well.
Even right now, if you could see like below where the camera's hitting,
I'm sitting with my legs crossed, however,
doing things like holding our hands out, you know,
putting your notebook all over the place like so many dudes tend to do.
And even when you're meeting on a zoom, taking up this space is a power stance.
Another easy one that you can do if you're not doing already is to maintain eye
contact. I know a lot of us are working remotely right now,
and really eye contact is actually with the camera.
So you're not staring down at your screen at the person.
Do you maintain eye contact with a lens as much as possible?
Because on the other side of that, that is how they are perceiving eye contact.
I know there's a lot of books and research about different vocal tactics.
I'm one of the things, especially if you're a woman,
you are going to hear a lot about things
like not using uptalk and vocal fry and things like that.
And I totally, I get it. I do get it, honestly, I do.
But I also speak like a Valley girl. I honestly believe that is
scrutinizing the way that women speak and using it as an excuse for them to not
be heard is actually just making them uncomfortable for other people's comfort.
But no matter what vocal tactics you're using, the most important thing,
I don't, the way that you speak is that you speak with confidence.
And this brings me directly into my next tip, which is to actually write.
Build your own self confidence.
This is the most crucial thing across your career. Not only in gaining respect,
but in getting opportunities, establishing effective relationships.
This shows up in so many ways,
the biggest investment and the highest ROI that you will
make in yourself is building your own confidence.
I do have a couple of books that I've linked down below that I think are really,
really helpful in helping you learn how to
boost your own self confidence and self worth.
I also do have some videos planned on this exact topic.
So if this is something that you have been paying attention to,
I would love for you to
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And that brings me into the final tip before the bonus tip,
at least on how to gain respect at work.
And that is to actually ask for help.
One of the biggest mistakes that I see ambitious professionals.
Make is that they think that they have to do it all on their own.
They have to have all of the answers that they can't get help from anyone else
when really the most successful people have a team of mentors and
advisors and people that are helping them out.
If you take just one thing away from this video,
I want it to be this success is not solitary.
You don't have to do this on your own. And in fact,
having a support system is going to be what truly accelerates our career.
And this is something that I would be honored to help you with.
I would love to be your mentor, not just here on YouTube, but beyond.
One of the ways I'm doing that is I'm creating a brand new workshop on how to
Glow Up Your Career.
If that is something that was interesting to you,
I would love for you to check it out.
The link is going to be in the comments down below.
The greatest thing about when you're asking for help is it's also allowing you
to pay it forward. You're showing someone that you respect their opinions,
their thoughts, and their expertise. W. hen you actually ask for help,
not only is that going to help them know how much you respect them,
but it's also going to help you establish more effective relationship with them.
And that brings me into my bonus tip for you.
If you're trying to grow the amount of respect that you get to work,
one of the fastest ways to do that is to start stepping
into the leadership role. And I mentioned this earlier,
so I want you to go and check out this video right now so that you are staging
yourself as a leader at work. If this video was helpful,
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Bye for now.