Hey Tripp Kramer here from www.trippadvice.com. On today's video, we're talking about splitting the
bill. Yes, that's right. This has probably come up for you many times when you've been on dates.
You're sitting there, the bill comes, should you pay for it? Should you not pay for it? Should you
split it? What should you do? Just to cut to the chase here,
I believe that when a bill comes for the first couple of dates, you should be the one who is
covering the bill. And I have a few reasons why. Let's go into those right now. Number one,
you should be covering the bill because it is a good habit to get into. Whether or not you are
dating, whether or not you are at some sort of networking or business meeting, or maybe you're
just with friends, it's always going to be better for you to cover the bill. And the reason why is
from a funny little thing called reciprocity. From Robert Cialdini's book called Influence,
he talks about the power of reciprocity. It's when you give without expecting anything in return,
people are going to want to reciprocate. They're going to want to give value back in some way.
And you're going to build a nice relationship. You want to be in the habit of covering the bill. I
know it's not going to happen every single time. Some of your friends or whatever people are going
to force themselves like, "no, let's split it, let's split it." But do your best to try
to get into the habit of covering bills because it's going to be better for that relationship.
And I don't want you to do this because you're trying to get something out of it. That's kind of
like this bonus. But it's just a good thing to do in the long run. It's going to put you in a great
position and better things are going to happen to you and hopefully, you're just doing good to do
good. But understand that this is the same thing when it comes to dates. When you're the one who
is paying for the bill, she's going to see that and she's going to go, "wow, that is a cool move"
and it's going to make you look more attractive. But let's dive a little bit deeper into that in
reason number two. Reason number two why you want to make sure that you're not splitting the bill
is because it is inherently a masculine trait. That's right. You being assertive and covering
the bill and taking control is a masculine trait. And if you want to have the most chances of being
your most attractive self, you want to display a lot of masculine qualities and this is going to
display a masculine quality. You saying, "hey, I got it." Kind of like provider protector. You are
the one who's saying, "I got this. Let me take care of it." And that in itself is attractive.
Now I know this is where it gets a little funky and that's why this is such a controversial topic.
Because there are women out there who they'll take advantage of this. They will try to go out and
know that guys will pay for the bill so they'll try to get free dinners and all that stuff. And
listen, I'm not gonna lie. That's gonna happen to you from time to time. You may not know it. Maybe
the girl is completely using you for a dinner. But either way, I believe that is not the rule,
that's the exception. Once in a while that's going to happen. But most of the time you are
on dates and women are on dates because they want to be with you. You taking care of the bill is not
going to be her sitting and going, "nice, another free dinner." It's going to be her being like,
"that's a pretty cool move that that guy did this." And very slim it's going to be because
the girl is trying to be some sort of gold digger. But that's some of the casualties of war. That's
going to happen when you are in this dating game. I will say this, if there comes a time when you're
with a girl and you're on a date and you're like, "wow, I don't want to see this girl again.
She's a terrible person. I'm not attracted to her at all. I thought I was going to be. I want
to split this bill. There's no way I'm going to pay for this girl. This is going to come back
to reason number one where I said you want to get into the habit of just doing it. It's the bigger
move. It's going to make you still feel better in the long run that you did it even though you're
going to be killing yourself over the fact where you're like, "I really didn't want to pay for that
person." But still, it's the bigger move and it's getting into that habit of covering that and not
being a cheap person. It's saying, "I'm going to go into these first few dates with the women that
I meet and no matter what happens I'm going to cover it because I'm the one who asked anyways,
I asked her on a date, I'm the one who created the date, I'm the one who picked the place."
It also makes sense that you cover the bill. I know there's gonna be a lot of people are
going to comment and go. That's simping, that's simping. Women are fighting for equality and if
they want to fight for equality, then they should be splitting the bill too. That's fine. You can
go down that road, but I'm telling you in the long run, it's not going to do anything for you.
It's not going to make the relationship better. It's not going to make you appear more attractive.
It's not going to work because we're talking about getting down to the more biological reasons why
men and women become attracted to each other. And like I said, repeating myself here, you being the
one to cover the bill and not split it is tapping into that masculine trait that you're taking care
of it. I urge you, no matter what, just take care of the bill. And let me tell you something...
and this is why I also urge not to do dinner dates for a first date. If you're worried about, this
is going to cost me an arm and a leg and I'm going to be going on all these dinner dates and covering
all these bills this is going to be insane. Don't go on dinner dates for a first date. Make it
easier, do a coffee date, do a drink date so then it doesn't cost you as much and then you can go on
more. Still cover those. But then you're going to know that if you go on a second date with her, by
that time, you definitely are interested in her. You're going to know that you're not wasting your
time, most likely on that second date paying for that. And then hopefully after the second date,
she decides to say hey no, really, let me take this one. And then you let her and then you can
split some bills down the line. And you can go back and forth, back and forth. I'm not saying
the cover the bill forever. But just for the first two do not split. It's going to help you
so much more in the long run. I also want to help you out on these dates. What I want you to do is
I want you to check out a free video that I have for you that talks about topics of conversation
that women love so you can have fun conversation and you can get to the point where you're having
a good time and she's having a good time and it's easier to continue conversation
when you're on these dates. It's called Chick Crack. I'll put a link down below, it's 100%
free. And you'll hop on my email list where every week I send out tips and tricks and techniques
for being able to meet and attract women, similar to what we're talking about today.
Check that out. It's down in the description below. I know you have comments, hit me with
them. Write your comment down below. Tell me what you think. And I'll see you on the next video.