My name is Youlan and I’m 16 years old
I come from Sichuan and now live in Fuzhou now
I’m an ordinary high school girl who is also a sex educator
We’re now curating the first exhibition about sex in Fuzhou
Since childhood
I had been keeping myself away from topics related to sex
When I was in the second year of junior high
The Bao Yuming Case madly spread online
A friend of mine suddenly told me
One of her boy classmates
He often did a such gesture
In front of girls
And he touched her all of a sudden and followed her after school
The teachers and her parents all thought the boy was just too naughty
And she didn’t know what to do at all
Since then
I started to pay attention to topics related to sexual violence
I have been a member of the think tank of TouchSpace (a renowned NGO of sexual education in China)
A member of the think tank of MAYLOVE
And I was the only post-05 member
Later I found my own team TOUGHYOUTH
Now the team has 19 members, and the majority are high school students
Our core mission is peer sexual education
Our target audience are high school students
We answer questions about sex and gender, and we spread related knowledge
The most data or documents we cite are from thesis
Over the past 5 years
Most teenagers tend to open their heart to peers
They said, “I never dared to say these words to anyone”
We began to organize the class meeting in March
We did a survey about what sexual knowledge they wanted to know about
And we presented the answers offline to more people
They expressed the curiosity and concerns about having sex
And also the shame of having sexual desire and masturbating
Girls tended to feel more ashamed of and anxious about their sexual impulse
They thought girls who had sexual impulse were lascivious
A boy came to ask me
Would masturbation disfigure his face
How could he cut out masturbation
When the first slide was shown
All the class were whispering
Then when they realized I was not joking at all
They gradually became quite
Later some classmates told me their problems
A lot of girls encouraged me that I did a good job
I think an important point of sexual education is that
It makes us know we should respect others and ourselves
And we have the ability to refuse and to choose
One friend of mine has a male teacher
Who often sends messages to girl students
Asking them to send private pictures to him
Boy students in the same class think the teacher is only joking
Most of their sexual knowledge comes from erotica and porn
Which results in their flirtatious attitude towards sex
Now the average age of high school students’ first sexual intercourse is 15.9
Nowadays there’s a lack of scientific knowledge about sex
That may affect teenagers in a serious way
In China, HIV-infected teenagers increased by 35%
Over the past years
We did some surveys on campus
And over 90% of our peers agreed
That it’s necessary to give sexual education to high school students on campus
During our school’s celebration on May 4th
We prepared some questionnaires of sexual knowledge
Out of 125
The total marks of three boys didn’t reach 60
Later I posted these activities on social media
I got lots of reposts and comments
So much encouragement
Now we have received 480,000 answers of the questionnaire
My classmates told me his or her mom reposted it on the social media
Or his or her teacher was doing it
It’s totally beyond our imagination
My parents have been firmly supporting me
And I can casually speak of sex-related topics with them
In some extent
I think it facilitates the communication between our two generations
And we can face the inclusive world
With an open and tolerant attitude
It was actually quite hard during the process
We encountered the final-exam week
And the students needed to take extracurricular classes during the summer vacation
We did lots of interaction installations
We hope everyone can express their ideas about sex education
And explore how to make sex education become within the reach of all
We wish peer sex education should achieve the aim of
Love, equality and freedom