Drew: Hi Fitlifers, Drew Canole, it's another mindset Monday; remember we're in this together.
I'm here with Robyn Firtel, close friend and psychologist, right?
She's going to talk to us today about belief patterns, things that people build up in their
head, whether be on their childhood or working through it and she's going to give you a tangible
tool that you can use right here right now to really push forward with your new goals
for this year, in 2013.
So Robyn thank you so much.
Thank you for being with us today..
Robyn: Thank you for having me..
Yes..
Drew: You were telling us earlier, Mae, Crystal and Sherkey about belief patterns, can you
elaborate on that a little bit?
Robyn: Well, a lot of times, when people have belief systems from their childhood.
If they've been criticized, or ignored, or neglected, or they haven't been given with
the attention that they need, it gets in the way of taking care of your body, taking care
of your health.
So, I think the best thing to do is sit a quiet time and think about this unconscious
belief systems like 'I'm not going to make it' or 'I'm a failure' or 'I'm not worth anything',
and then take those and reprogram them and tie yourself from parenting perspective 'I
can do this', 'I'm worth it' and those will translate into health.
Drew: So do you have, like a system that you help your clients with or..?
Robyn: Yeah, I have them write down belief systems that their mom and dad, or dad told
them.
Even things that are verbal and nonverbal because some things we pick up form our parents
that we're not even aware of, like if you hear your dad saying all the time, like I
hear my dad all these time saying that he's not going to make it, he's going to fail.
So, then you have to think, are those the things that I'm telling myself and then you
re-, you re-, you can just sit in quiet time every single day and affirm to yourself, 'I
can do this', 'I am well', 'I'm worth it'.
So, you cannot reprogram those unconscious belief systems that you grew up with.
Drew: So a lot of people that hear you know, you should look into the mirror and tell yourself
that you love yourself and all these, and like 'Nah that would never work for me', what
would you tell somebody like that?
Robyn: Well, if you have a child that helps because, but you would tell your child as
the same way that you should be talking to yourself.
So if your child came to you and said, 'I don't want to do this anymore', 'I don't want
to disappoint', 'I want to eat candy all day', you would say to your child, 'Honey the best
thing for your body is to eat fruits and vegetables and then maybe have candy once in a while.'
So, if you have a child, or you know a child, everybody has a niece, or a nephew, or a cousin,
you cannot start talking to yourself the way you would a child.
As the day goes on versus sitting in front of the mirror saying 'I'm okay', 'I'm worth
it', that doesn't work, it has to be in the moment of the situation.
Drew: So, what do you do to help yourself with this positive self talk and the affirmations
that you speak of?
Robyn: Well, I had a lot of negative talk then to me as a child.
So I always have the belief that I was worth less than other people.
And so I know that I have a spirit and soul and an energy and that nobody can take that
away from me.
I am worth the same, there's nobody better than me, see there's nobody better than you.
No gurus, everybody has our dealing, their dealing with the same.
So, as long as I see myself as the same, I have more to contribute to the world and I
have more to contribute to others and myself.
Drew: Yeah, where can people find you in San Diego?
Robyn: You can find me, I'm Robyn Firtel...
Drew: You got a link, you got a website?
Robyn: Yeah I've got Facebook page, I don't have a website quite yet.
Drew: Alright, thanks for watching us, if you got anything [inaudible], and leave a
comment, let us know what you're dealing with; we'll get Robyn to be a little interactive
with you guys as well, and we'll help you through this, whatever your issue is, whatever
you're dealing with just know that there's other people, the best majority of the human
population has gone through so much situations.
So you're not alone in this, we just want to let you know that we are in this together.
So, I'm Drew Canole..
Robyn: I'm Robyn Firtel..
Drew: Until next time, we'll see you soon..