What’s up guys, this is Lisa Force and you are watching my latest video where I’m going
to explain three simple things you can do to cause your ex to miss you like mad.
This is obviously ideal if you’re trying to win back that someone special who slipped
away… and as with all of my videos please feel free to comment below and share your
thoughts.
So, to begin with, think about what makes you miss someone or something… it’s when
you become accustomed to something in your life, and then that person or object is suddenly
gone.
For instance, if you became accustomed to having your cell phone in your pocket, and
you used it frequently throughout the day, you’d definitely miss that phone if it was
stolen, right?
It was important to you, and you were accustomed to having it always available, and then the
fact that it’s suddenly gone will cause you to miss that phone and wish you still
had it.
On the other hand, if you were to slowly use your phone less frequently -- say, you slowly
tapered down your usage over a month or two, eventually only using your phone once every
few days -- you’d have a chance to slowly learn how to live without the phone, and it
wouldn’t be nearly as painful as if it were to suddenly disappear without warning.
The same concept applies to people.
If someone close to you… someone you spent time with every day, and shared much of your
life with… vanishes from your life completely, it’s going to be pretty painful, right?
Even though your ex may have been the one to initiate your breakup, this concept can
still be used to your advantage, and by suddenly disappearing from his or her life, you can
really shock your ex into missing you, much like you’d miss that iPhone in your pocket
if it suddenly vanished.
That’s why many breakup experts advocate something called the “no contact” period.
This means that, after your breakup (or as soon as possible after the relationship ends),
you should completely disappear from your ex’s radar screen for a month or so.
This is important, because if you continue to talk with your ex daily and slowly fade
out of their life, then you won’t be giving him or her that “shock” that they need
in order to start missing you like crazy.
You need to go with the “cold turkey” method, not communicating with your ex for
several weeks at the very least, so that they will really feel how important you were to
them.
A lot of people ask me whether this “no contact” approach is right for their situation…
and I understand completely, because it may have been a few weeks or months since the
breakup, you may still live with your ex, and so on… there are lots of “what ifs”.
Unfortunately I’m not going to be able to cover them all in this video, but after this
video head to LisaForce.com/Breakups to watch an in-depth video that breaks down the strages
of winning back your ex, and discusses the ‘no contact’ phase in more detail.
Again, the URL is www.LisaForce.com/Breakups (I’ll also have the link in the description
below this video)
In addition to the “no contact” strategy, you can also make your ex miss you by really
embracing your newfound spare time and living life to the fullest.
After all, your ex is going to expect you to be at home alone, crying about the breakup…
so when he or she sees that you’re out making new friends, doing fun things, going out on
dates, and working hard on improving yourself and building a great life without him or her
around, they’ll start to miss having that fun and ambitious person around.
Your ex will also see this and wonder whether they were wrong to break up with you in the
first place… it will help them let go of some of the negative memories, and allow him
or her to see you in a more positive light.
And finally, you can leverage the power of text messages -- or some other form of casual
messaging, like Facebook or email -- to send your ex subtle reminders of fun times you
shared together.
I’ve got another video on this topic with some sample text messages, so I won’t go
into too much depth, but the goal is to hint at a great memory by weaving into a message
to your ex in a way that it doesn’t appear intentional… for example, you might ask
a question like, “Hey, can you remember where that private beach was that we went
to last summer?
That was so fun!
I want to take a friend there this weekend but can’t remember how to get there.”
So, by asking your ex where the beach was, you’re also forcing him or her to think
back to last summer when the two of you enjoyed a happy, romantic day there together.
You can do this with any happy memory, just make sure you do so in such a way that your
true intentions won’t be obvious.
Combine these three things -- the subtle hints at happy memories via text, the “no contact”
period to shock your ex into realizing what life is like without you, and the fun social
life that your ex won’t expect -- will all combine to make him or her miss you like mad.
If you can make your ex miss you badly enough, it may be enough to force them to come running
back to you asking for another chance.
That’s it for this video, thanks for watching guys… please feel free to leave your comments
and questions in the box below, and visit LisaForce.com/Breakups for the more help on
winnig back your ex.
Talk to you soon!