You may have gotten yourself
into that inevitable position
where your client tells you they're stuck,
that they don't know what to do next.
They don't know what to think next.
They don't know the answer to the question
that you've just asked.
And now they're asking you,
"Hey, can you tell me what I should be doing?
Can you tell me what I should be thinking?"
And this video, I'm gonna give you some very simple steps,
very simple strategies that you can use
to be able to get your client
from a place of feeling stuck and not knowing what to do
to a place where they can actually get to the real answer.
But before I lean into those strategies,
let's understand why does your client feel stuck?
The first reason, and the more common one,
is your client is into a thinking loop.
What's really happening
is that your client has made up a belief
and now they're repeating their belief to themselves.
They are repeating that thinking pattern
again and again and again,
including the thinking pattern,
"I'm stuck, I don't know how to get out of this."
And because of this thinking pattern,
what may happen
is they may feel they don't have access to information,
they don't have access to insight,
they don't have access
to what is really needed by them and for their situation.
And hence, they're thinking similar thoughts
again and again and again, leading them to nowhere.
The second reason is because sometimes the clients believe,
and truly believe, that they are limited in potential.
They have a limited sense of self.
And because of that,
they feel that because they're not smart enough,
they are not wealthy enough,
they are not connected enough, they're not intuitive enough,
they might feel like they have a limited set
of capabilities and limited potential.
And because of that, they feel stuck
in being able to explore an answer
or explore a particular situation
to be able to come to an answer.
So either of these two could be the situation
that your client is at.
What are some of the strategies that you can use,
some of the questions, some of the practices
that will get your client
from a place of feeling stuck to feeling unstuck?
The first strategy
is what I call advice from your highest self.
The reason why I call it advice
from your highest self
is because a lot of the times,
what you would find is your clients are stuck
because they have a way of thinking
and they're just thinking about that situation
from the perspective of them living the situation.
So let's say, for example,
if an executive is stuck in finding a business strategy
or access a business strategy,
they're using the resources they've always used,
the faculties they've always used,
the playbook they've always used to build a strategy.
And so they're accessing that strategy
to get to the same outcome.
And so they're not really finding a new solution;
they feel they're stuck.
It may be same for a relationship challenge,
where if a client is struggling in their life,
in their relationship, more specifically,
they may be approaching the relationship the same way
like they always did.
At the same point of time, all of us,
you, me, and our clients, have access to a lot more insight
than what initially may have been offered to them
or what is something that is their default behavior,
what their default go-to.
And that is where I call that advice from the highest self.
The question that you wanna ask your client,
the invitation that you wanna present to your client
is if you were to contact your mentor,
somebody that you really respect,
what would this person give you as advice right now?
And you make them do this.
You ask them to close their eyes,
you calm their nervous system down.
And then imagine actually speaking to this mentor,
somebody that they trust,
somebody that they know
has great insight around these topics.
And as they will speak to this person,
you'll find most of the time,
they'll come back with a solution.
Now, it may seem metaphysical, but it's not.
What you're really doing
is you are turning down the faculties
where all you're thinking in the same patterns,
you start thinking in different pattern
because you've externalized the situation.
You're not the one giving yourself an advice;
somebody that your respect is giving you an advice.
And so it becomes easier
for you to receive something
that, otherwise, you may feel a little out of the box,
a little uncomfortable, maybe even a little unsafe.
And because you're externalizing
and a third party is giving you this feedback,
what will happen is you'll receive these feedback
a lot more easily.
I call it advice from your highest self
is because this advice actually
is not coming from this person
that you imagine that you're speaking with.
It's coming from your own intuition,
from your own highest self.
You already know the answer.
Sometimes it takes a little bit extra effort,
a little bit of externalization
for us to actually receive it.
Now, let's say you tried this technique
and for whatever reason, nothing was received,
the client did not actually get the answer.
The second technique will absolutely give you the answer.
You see, most of us have a sense of resources
and most of the ideas, most of the perspectives,
most of the solutions
that if we were to ask you a question
will come from the perspective that you hold of the world.
A lot of times, that perspective is limited
by our understanding of the world.
If we were to take away those boundaries,
if we were to take away
all those limited sense of resources,
what will happen is you will be able to lean
into the infinite potential
and infinite possibility that truly is possible for you.
So the second question or the second strategy
to play with your client is to ask them,
"If you had unlimited resources, unlimited time,
there was nothing really that was limiting you
and your potential or capabilities or people around you,
what would you do then?"
This question is to frame unlimitedness of the universe,
unlimitedness of what is available,
unlimitedness of what's possible in somebody's life.
And when somebody asks a question from that perspective,
if somebody asks that question from that playbook
and that understanding of the world, suddenly you go,
"Oh, I don't have to think
I have a limited amount of money
to be able to deal with this problem
or a limited amount of time
to be able to spend with my wife or invest with my wife,
limited amount of resources to get healthier."
You can actually turn their perspective
from thinking things are limited to things are unlimited
and when they approach the world
from the limitlessness that they actually can experience,
they find solutions a lot more easily.
Now, that may mean that some of those solutions
are two months out, three months out,
because that limitlessness actually needs
to appear in their life
and they need to find proven evidence for it.
But it allows them to at least lean into a place
where they can find more effective,
more congruent, and more easy to discover solutions.
Now, these are question strategies.
You can create these contexts and frameworks,
and this will allow your client to really lean
into different possibilities
and find the answers for themselves.
At the same point of time,
what may happen sometimes is that your client
has such a great limited sense of self
that they're not able to lean into a perspective
or agree or accept the perspective
that their highest self gave them,
or they're able to agree
and understand the limitlessness of universe
and this is where you need to make it more real for them.
What you want to do
is you want to take a small action step
that they can take to find the solution.
So don't lean into saying, "Okay, let's find the solution.
Let's find the answer."
Instead of that, say, "What can we do?
A small step, something that you can do immediately,
or soon enough for you to start discovering
what may be the solution in your situation."
So decide to take a small action
that can help them experience the change
that may lead to further action,
that may lead to further experience
that may lead to further action,
that may lead to further experience,
that may lead to further action.
So what you're really doing is,
for individuals that have such a limited sense of self
that they just can't imagine a world
where everything is limitless,
is you are leaning them into action
and having them experience
that there could be different answers
than what they had initially imagined.
This is where you're asking for a small, baby step,
a small action that may move them
towards the outcome or the goal
or the understanding of the outcome of the goal
that they wish to achieve in their lives.
Say for example, if somebody says,
"Hey, I can't find a way to lose weight."
You can invite them as a health coach or as a life coach
to say, 'Hey, what if you started doing a 12-hour fast?
Would that be open to you?
Let's start with eight hour fast,"
or something to that tune
where you're inviting them into a shorter fast
and then extending it to a little bit more
and then a little bit more
and a little bit more and a little bit more.
Making them comfortable with intermittent fasting,
if that is a strategy that you think will work for them.
So get them to take some action.
So their sense of limitedness of saying,
"I can't lose weight,"
or, "I cannot not eat for 12 hours or 16 hours."
Now you're getting them to look at the world
a little bit differently
and as the experience, the change that one experience,
especially when they're fasting
after the first five days of intermittent fasting,
once you actually get to see how your body responds better
and then, of course, this is person to person,
I'm not saying this is global advice,
but at the same point of time,
usually, you'll find within the first
four or five days of struggle,
after that, it actually is so much better
that you feel because you fasted.
The first four, five days,
you might still be fighting your programming,
but once you've seen some experience of outcome,
it becomes much easier for you to continue taking action.
And that's just one of the examples
that you can utilize
to get your client from moving from stuckness of saying,
"I don't know what to do,"
to suggesting a very small action to get them to experience,
which will get them out of that loop.
And once they're out of the loop,
now we can go back to those questions.
Now, the last strategy that I have for you
is a little bit out there.
It may or may not always work,
but if somebody is more spiritual
or somebody is more open to intuitiveness
and open to universe or God or however you want to call it,
this idea is incredibly powerful.
You see, when we set an intention to find a solution,
it tends to be easier for us to actually find it.
This is where we are going to test a group of ideas
to see if intuition will just guide us to the solution.
A group of ideas that I wanna suggest
is anywhere where your mind slows down,
where it slows down and is not responding
to all the feedback that it's getting from the world.
So it slows down for a hot minute
and really focuses on what the problem is.
This could happen when you take a long shower.
This could happen when you take an intentional walk.
This could happen when you're just about to go to bed
and while you're sleeping.
All of these different circumstances,
what tends to happen
is because you're so focused and so calm,
you tend to slow down your brainwaves
and you tend to slow down the feedback
that you're getting from the world.
And because of that,
ideas are revealed to you much more easily
and much more powerfully.
So what you wanna do is you want to invite your client
to take the next 24, 48 or a week
of just intentional time away.
Now, most of the time, they don't need a whole week.
In the next 24 hours, they will feel unstuck
if they actually do the intentional slowdown off their life.
Here are some of the ways they could do it.
They could set up an hour of intentional walk
where they would simply walk with not too much distraction,
go to a place which is quiet,
does not have a lot of traffic coming in,
maybe like a green belt or something
where they just get to walk for a little bit
without putting on some really hat or bag,
or have a pocket,
just quiet time where they're just walking
with the intention that by the end of that hour,
they would've found their solution, right.
With that intention alone,
most of the people will find the solution within that hour.
Another way of doing it
is to think about that by the time you wake up next morning,
you would've found solution to your problem
and then go to bed just thinking that.
Not actually thinking about the solution,
just thinking that tomorrow morning when I wake up,
I will know the answer to this problem.
A lot of the times when our brain is slowed down,
when we are dreaming, we are also connecting new neurons
and new ideas together.
And hopefully next morning when you wake up,
you might have the solution to the problem
that you've been thinking about
when you take the shower that day.
Now, getting your clients unstuck is just the first step
because the next step is to get them
into such great results
that they rave about you day after day, every single day.
And for such results, I have the next video
where you'll learn a methodology
that upscale your results even more.
See you there.