Hello and welcome back to Myths of Ace! ...which is very hard to say.
For those of
you who haven't been around for long enough to know what Myths of Ace is, I
will leave a link in the description to a playlist of the other two videos I've
done in this series, which were quite close to what I started doing YouTube.
But basically, what Myths of Ace is is me trying to debunk misconceptions about
asexuality. And what I do is, in each episode, I have a main misconception
which I'm going to talk about and then two smaller misconceptions which are
easier to explain away. So without further ado, let's get started!
So my first misconception of the day is that asexuals are all young! That
asexuality is just this sexual orientation that's been spawned in the
depths of the internet and it's this really new thing that
the "snowflake" generation has come up with. The first thing to note is that
there is a huge history behind the asexual community and asexuality in general. That's
something I will go into at a later date, but know that there have been
mentions of asexuality, even if it's not called the same thing, going back decades.
And recently actually, I've been listening to the A OK Podcast, which you
should listen to if you don't already listen to it. Basically, it's run by an aro ace woman,
and she interviews a different person from the ace spectrum every week. And
quite a few people that have been interviewed were actually older. They
were into their 40s or 50s, and maybe they've been married to someone for a
long time and they didn't realize they were asexual because there there wasn't
that widespread representation of it, but now that it is coming more into the
light, they found it and they realized that throughout their life, they've
been asexual and they haven't realized that. So they're direct proof against
this claim that all aces are young. Number two on my list is that aces can't
make sex jokes! So there's basically this idea that
because aces don't feel sexual attraction, they can't be sexual in any
way, and they can't find sex jokes amusing. because why would they? They
don't want sex, why -how do they find sex jokes funny? How do they understand
them? Obviously, this is a very... this is particular to the person. So, I myself am not
a sex-joke person. I really don't get them, so not very good at debunking this
myself. But I know there are a lot of aces who who do pick up on sex jokes and
find those amusing. For example, in the video I made about going on loads of
dating apps, I had this picture of me and I was drenched in water and I can't
remember what I said... I'll say it here, and I'll show you some of the comments. "I
have this picture of me being very wet" "I like being wet" But with that out the way, your
sense of humour isn't linked to your sexuality in any way! That's just
ridiculous, right? If you find morbid jokes funny,
it doesn't mean that you want to kill people new obsessed with death maybe you
just have that sense of humour! So I think, in conclusion, basically anyone can make
sex jokes. Anyone can find sex jokes funny, it doesn't make them any more or
less asexual. And number three on the list and our main one for today is that
there is an asexual "look". So, now I am dressed up asexually... I really don't
understand why this is in the first place! So I guess... it's very hard to talk
like this. So now that I have got rid of any sort of attractiveness from my body,
I am dressed asexually. Jokes aside, I really don't understand what
they mean by an asexual "look", and looking asexual. And saying that, "Oh
that person looks sexy, so they can't be asexual", and this is a really big
thing that the activist Yasmin Benoit has been trying to
debunk doing her activism. She is the person who invented the
#ThisIsWhatAsexualLooksLike, and she herself is a lingerie model. But she's
aro-ace and her modeling and her being what is traditionally considered sexy
doesn't make her any less asexual. Because people can people can want to
look good without wanting to attract someone's attention, and even if they do
want to attract someone's attention- like, for example, I might dress up if I want
to look good for a guy. It doesn't mean I want to look to have
sex with them. I don't know, it's really weird. This whole situation is very weird!
Also these - it's getting way too hot in here. So, the idea that this human
body is this sexual object, and that you must... if you look good, you're trying to
sell yourself, it's just ridiculous. And I really hate that that's a thing,
that the body is always seen as this sexual object by a lot of people. And it
shouldn't be. So, for example, people who identify as asexual might specifically
dress down because they don't want to attract that sexual attention. But they
shouldn't have to do that, they should be able to dress the way they want
without people thinking that they're trying to seduce them. It's just
ridiculous, as I have hopefully demonstrated by
putting on too many layers. It is very hot right now, and I am not comfortable
at all. So I'm gonna finish this video. If you are watching this channel, and
somehow did not know about Yasmin Benoit, then she is awesome. I'll leave
her Twitter down below, go tell her how awesome she is. And also, as I mentioned
earlier, A OK Podcast. Go listen to that. I've had loads of fun, and it's honestly
been a breath of fresh air listening to aces who aren't me talk, because I'm listening
to myself talk every week when I'm doing this editing, or at
least every other week at the moment. And I'm sick of my own voice sometimes, I swear
Also if you're looking for another podcast, Sounds Fake But Okay another ace
podcast I listen to every now and then. I'm just giving free advertisement right
now! I need to finish this video, because I am sweating in here, which you didn't
need to know. if you have any comments about any of the misconceptions, please put
them in the comments below... in the comments. I think that's everything I had
to say today, and if there's any misconceptions which you would like me
to talk about in the future on Myths of Ace, then please do tell me because
there are so many I can do but I like to- I like to get your opinion because you
often have good ideas too! So that is all I had to say today. If you enjoyed this
video, then please leave a like. I post videos every other Saturday, so if you
want to see more, then feel free to subscribe. That is all I had to say today,
have a wonderful day and I shall see you next time!
I find it really funny seeing violence on television... not, not real violence but
fantasy violence if that make sense? Number two! Number two! Number two!
Ironically, I think I look quite good in this.