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Hey, what's up everybody?
This is Stephan Labossiere
aka StephanSpeaks.
Today, I'm going to provide you
with three tips
on how to get your ex back.
This is an extremely popular topic.
I’ve seen on the internet. A lot of people
trying to find ways to get
that person back they feel they lost
and let slip out of their hands,
and they want a reconcile things.
I want to give you what you looking for.
I want to help you
in achieving that goal of getting your ex back.
Here are
three important tips
if you want to make this happen.
Tip number one.
Correct the issue that led to the break up
in the first place.
Listen,
there’s no point
in trying to get your ex back
if the same issue that broke you two up
exists.
Whether that exist within you,
within them,
in the dynamic of the relationship.
One-way or another,
you have to correct and resolve that.
Because even if you successfully
get them back
without fixing those things.
You're going to be headed for another breakup.
There's no point
if you can't get to the root
of the issues and correct them
so take time.
Again, if it's an issue within yourself
let's say, for example,
you have insecurity issues
due to past relationships.
We’ll listen,
start to get some healing.
Go see a counselor, go see a coach.
See someone so that you can sit down
and unpack these things and work through them,
so that when you come back,
you can come back more confident,
more secure within yourself.
Therefore you can increase your
chances of getting that person back.
Tip number two
is you have to find your happiness
away from them.
Now, that make catch you by surprise
but let me help you understand what I'm saying.
I see so many people
wallowing in misery,
trying to get their ex back.
Essentially trying to
pity party their ex
into taking them back.
Trying to use sympathy and I can't live
without you and all these things.
Listen, to a certain extent,
there’s nothing wrong with expressing your emotions
and expressing your deep love for them,
but it makes you look
weak to be honest with you.
It looks bad.
Who wants to be around that negativity
or that misery that you're exuding?
Granted it’s stemming from the
fact that you don’t have them
so you may think
that that makes them feel better
or that would warm their hearts so to speak to you.
To some degree it can
however,
when you exude positivity,
confidence,
happiness,
it draws them to you,
and makes them say, “Damn, maybe
I need to have them back in my life.”
“Maybe I missed out.”
“Maybe I made the wrong decision
or we made the wrong decision.”
You have to give them something to desire
and so finding your happiness
will create
or will increase your chances
of them wanting to be back with you
or willing to be back with you.
Don't stay focused on what you don't have.
Don't stay focused on the fact that they’re not
with you right now.
Get focused on what you can do
to improve your life.
The side effect of this is that
if by some chance you don't get them back--
I know your goal is to get them back,
but if you don't get them back.
Well, at least you would have used your time
wisely and set yourself up for
great things to come.
Whether that be continuing as a single person
or when a new relationship presents itself,
so work on you,
find your happiness.
Now, before we get to tip number three,
I got to say something
and you’re not going to like this.
Here is the reality.
You may not need to get back with your ex.
The reality is that you’ve got to be
honest with yourself about
was this person truly
the best person for you?
Was there a genuine connection?
Can a healthy,
happy, relationship be had with them?
Before you go diving into trying to
find all the ways to get them back
make sure
you need to get back with them.
You should be with them
and they are someone you can move
forward with in life
and create a great,
happy relationship.
Again, I know that’s not what you
want to hear.
It’s not what you click on this video for
but it's my job
to tell you the truth that you need to hear,
and some of you
don't need to get that ex back.
But
let’s say they are that person for you.
You can have a happy relationship with them
and there is a connection.
Here is tip number three.
You've got to be patient.
Listen,
Rome wasn't built in a day.
I don’t know why that came to me just now,
but the fact of the matter is
you’ve got to be willing to trust the process
and the timing of things.
You can't force your ex
to want you or to be with you
when you're ready.
You got to understand that
they’ve got to go through some things as well
and it may take time.
Again,
refer back to number two on this list.
Find your happiness in the meantime.
Work on you in the meantime
but be patient and yes,
it can happen.
I have seen people get back with the ex.
Sometimes it takes weeks,
sometimes months, sometimes it's years.
Again, I know you don't want to hear that
but at the end of the day,
if a couple years
of you working on you,
and becoming the person you need to be.
Would then lead to you
being with the person you've dreamed of,
and have always wanted
then that’s worth it.
It’s worth it so be patient,
trust the process,
and understand that great things
will come as long as you keep
putting in the correct work.
I hope this video helps you.
Again, make sure
getting your ex back is truly what's best for you.
If it is, I pray you accomplish that goal
and I pray that you guys are able to have
an amazing relationship.
Again, focus on you,
be patient,
and make sure you correct the issues
that led to the break up in the first place.
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