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- Okay, when do you feel the closest to me?
- Hmm
- Probably when we go on our little dates, I guess.
You know what I mean?
- Okay.
- Coz, like, our 'dates'
- Yeah.
- But, we just like, hang out by ourselves and
explore or do something new.
- I'd say probably, when I feel closest is probably
after we experience a new situation and then we come back
and we like (chattering), this is exactly how I felt.
- Yeah yeah yeah, that's true.
- And then I know that if I were to be with someone else
experiencing it
- [Both] It wouldn't be the same.
- Yeah, that's so true.
Which one of us is a better dancer?
(laughs)
- Probably you. Probably you.
- That's so funny - The funny thing is
I feel like we're both able to be good dancers.
- Right.
- But it's, once again, it's probably the confidence thing.
- Yeah.
- I'm just awkward.
- It's so funny, 'cause when I read that question,
I saw you dancing.
(laughs)
- Uh, okay.
- I'd say it's just why I like a little bit though.
- Yeah
Even though I'm still a bad dancer,
you're a little bit worse.
- Yeah.
- It's okay, we can work on it together.
- Right.
What are you hesitant to tell me?
- Hmm, hesitant?
I have to search my brain.
Um...
Sometimes, in certain situations...
Say if I'm with a different group of friends,
or with different guys, or whatever like that,
sometimes if I do something crazy,
uh, I know I wasn't supposed to do it,
it's just like, "Bruh, I can't tell Nico,
she's gonna judge me."
Like, nah, you know what I mean?
- Okay.
- You're gonna be like a mom, like,
you should never do that, and I'm like, I know.
- 'Cause I'm the level-headed one, like,
"What are you doing?"
- Yeah, yeah, yeah.
How are we most similar, and how does that scare you?
- Hmm, that's a good question.
How are we most similar and how does that scare you?
- Well, I feel like I kinda have an answer.
- Okay.
- 'Cause I feel like when we were growing up,
we were so, so similar, that, I mean,
we've always had our differences, but we were just
way more similar, I feel like.
And then as we get older and we experience new people
at different times and have different friend groups
and all that kind of stuff, we start kinda doing
our own thing.
And I think, as a twin, you kinda wanna stick together,
and have the same way of life and the same way of thinking,
and then as you get older, you kind of need to
become your own person.
- Yeah. I feel like, um,
I think, because we're so similar,
I know that going out and meeting people,
there comes a time when you...
I wonder if there's gonna be a time when we completely are
independent for a season.
- Right.
- And I know that no one's gonna be able to
match the chemistry or be on the same page as I am.
- Or wavelength.
So I feel like, in that case...
You get so used to having someone who understands you that
when you're away from that, it's just, I don't know.
- [Both] Yeah.
- 'Cause definitely, if we did move away from each other,
that would be kinda scary, 'cause I'd be like,
actually for once alone in the world.
- Not even moving away, but I think other people are
more content with having...
They're used to having relationships 'cause they've never
experienced what being...
- A certain bond?
- Yeah, they've never experienced having a certain bond,
so everyone's used to it, but if I were to go out,
I'm like, well I know what this is before hand,
I know that there's something better out here and
this is not good enough.
- Right.
- So, yeah.
What is one experience you wish we never shared?
Yikes! I don't know if I gonna take anything back.
- One experience... hmm. Yeah, I don't know.
- Wait.
- High school.
- Yes. I already knew.
- Yeah.
Freshman year, I'd wipe that away bro.
Didn't need that. Didn't need it.
It was unnecessary.
- Yeah, I don't know, high school was just like...
- And, uh, I'd even say, maybe even 6th grade.
7th and 8th grade was fine, but 6th grade was a
little bit of a struggle.
- 6th grade just built character.
High school was just like, did I need that?
I still don't know if I needed that.
- Yeah, but I feel like 6th grade, I don't know,
it was the first time I started questioning myself,
like my confidence... - Okay yeah, but, I think...
and the security of myself
Like, I'm better now, you know, I'm not like,
my life is forever changed from 6th grade, but you know.
- I think every kid kinda goes through that phase
in middle school though.
- That's true.
- Where they're like, questioning things.
- Yeah.
Okay, when have you seen me the most vulnerable and
what have you learnt from it?
That's a rare occasion.
- The most vulnerable? I can't even really think of bad...
- Because it's that rare.
(laughs)
- Um. Honestly, probably high school.
- Yeah.
- The most vulnerable, the most raw, emotionally raw we were
for an extended period of time was high school.
And just learning from that, it was just basically... um,
next time anything like that happens, where we're
in a scenario where we feel like we aren't able to
leave at that time, or get out of it,
or whatever circumstance, to just build things outside
of that place, to make your experience better.
- Right, yeah.
- I wouldn't say that's... - To actually separate...
Like when you do get out of school,
find other things to do.
- Or it doesn't even have to be school,
it could just be anything in the future.
- Yeah.
- Just go have things outside of that thing.
- Right.
- Like if there's something crappy. Yeah. I get you.
- Okay, what's something we take for granted
in our relationship that we shouldn't?
- Probably our bond. I'd say that.
'Cause it's like, we fight about the stupidest things
but, at the end of the day...
'cause sometimes you get mad and you're like,
I remember when I was younger, I was like,
"I wish I had a different twin".
- I didn't even know you felt like that.
- But no, it's kinda taking for granted because no one's
going to be Nico, you know what I mean?
If that makes sense?
- I think, probably we take it for granted that
we we're just so used to it.
Like, we always call each other a married couple,
and you get so used to being around someone that
you kind of just, it's just like, everyday.
- That you like, literally, always have somebody,
so it's like...
- And then you notice it when it's gone.
- You can't, right, you can't really imagine
living your life by yourself, just like,
by yourself, just completely alone in the world.
But like, everybody else is like that.
- Everybody else does it.
- And then, that's normal.
- And you're like, what!? I cannot do that.
- Right, it's like not taking for granted...
like when we're away from each other,
but seeing us on a daily, you know,
it's kinda, like, I feel day to day life.
Like, you don't take... remind yourself.
- I think we keep getting better as we get older.
- Yeah, when we get older, more mature.
- Yeah.
- What is one experience you wish
we would share together in the future?
- Um...
- I think we can both answer this.
- Honestly, it's funny, I wanna have my own wedding,
but I've thought about having a duo wedding before.
- That's so funny.
- I just think it would be so much fun.
No one else can do it.
(laughs)
- That's very true, I've never thought about it like that,
'cause when somebody else brought it up, I was like,
"why would I wanna share my wedding,
I've shared everything my entire life".
- That's my wedding day, I wanna have an individual wedding,
but at the same time, I feel like,
okay, my best friend got married,
we're like both with our guys,
it would be a really good time.
- I'm excited to make milestones with you, you know.
- Yes, and to be able to do it with somebody,
you can share the joy and celebration with somebody.
I know people are happy for you, but it's different when
someone's doing it with you.
- Yeah.
- So.
- Yeah.
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