My child thinks I am a liar.
Our child is angry and not talking to Carter right now.
My child and I aren't as close
as we used to be, and I miss that dearly.
Our child was home the day that I discovered the text.
I did not reveal what the text said,
but I remember the look of shock on our child's face.
My biggest fear is losing everything,
my wife, Nicole, my child, our new home.
I fear losing it all.
What do you have to say to Nicole?
I'm sorry.
I feel horrible.
Sex offender.
Did you see the--
Yes, I saw that.
Does that make you want to throw up?
Yes, it does.
You keep going back to this guy.
Does he know where we live?
No.
And you don't--
I'm in shock right now too.
(Nicole groaning)
Come on.
Well I just informed Carter about the man
that he's been involved with.
Before the break I asked Nicole
if she wanted to see a photo of him.
Do you want to see that photo?
Yes.
(audience laughing)
(Nicole exhaling)
What is happening?
Nothing's happening now.
(sighs) Oh my God, I can only imagine.
There was sex.
There wasn't, he tried. That is a--
And I said no.
(beep) lie.
Oh my God.
So you never communicated
anything sexual in nature to him?
Oh, I did.
Like?
Certain things I wanted to do, but never did.
Right, but you wanted to?
Possibly, yes.
Okay.
So can we just--
Possibly yes is--
Then yes. Yes, right?
Yes. Okay.
(audience applauding)
If that's who you are,
I'm not going to love you any less.
I don't believe that's who I am.
I'm going to love you less
for keeping this charade and lying.
And if that's what you want, let's find somebody safe.
Let's not be doing something with a criminal--
I don't believe that's what I want.
I don't know right now.
That has a sex offender record.
I don't believe that's what I want.
I don't know right now.
That's where I'm confused and torn and everything else.
Clearly you both go into it with expectations.
But people do evolve.
But when you go into a process of evolution
and you're half of a couple,
you need to do it with transparency.
You can't do it saying I want to protect myself
and not be open with my partner.
You've got to be willing to be transparent.
And if they don't like it, if they have a problem with it,
but yet you're being authentic, then okay.
Maybe that's the case.
But still, you have to be authentic.
And if it's a risk that they're going to reject you,
they're going to judge you,
that's one of the prices of being who you are.
And if who you are changes from who you started,
as long as you were honest when you started
and things change across time
and you become someone else, just say so.
I promise you, when you're authentic,
when you're true, when you give a voice to who you are,
where you are, when you are,
things will work out for you a lot better
than living a lie.
Tell people where you are when you're there.
They'll listen to ya, they'll hear you.
People know the truth when they hear it.
And they also know when you're being somebody you're not.
(upbeat music)