Go ahead.
How did doing {THE AND} change or affect our relationship?
I mean, it's nice. It's been good.
I think we were able to talk about things that
we never really touched while we were alone together.
so it was a great therapy session.
It was so positive for us as a couple.
And,
when
you kind of like, messed up at the beginning of the year,
it didn't really affect me maybe, the way it was supposed to.
I was able to deal with it
better
But I told you, it started last year though.
Okay...
No 'cause I just, the way you're saying "this year" wasn't
No, what I meant is that whatever you did,
Okay.
this year, because she got pregnant this year,
it didn't affect me the way it was supposed to,
Because-
because I was able to speak to you, and I was able to understand better,
where you were coming from and your issues
regarding your...
Infidelities?
Mmm...
It's not so much infidelities.
Because you did like this like I was crazy or something.
Whatever you were going through.
Your demons, your ghosts-
I don't have demons, I don't have ghosts.
Okay, well. The way I see it.
Whatever you were going through personally. Your personal issues.
Alright.
I was able to deal with them more.
I don't think we could have gone through anything that we've went through-
That we have experienced.
Experienced together, you know, within the past,
since we've done it, you know? Two years ago, whatever a year and a half or what have you.
It wouldn't have been nowhere near-
I don't think we would have, yeah-
We wouldn't have dealt with it the same way.
I agree.
How do you think the video and the responses online affected me?
I think it's all positive, but anyway...
Of course you do.
[laughing]
I don't like it, I'ma tell you the truth.
Why?
I don't like the fact that you're a grown-ass woman,
soon as you get up in the morning,
after you take care of all of your essentials, all of your bodily needs,
you do what you have to do, refinement and everything,
beautify yourself,
the phone...you automatically on that shit. I don't understand that.
I gotta make sure.
It don't matter.
My people need me.
[laughing]
And everybody that you speak to, they pretty much,
they know us before the interview,
a lot have come to know us because of it,
Yeah.
And you still, I mean it's just like, over and over...
But you know what? We get a lot of-
You look good in that picture. I mean, okay.
No but listen, listen, listen.
What they look for, it's more of a...
They lookin' for tragedy.
No no no-
The people that you've met-
Okay.
The people that you know,
Okay.
As often as you stay in contact with them, from what I think,
Mhm.
Those who are genuine and sincere,
they give acknowledgement and they move on.
I mean, you're not talking about coming to meet with us so we can go out and eat.
You know, go here...we're not lookin' to do none of that.
Rock.
You're staying in contact with us, because you're anticipating...
No...
the destruction.
They want, no, people look for you know, advice.
Inspira-
They look for inspiration.
They not calling me.
Well, because you're not-
They not face, texting, me or whatever-
Honey, you're not really very friendly, friendly like.
I'm very approachable.
[laughing]
Yeah but you look so, what did I always tell you?
Alright.
Intimidating.
Your look is intimidating.
But, I'm not though.
I know, baby, but they just look for advice.
That's it, okay?
Woah.
This is, whoever did these questions...they're very good.
What did you learn from this video, and its responses, that scared or shocked you the most?
[gasps]
That! In my son's school, in Alexie's school, you know how-
Alright.
The ladies were looking at me, and just like,
at the beginning of the school year last year,
and they were just looking at me, and you know like
following me with their eyes. A couple of times.
And I felt kinda like, weird. Remember I told you?
I was saying they're looking at me so funny. I don't know. They're so judgmental, I said.
And um, when I became friends with --, she was the head of the...
What is it? The parent-
PSG? Parent Support Group.
Parent Support Group, uh huh, from the school.
She actually, after a couple of you know,
sessions of let's say having conversations and tea and, you know,
laughing with the children, that's when she was able to approach me
and said to me that
that they admire us, and they didn't know that our relationship was so profound.
That was shocking to me, like, it was like four mothers
that were all like "Oh, that is so beautiful. We admire you"
"I'm glad we're not the only people..."
Going through this, so I realized that there's more
There's more to
somebody's relationship. You understand, everybody goes through their own
basically, Romeo and Juliet stories.
They have different kinds. That was shocking to me.
What did you learn?
I learned that um,
What shocked you or scared you?
I think what shocked me is, I have listened to you,
my mother and my sister. You know, people telling me that I
I might look like I'm not approachable, right?
Yeah.
But when we came to the filming of it here, in New York
it was, I mean we didn't go nowhere else for it, right?
[laughing]
But when we came here for the filming, it was,
everybody was so-
Warm, and welcoming.
It was like coming, it was like a family reunion.
Yes.
Then to see everybody else go through the interacting, going through it,
and some of them were complete strangers,
and they had to just embrace each other
Regardless of what was going on,
I was able to experience the-
Somebody else going through it?
No, Woodstock without the mud.
[laughing]
Or the weed.
Yeah.
[laughing]
What do I do that makes you think that we shouldn't be together?
When you show me that you have doubt about why we're together.
Okay.
Not me having any doubt. I know we need to be together.
We should be, I wanna be, but you
have no problem
telling me no slick shit "Well, we..."
There's the door.
No, no, no don't do that.
I mean I can actually repeat what I've said.
That's what I'm saying though, but that's...
that's something that let's me know that we shouldn't be together.
For you to still be able to present that to me.
For you to tell me after all these years,
"Maybe we shouldn't be-" I mean who the fuck? How can you think,
that we shouldn't be together after all of these years?
So you answer that question.
What do you do that makes me think that I shouldn't be with you?
Yeah.
Okay.
The way you spend money.
I don't have any.
Well, whenever you have some...
Well, you think about that.
If I don't have any,
once I get some, all of those things that I think I wanted
[laughing]
I wanna get it.
The way I spend money?
Yeah.
[sighing]
What do you love and hate about our family structure?
I love
the communication we have,
with our son,
together,
how we do it together as a family.
When Aaron came about, it was about a family decision.
Everything was just family.
And communication, I love.
I don't hate anything, hate is such a horrible word.
I don't hate anything about us.
Having better-
I don't think that's, go ahead, because that wasn't a part of the question.
What you think. It's what do you love and hate-
I love our communication.
Okay.
And I don't hate anything, because I don't like that word.
Alright.
I dislike, there you go.
I dislike the fact that we don't have budget.
We don't own a budget, or we don't follow a budget,
for our expenses.
Which I have to try to like that word, "budget."
Which I don't like it, um...
but that's the only think I dislike.
I don't hate the fact that we don't do the budget thing. I don't, I don't,
hate that. I don't dislike it either.
One thing that I do hate about our family structure,
is
Hate is such a horrible word.
The one thing that I do hate is...
What?
The things that we know, I think that we're taking a little too long to teach our son.
And that is?
Just certain things, you know. Whether that be about money,
you know, history, you know certain things that he should know.
He's only six years old.
I know he's only six.
But he knows a lot.
He knows a lot, but you don't want to bombard him with all of this information
that you want him to have.
That's what I hate.
I hate the fact that you think, that because he's six
that he would be bombarded with the information,
when he already knows it.
But if you give it to him slowly as he gets older, whatever information
you want to give him regarding family, or whatever it is, you want to give to him...
But don't just...
It's too much.
He's busy,
Alright.
With his schedule.
Alright.
What do you see for us in ten years?
Oooh, ten years...
Well, I will be retired,
relaxing,
enjoying our teenage..
[laughing]
Ten years?
Teenage boy.
I'ma be kinda old.
To me, I'ma be kinda old because um,
You know, I ran my body down.
Well let's just, not hope to not be in a wheelchair or nothing like that.
No, no.
Let's pray for the best and hope for the best.
Ten years from now?
Mhm.
I want to be sitting in the audience with [THE AND] crew
Yes!
next time they receive an accolade.
[laughing]
I wanna be sitting right there with them.
I won't have to ask nobody permission to go anywhere.
Anywhere, there you go.
I'll be there. It won't even be a question.
Just give me a call.
I'll carry the camera and the speakers and lights.
Well maybe in the next 10 years,
we'll do the ten year anniversary of our
last [THE AND].
With our children.
With our two boys here. Oh! That would be nice.
[laughing]
Alright.
That's to look forward to.
That'll work.
Alright.
Can I get some sugar?
Yes.
Thank you.
It is what it is, gotta make you happy. Are we finished now?
Because this one keeps talking about the same thing.
[laughing]
This man gets us with these questions.
I will strangle you for that one.
[laughing]
You know he ain't gonna stop talking about it...
[laughing]
for a long time.