let's get started me and you have it a little bit of a conversation so I made
the video discussing why I haven't been talking about trisha paytas on my channel
did that got your feedback and I said I wouldn't make any more videos until I
saw and consumed your feedback now a majority of the feedback was like yeah
Chris you're doing commentary now like just make videos right there were some
other comments in there stuff like you know things about consent and everything
which I disagree with like if I reach out to the President of the United
States and he never got back to me can I not comment on the President of the
United States so when it comes to commentary I disagree with that but
there was an overwhelming good response now at the end of the day this might
still come back to bite me in the ass but I live in Las Vegas and I am a
betting man I am hoping that this whole James Charles situation and seeing how
everything got blown out of proportion I'm hoping that it calms people down in
the future if things are to come up alright but anyways I wanted to chime in
and just get this out of the way so let's get started and let me give you my
opinion on this situation between Trisha Paytas and Nikocado avocado what is
up everybody this is Chris from the rewired soul where we talk about the
problem but focus on the solution and if you're new to back-channel what I like
to do is take a look at the YouTube community some of the drama that's going
on and take this mess and turn it into a message because there's always some
lessons to be learned so if the end of that stuff makes you subscribe and win
that notification bell all right so some of the comments I got a lot of you
wanted to hear by opinion my thoughts on this situation all right so there's a
there's a few things all right I'm not gonna go like like it is it is like
objectively true that what Trisha Paytas of a screwed up so first let's start out
by she refuses to apologize all right she's refusing to apologize
and I get that I get that like when you're standing firm and you're like I
didn't do anything wrong so I'm not going to apologize for that at the end
of the day the reality is she did a crappy thing to Nikocado Avocado now I made an
apology to different communities to different youtubers and one of the
people I apologized to was Trisha Paytas all right and something I teach people
about making amends or apologies is it doesn't matter what you think you did
what matters is did it affect the other person so while I still believe to this
day that I was commenting on things that were public knowledge at the end of the
day it did hurt Trisha Paytas feelings which is why I apologized so to see her
standing firm in this idea that she didn't do anything wrong so she refuses
to apologize I think it's a little bit ridiculous and that's just my opinion
like I don't think everything is owed an apology like some of you out there you
apologize too much but if you hurt somebody in some way just apologize just
do it like get rid of the ego and just do it no matter how right you think you
are apologize for your part because at the end of the day it is wrong to ghost
people okay like here's the thing back in my dating days right but back in the
dating days I would ghost women and it was messed up with me it was messed up
all right this was before I got into the whole
like 12-step thing and making amends and everything like that but I've gone back
and made amends to women I ghost it back in the day like when I was going through
my recovery process because it was messed up right like a lot of it is
because like if a guys ever goes to do it for girls ever goes to do a lot of
this because people don't like confrontation at least in my case
I just didn't like confrontation well maybe if I just tiptoe out of here right
but it's messed up it is messed up and I think I think it's a ridiculous
justification to to say that well everybody does it well everybody does
like what like when in the history of mankind has that ever been a valid
reason to do something screwed up right because that's Trisha Paytas is logic
behind there's nothing wrong with ghosting somebody because everybody does
it and her justification is well people
have done that to me too and I will say it all day or a day all
right be the change that you want to see in the world okay
like this whole tit-for-tat thing Oh somebody screwed me over so now I have
the right to screw somebody else over right an eye for an eye makes the whole
world blind right like think about that for a second like like for example for
example I have met I've met people who who like one time they like gave a
homeless person like a sandwich instead of money and they're like the homeless
person was like oh screw you I'm not gonna ever give a homeless person
anything ever again like what what you know what I mean like it's kind of like
that logic just because one person did something to you or multiple people did
something to you doesn't give you a right to treat other people in a certain
way like at a certain point we have to look at it and say oh how does it feel
when people do that to me oh yeah that feels kind of crappy maybe I shouldn't
do it to the next person you see what I mean and like those of you who have been
following me for my channel right for a while like this isn't just about Trisha
Paytas like one of the reasons I really wanted to make this video is for all of
you out there for all of you because all of you me included we've all done this
same thing we've all got our pride and our ego get in the way of apologizing to
somebody know my advice for Micky kado in this situation which Mitchell Paytas
is it sucks but it's what Tricia said like let it go dude
let it go like you said your piece it's done and over with I don't know Nick
never met the guy so he might just make be making videos because he's a youtuber
he pointed out in his last video that he doesn't monetize or anything like that
but at the end of the day he's got to let it go because if I if I sit around
expecting people to apologize to me like my life gets miserable right like I hate
to say it I hate to say but Trisha Paytas was right now that doesn't give
her an excuse to be a dick you know what I mean but at the end of the day she
needs to let it go and let's let's play out this scenario let's say tomorrow
morning Trisha Paytas wakes up and she's like oh my god you know what I was wrong
I was completely wrong in this situation I'm going to make a public apology to
Nicki Caudill avocado like how well do you think that would be received how
well do you think I'll be received she would get blasted like she has gone way
too far down that road to do that at this point and even if you look at Nikki
Carlos situation like and how he would receive it he probably wouldn't even
believe it but when it comes to apologies at all it it takes time like
people have to prove it you know what I mean like no like no apology is worth a
damn until you see how people change and what they do
hell I'll use myself as an example for the last two months since I've come back
to YouTube I have steered away from speculating on a person's mental health
that was one of the main criticisms that I got I haven't done it and I talked
about somebody's mental health it's a fictional character what I've done and
there are certain things I still agree and disagree with you know what I mean
but I am working headaches because here's the thing - to
thine own self be true and I have a video that I'm gonna be making about
James Charles tomorrow but you are always going to have people who say that
you haven't changed I have been sober I have been sober for coming up on seven
years did you know did you know that there are still people who knew me
before I got sober who says I have who say I haven't changed like think about
that for a second they say I haven't changed at all
like one major change is that I have a snorted any opioids lately you know what
I'm saying but at the end of the day this whole
situation is a mess and I just want to talk about it because again like if if
you're watching all this stuff go down and you're not taking a step back at the
end of it and asking yourself like how many times do you refuse to apologize
how many times do you have fused to take a look at how people are treating you
and using that as a justification to treat other people when you're looking
at Mikado's on the college situation how long do you hold on to resentment for
right expecting something from the other person because something I was taught a
long long time ago is that it's a lot easier for me to work on me than it is
to try to fix the rest of the world the more we place expectations on other
people and hope for them to change the longer that you and I sit in misery you
see what I mean so this whole situation is a hot mess but you picking sides
you trying to cancel Tricia you taking the side of Nikki kado avocado that does
absolutely nothing for your life unless you're taking a step back and asking
yourself how can you relate to the individuals involved in this situation
and that's the goal of my channel to help you start thinking about that
alright but anyways that's all I got for this video if you like this video please
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