So you think that you've escaped the
narcissist and you're finally free.
I'm gonna go over them in this video.
So you're definitely going to want to watch.
Hey, I'm Rebecca Zung
and I am an attorney.
I am a narcissist negotiation expert.
I have helped literally thousands of
people go from lives of drama,
trauma and chaos to
step into lies of freedom,
possibility, and purpose.
I have written two bestselling books,
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I wanna make sure that you have
everything that you need.
So that you can break free from
the chains of that toxic relationship.
But there's a business relationship with a
narcissist or a personal relationship.
It doesn't matter.
I wanna make sure that you
have all the tools that you need.
So you think you're free from that narcissist what?
Guess what?
There are some things that you
need to know once you've escaped
and let me tell you this is the one thing
that I say to people all the time.
You know, actually just
leave a relationship with a narcissist.
Nobody just nicely walks away and says,
“hey, guys you know, this has been a nice.’’
‘‘You know, let's stay friends.’’
I thought that I could do that.
I was in a business
relationship with a narcissist
and boy was I dead wrong.
I have a whole video on that.
By the way,
it's actually called I was dead wrong.
There are so many things that I
was dead wrong about
when it comes to that.
You have to escape people like
run from relationships with narcissist.
You end up like escaping
with your hair on fire.
It's like you're running
from a burning building.
So once you're out and you think you're out.
What do you need to know?
Well, number one.
I'm gonna give you five.
So you wanna stay all and
watch all the way till the end.
This is really really important.
And so if you think that
you're just gonna give
them what they want
and you'll be able to leave.
You are dead wrong.
So don't think,
well, if they'll see how nice I am,
they'll see that I'm being reasonable.
I'll give them something
right from the beginning and
you know, they say they
wanna settle nicely too
and you're just gonna be dead wrong.
You're gonna end up being taken advantage of
and you're gonna be halfway down the road
and you're gonna be really really upset
that you gave in all of these things
and now you're way in the
whole with attorneys fees
and they're gonna hold you to
whatever you said you were gonna give
and yet they won't want to give you anything,
and they're gonna constantly
be moving the goal post
when it comes to trying to make
settlements and things.
And by the way,
I have a whole video on
why narcissists moved goalposts.
You can definitely check that out.
But you know,
they're gonna be keeping tabs on you.
As long as they think that
they can get supply from you,
they're gonna continue to do that.
So it's not over as long as they think
that they can it's almost like
there's heated butter
at bottom of the that jar.
As long as they think that there's some
kind of supply that they can get from you,
it will not be over.
So that's number one.
and they're gonna go to
you know, these people and try to divide
and conquer and try to get them against you
and try to make you feel isolated
and try to make you feel alone.
Even if they say, let's be friends and we're
gonna make this amicable
and all of those things.
Regardless, you know
they're gonna go to if you have a
business relationship.
They're gonna go to the employees.
They're gonna do it behind your back.
They're gonna go to clients.
They're gonna if you have children.
They're gonna go to the children,
and they're gonna try to get the
children on their side against you.
I mean, that's what they do because
they're super insecure and it's just
you know, they're gonna try to make
you look like the bad person.
So that’s number two.
or even after they've attacked you
and been heinous and horrible to you.
It'll be like, well, I will drop all
of this if we can still be business partners
or if we can still be married or whatever.
I mean, that happened to me
in my business partnership that
you know, after this person
was absolutely awful.
Well, one of the offers was we remain
in some sort of a business relationship
and I thought why aren't you crazy?
I mean, but that's you know what they do.
So don't fall for that.
Do not pass go.
Do not collect two hundred dollars.
The answer is no.
I do have a video on five signs
of narcissistic hoovering.
You do not do that.
No.
The answer is no.
Let me think about it.
No.
Alright?
So that's number three.
because once you they realize
that your supply source is dwindling.
You know, they see that there's not much
peanut butter left at the bottom of the jar.
Oh, we gotta go get a new jar.
Okay?
So they will find a new supply source.
Don't be surprised.
Don't be hurt.
Don't take it personally.
That is their food.
That is their life blood.
That is their oxygen.
They literally are leaches or
you know, vampires.
I mean, they cannot survive on their own.
So you will be dropped like
a hot potato very quickly.
I mean, as much as they say, they couldn't
live without you and they would be
like a puddle on the floor or whatever.
All those things that they said,
and you're gonna be like, oh my god.
What they moved on like so fast
and don't be surprised if it's somebody
like in your circle,
like your best friend or you know.
They got to be business partners with one
of your employees or somebody you knew
because they wanna hurt you,
they wanna get back at you.
So there's that too.
So that's number four.
And if you're so ready to shut them down
just put it
‘‘SHUT THEM DOWN!’’
in the comments right now because
I know you're so ready to down.
Alright.
That's number four.
Number five thing that you should know that
you need to remember after a
scaping a narcissist is
They only see things in black and white.
They cannot see gray.
You know, you're either for
them or against them.
You're either with them or
you're not and if you're against them,
then you are public enemy number one.
So you have to think about yourself.
You have to protect yourself.
You have children.
You have to protect your children.
Go and get the s upport you need,
the help you need you probably have trauma.
You probably need to get therapy.
And by the way, if you don't have a therapist,
you don't have access to a therapist.
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Go to betterhelp.com/rebeccazung.
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and support that you need for that.
Otherwise, you're gonna
be rinse and repaint
back into a narcissistic relationship again
and I don't want you to be trauma bonded.
So go get the help and support that you need
and also, I do have a free
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Just remember the only
win if you give in to today
is a great day to start negotiating your best life.
You can do this.
You can do hard things.
I've had lots and lots of people.
Beat narcissist with my SLAY programs
with all the things that I offer,
and just remember I can SLAY.
Alright?
I have icanslay.com
You can do this, and I will help you.
Alright?
So I will see all of you in the next video
and remember that you can do this too.
See you soon.