Yeah sorry sorry I'm just I'm just a couple minutes late that the taxi is late I don't
know what it is I'm outside the building I'm just uh waiting for the cab whenever gets here
I'll be there in five minutes so yeah go go ahead order I'll be there just any time now
Some people
So what do you do when your signature is worth less than the paper it's printed on when your word
becomes so meaningless that even you don't believe the things you say that something probably has a
higher random chance of happening than it does when you say it is going to happen well that's
what this video is all about our word our honesty our follow through with the things we say can be a
complete superpower it can be something that will change your life for the better and it can also be
something that will make your life an absolute living hell your word can be one of the most
powerful or destructive things in your life when our word means something when we say we're gonna
do something and then we do it it becomes a great superpower it becomes something that allows us
to stick to plans to follow through to build great relationships and partnerships
and build ultimately a great life a pretty stress-free one as well might I add
but when your word stops meaning something when you're just really loose with what you say when
something probably has a higher chance of randomly occurring than it does if you say it will occur
well then you're gonna run into some serious problems and I'm not just getting into this
as coach dan I'm getting into this from some personal experience there was a point in my life
when my word was like I don't know a 14th century British man who would sign whatever and that word
was the power of the king whatever it was but my word meant something where I could literally say
to myself hey I'm gonna go get up at 6 am and I would get up at 6 am if it was rainy if it was
snowy I would get up and I would go for a run or go for a swim whatever it is I committed to
and it was really powerful and it made my life a lot easier because I could basically commit
to things and then I would do them and that was pretty wonderful but then there was a time when
I started to get looser and looser with my words and I was being dishonest in one
area of my life and it spilled over everywhere it was weird almost to see but it just spilt over
and it really is that old cliche saying how you do anything is how you do everything
when I had some dishonesty in one part of my life my words stopped meaning anything to me
and then eventually to the people around me as well fortunately I was able to learn this lesson
and turn things around before too much damage was done or relationships were ruined and I learned to
rebuild my word so that what I say means something and if you are especially an ENFP or INFP
this can be a really really big deal I thought of making this video after talking with an INFP
friend of mine who said to me literally that her word is meaningless she's like when I say
something I don't even believe I'm gonna do it it just what's the point of it it's just words come
out and there's no belief that you will actually follow through that's a hard way to live not
only in terms of things like relationships because if people can't rely on you that's
going to be a serious issue but also in terms of your own discipline as I said earlier when you can
say hey I'm going to do this and then you just do it you save yourself a ton of brain power if
you've been watching this channel for a while you know that making decisions is a huge use of our
mental energy especially as ENFPs and INFPs because we consider all the possibilities so we're
thinking about all the possible outcomes it's a lot of work to make decisions and when you're
half-assed committed to something essentially what you're doing is making a decision every
few seconds or minutes let's say you you say I think I'm going to not eat potato chips anymore
but you're not fully committed and your word doesn't mean much it's like every two minutes
you're like should I eat a potato chip no should I eat a potato chip no and each of those is
a decision so it's really draining whereas if your word is solid and you just say to yourself
I do not eat potato chips you never think about eating the potato chips I know this because I'm
deathly allergic to peanuts do you know how many times today I've thought about eating peanuts
zero obvious reasons there's no decisions being made and so I learned to apply this in my own life
early and it frees up a huge amount of mental head space and will allow you to get a lot more done
it also of course makes your relationships a lot smoother so what do you do if right now your
word doesn't mean anything but I've hooked you on this premise here of how important it is to stand
by your word and be someone who is essentially honest and trustworthy so buckle your seatbelt
and join me here together we are going to make your word start meaning something
it's not going to be an easy process but I promise you if you go through this
you will reap rewards like you can't imagine and guess what the total cost of admission is
zero dollars and a little bit of effort so step one to making your word count
is to give yourself a bit of a reset and by a bit I mean a big one will you take a moment you
could do it now during this video but it might actually be more meaningful if you schedule it in
later today maybe you do a little ceremony where you burn all your text messages that were lies
and say from this moment on my word is going to mean something so you have to have a clean
break and stop living in the past next you have to start paying attention to how you use your words
something I've been working on the last month and a bit and been talking to my team about is
the word try and essentially we started with well if you're not sure you're going to follow through
on something you should use the word try because that way you're not misleading people and saying
this will be done but then we thought well why even just say you're going to try something that's
kind of not a great way to set up your life right so now it's do or do not it's the yoda thing right
so do or do not there is no try and it's a process I'm still working on it it's thinking about how I
use my words and saying okay will I do this or not and if I if I'm not sure if I'll do it just don't
verbally commit to it to anyone and just keep it in my head until I'm sure if I'm going to do it
so once you started to notice maybe some of your patterns then what you want to start doing is
making small commitments that you know you can follow through on to yourself and yourself only
so start to change how you interact with yourself you can literally it sounds stupid but it can be
I'm going to move this shoe tell you about these shoes another day by the way I said I would move
the shoe and I have moved the shoe I have now fulfilled a commitment to myself I have a 100
ratio in the last two minutes of things I say I will do actually happening so start with small
commitments that you know you're capable of doing don't over commit and get yourself into a problem
where you can't keep up with the commitment and then your word stops meaning something right
and it's important with these commitments with all commitments that you make commitments within
your realm of control if you saw my video on extreme accountability and the process
I use to get things done like write a book or completely change my diet you know that
you should only commit to things that you have control over the outcome over
otherwise you're giving up that power and so if you say we're gonna go sun tanning outdoors today
you don't control the weather so that's maybe not something that you can fully commit to it
happening so basically you start committing to yourself on smaller things then you can expand
those then you can start committing to other people the key is committing to things that you
know you can do and then suddenly you're saying hey the things I say I will do I actually do
now you might ask what about other larger things though right what about things that I'm really
not sure about well that's where the other part of this comes in is just stop promising things like
no one requires you to promise you're going to do all these different things if you're not sure
if you're gonna do something just keep your mouth shut and don't tell anyone about it right we often
especially ENFPs we go out of our way to overly commit I see this all the time in my business
where people will go out of their way to commit to something to me that they didn't need to commit
to and then not do it like why did you make that commitment in the first place we could have just
not had that conversation but now you've made a commitment broken that commitment and now that's
obviously a bit of a problem so ultimately you're working on adjusting your actions
and your words you're lowering the level you commit to so maybe rather than saying
I'm gonna go for a five kilometer run you say I'm going gonna go for a one kilometer walk
and if you run five kilometers which you probably will once you get outside and get going
then great you've exceeded your expectations one thing you have to realize with most of my advice
it's based on a principle of mine or maybe a theory of mine is a better way to say it
that our unconscious mind is always observing our actions and it's adjusting our self-identity
based on how we act this was the basis for my first few books on self-confidence
so the way you act is being observed by your unconscious which is then adjusting your
self-image which then adjusts how you act so for example if you're someone who never
follows through on things then your unconscious is looking at you being like I'm a dishonest person
I'm not a reliable person and it's changing your self-image then guess what then you think I want
to start my own business but you find yourself being reluctant and scared to take that leap
you don't believe in yourself guess why one of the reasons is you don't believe in yourself because
your unconscious has been paying attention for the last couple of years and it's like hey remember
all those things you said you were going to do and didn't do yeah I don't think we should jump
into a business and quit our job just now because nine times out of ten you don't do that thing you
were gonna do this happens in many areas of our life so it's really important to pay attention to
how you act and basically the example you give yourself of the kind of person you are sounds
a little crazy but it isn't it's backed up by a lot of research and it is one of the best things
you can do to change your life act like the person you want to be your unconscious will observe that
it will then adjust your image of yourself which will change your behavior and create a really nice
self-fulfilling prophecy of all kinds of great things I want to know in the comments below what
your experience has been keeping your word and following through on things and what you might do
differently if anything at all moving forward if you are new to the channel my name is dan this is
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yeah I'm definitely running late um I got up this morning and I realized there was a new
season of money heist on netflix so instead of working or getting ready to meet you for
dinner I basically watched that all day yeah no I I'm not even ready at all um you should order
your meal but I can commit to this I will be there by dessert as long as you order
at least three courses no that's my commitment my word means something all right bye grandma
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