- We live in a modern world where we hang around a lot
but we're never really relaxing our mind is always busy.
By then I have to empty my mind.
How can I relax?
Well, there are ways to relax.
And relaxation is really important.
Again, you are a human being, not a human doing.
You are like a battery.
And if you got your phone out and use it,
and use it, and use it, the battery will end
and you will have to recharge it.
And you need to recharge, just like a battery.
(upbeat music)
There are certain ways of relaxing,
taking deep breaths,
deep belly breaths
is very relaxing.
Meditating is very relaxing,
doing yoga is very relaxing,
allowing yourself to do nothing at all
maybe lying on the sofa and reading.
You know, I've worked with many geniuses
and they all have something very interesting in common.
They came up with their ideas when they're doing nothing.
Most geniuses will say "I go and I sit on a bench
and I look at the leaves of a tree.
I lie on the grass and look at the sky for hours
and ideas come to me".
I think it was Einstein he used to sit in a chair
with a big, heavy ball bearing in his hand
and he would rock backwards and forwards
and of course as he dropped off
the ball bearing would drop to the ground
it would wake him up
and he would go, "Eureka! I had an idea."
So you'll find that ideas come to you
when you are relaxing and doing nothing
way more than when you are working, working
thinking, "Oh my God, I need to come up with an idea,
I need to think about it, I need to fix this."
I know for me, my first publisher asked me
to find six extra chapters to a book
I'm like, "Oh my God."
I was hard enough to find the first 10,
six more I said, "Oh sure, I can do that."
I had no idea where to even look.
And I was driving my car along the road
listening to the radio
and I suddenly thought, "I've got it."
I had to pull over,
pull out an old chequebook and start writing.
'Cause I had so many ideas in my head
and it was kind of ironic that driving in the car
listening to music gave me the ideas
where I was looking, searching trying to find as it is
they wouldn't have come.
So when you are relaxing you are using
your subconscious mind.
When you're dealing with a conscious mind,
the subconscious mind goes away.
How many of you have tried to relax,
c'mon, try to relax,
and I'm trying but I can't relax.
And I'm trying to sleep,
and I can't sleep.
And I'm trying to remember,
and I can't remember.
Trying is very trying.
Don't try.
Let you subconscious take over,
invite your subconscious mind to relax.
Invite your subconscious mind to send sleep to you.
Invite your subconscious mind to remind you
where you put that document.
Allow yourself to learn habits of relaxation.
But if you want to learn how to relax,
let me take you through it now for just a few minutes.
One of the things that's very important to relax
is to be absolutely,
if you're trying to relax or doing this
and tapping your fingers and doing that.
Not relaxing.
So try and sit in an open position,
hands open, knees apart,
and just breathe.
That helps you.
Just put one hand below your navel,
one hand above.
And if you notice you're just pushing out this upper hand,
you're breathing in a very shallow way.
Make sure the lower hand below the navel
is pushed right out.
And then do those deep belly breaths.
Try to think of your stomach as a bellows.
Fill up the lower, fill up the upper.
Breathe in for a count of four,
hold it for a count of eight,
and exhale for a count of 16.
(mumbles) Let's just do it now.
So breathe in (breathes in).
One, two, three, four.
Hold here for a count
of one, two, three, four, five, six, seven, eight.
(breathes out)
And now I exhale to the count of sixteen
one, two, three, four, five, six,
keep emptying those bellows,
10, 12, 14, 16.
And here's another way to relax,
and this is my favourite way.
Push your shoulders down,
sit in an open position.
You can't relax while you're sitting like that
and tapping your feet and fiddling around.
Separate your hands and feet
so that you can't start playing with your hangnails.
Just watch what I'm doing.
Look up.
Keep your eyeballs up,
keeping your eyeballs up close your eyelids down.
That's the position your eyes go into when you sleep
if you come along someone who's asleep
and lift up their eyelids,
you'll find that you just have whites
'cause our eyes roll up when we sleep.
If you want to relax, go into that sleep position.
Here's how you do it, let's do it again.
Look up.
Keep your eyeballs up, close the eyelids down.
Drop the chin.
And just say, "Relaxation is coming to me,
relaxation is coming to me,
relaxation is descending upon me,
it's covering me like a mist."
You can do that at any time at all.
If you want to make it even more intense,
let's do it again.
Feet apart, knees apart, hands apart.
Look up.
And this time breathe in,
keep looking up, breathe out.
And again, breathe in.
Keep you eyes looking up.
Breathe out.
And just one more time, breathe in.
Keep those eyes looking up.
Hold it.
And this time as you exhale,
keep your eyelids up,
but soon try and see,
close your eyelids right down.
And as you close your eyelids down drop your chin down.
And just imagine you're looking down
10 wooden steps going down to the sand
maybe 10 beautiful steps cut into grass.
Maybe 10 wonderful stone steps going down
to a river.
And just mentally take those steps,
see your feet taking step 10.
Hear your feet connecting to that beautiful step, nine.
Feel your feet touching,
step eight.
As you take step seven just let yourself go.
As you take step six just breathe deeply.
As you take step five and you're halfway down,
just look at the beach, or the meadow, or the water.
As you take step five and four,
just allow each muscle to turn loose
and let loose as you relax.
As you take step three and two relax more.
Take step one, and just allow yourself to relax
and remember as you're doing this you're not going anywhere.
It's rather like sleep, you don't go to sleep.
You don't fall asleep,
you invite sleep to descend upon you like a mist.
And you can invite relaxation to come to you
at any time at all.
Look up, close your eyes.
Allow yourself to relax.
Quiet your mind.
And while you're keeping your mind
on the beautiful stone steps,
the wonderful grass step,
the sandy steps,
whatever steps you're keeping your mind on.
While you're keeping your mind on relaxation
feeling your feet on the steps,
hearing the birds sing,
the water trickle.
Feeling the warmth of the sun on your skin.
While you're hearing that and feeling it
you simply cannot focus on
"Oh my God, I haven't emptied out my inbox,
I need to vacuum the carpet,
I've gotta defrost a chicken,
I need to help my kid with their homework,
I've got a million things to do
and I'm so stressed."
Be like a battery, recharge.
Take your time.
You'll work better if you can take some time for you.
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(blows kiss)
Thank you.
Bye.