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>>> TODAY'S PARENTING SOS, THEY MAY FEEL LIKE THEY'RE MISSING
OUT ON THINGS.
THERE'S FOMO, F-O-M-O, THE FEAR
OF MISSING OUT.
WE SAY ADULTS HAVE THE SAME
FEAR BUT FOR KIDS IT CAN BE
FUELED IF THEY'RE LOOKING AT
FRIENDS' POSES AND -- POSTS.
>> IT'S THE CONSTANT FEEDBACK
WE GET FROM MEDIA, SOCIAL MEDIA
OF BEING APPROVED BY OUR
FRIENDS.
FRIENDS.
FRIENDS. TEEN BRAINS ARE DRIVEN TO
CONNECT WITH THEIR PEERS.
WHEN WE WERE STEINS WE WANTED
-- TEENS WE WANTED TO CONNECT
WITH THEM ON THE PHONE OR THE
MALL.
MALL.
MALL. >>
MALL. >> SOMETIMES I THINK IT'S
UNINTENTIONAL.
UNINTENTIONAL. SOME PEOPLE HAVING FUN, POSTING
A PICTURE AND NOT THINKING
ABOUT WHAT THE OTHER PEOPLE ARE
DOING.
DOING.
DOING. SOMETIMES IT'S INTENTIONAL.
>> RIGHT, JUST LIKE IN ROLE
LIFE PEOPLE ARE SOCIAL GROUPING
IN, SOCIAL GROUPING OUT AND WE
HAVE TO HELP THEM NEGOTIATE
THAT.
THAT.
THAT. >>
THAT. >> WHAT DO YOU SAY?
>> WE NEED TO PRESENT A
FOUNDATION OF BEING ABLE TO
TEACH THEM TO BE ALONE, HOW TO
NOT HAVE THAT CONSTANT
CONNECTION AND HOW TO TOLERATE
THE DISCONNECTION OF NOT HAVING
THAT FEEDBACK AT TIME.
SO WE HAVE TO START BY
MODELING.
MODELING.
MODELING. HOW OFTEN ARE WE CHECKING AND
CAN WE MODEL IN OUR HOUSEHOLDS
THAT WE DON'T HAVE TO PUT
SOMETHING ONLINE.
SOMETHING ONLINE. >> I THINK THERE'S -- IN TERMS
OF HAVING THAT DISCUSSION WITH
YOUR CHILD, DO YOU SIT DOWN --
I CAN SEE MY SON.
LET'S GO TO INSTAGRAM.
WE'RE GOING TO DO THIS.
DO YOU KEEP AN ARM AMES LENGTH
-- ARM'S LENGTH?
>> I LIKE TO BE TRANSPARENT,
TALKING ABOUT OUR OWN
EXPERIENCE AND MODELING, BEING
ABLE TO TALK ABOUT THAT ANXIETY
BECAUSE IT'S LITERALLY ANXIETY
PROVOKING WHEN WE'RE NOT
CONNECTED TO THOSE PEOPLE
ONLINE INTO HOW DO YOU HELP
THEM GET BEYOND THE HURT OF
BEING LEFT OUT.
>> IT'S THE PART OF FIGURING
OUT FRIENDSHIPS.
OUT FRIENDSHIPS. WE CAN'T ELIMINATE THAT.
WE HAVE TO COACH THEM THROUGH,
HELP THEM PROCESS THEIR
EMOTIONS AND PART OF THAT IS
JUST MODELING IT THEMSELVES.
>> IS IT OKAY TO SAY MY FRIENDS
WENT TO THE BEACH LAST WEEKEND
AND DIDN'T INVITE ME.
>> TO ACKNOWLEDGE THAT I WAS
REALLY SAD, REALLY SHAD ABOUT
THAT, SO THIS IS WHAT I DID,
THAT IT'S OKAY TO BE SAD AND
OKAY TO HAVE THOSE FEELINGS AND
WE RECOVER, RIGHT?
SO REALLY FINDING THE TIME AND
PLACES IN OUR FAMILY LIFE TO
HAVE, ESPECIALLY TIMES WHEN --
SO SHE WAS TALKING ABOUT IN THE
LAST SEGMENT.
LAST SEGMENT. THAT SOUNDS SO HARD, RIGHT?
IMPOSSIBLE BUT EVEN HAVING
WEEKS OR HOURS THROUGHOUT THE
DAY WHERE EVERYBODY'S OFF LIEN
AND WE'RE NORMALIZING THAT
EXPERIENCE OF BEING ALONE.
>> I THINK I LEARNED THAT BOTH
KIDS AND ADULTS