What is it like when your ex realizes the breakup with you was a mistake. Let's go
ahead and talk about that. Cause that is not a fun time in this whole journey.
Hey, there it's clay with modern love.life. And in this video, we're going to be talking
about when your ex realizes the breakup was a mistake. You know, I think this has happened
a couple of times with, with me and my big ex I mean, I've told you the story about us over the
past couple of weeks. Definitely the second time and the, and the third time that we broke up,
I think she had this experience where she realized that the breakup was a mistake. She left me,
uh, because I wasn't really in touch with my emotions. And then later on,
we broke up because we just had different things that we wanted in life. But I think both times,
both of those times, she realized that she made the wrong choice
and, uh, sort of picked the wrong guy to move forward with. So she was actually going, uh,
into rebound relationships after all of that. And that that's where this becomes a lot more
difficult for your ex is when they are going into a rebound relationship. I mean,
it's like one thing if you're like, okay, we're going through a breakup, I'm going to feel bad.
I'm going to feel terrible, but I'm going to stand in this fire and figure this stuff out.
That's one thing. But then if you're just going to go into a rebound relationship, then it's like,
okay, now we have something to actually compare this to. And we can realize really quick that
maybe this breakup might've been a mistake. And so what does this actually like? So like for me, the
second time we broke up, when the first time she realized it was a mistake was when she started to
realize how, how much her and her rebound did not have in common, how much this guy wasn't, who she
thought he was going to be, how he was equally. Um, well maybe not equally, but you know,
emotionally had some emotional issues as well. He wasn't this like perfect dude who had everything
emotionally figured out. So there, there was definitely some things that she was regretting
and all of this. And, you know, here, I was trying to level myself up trying to get more in touch
with my feelings, trying to do the best that I could finishing up school, starting my career,
all of that. So, you know, like what I talk about, we always want to be trying to level
ourselves up and doing what we can do to become a better person. Uh, whatever that may mean for
you. Your ex is going to be much more likely to miss you, to want to connect with you
and to believe that they've made some sort of mistake. If you are constantly striving
to level yourself up in one form or other. Okay. So please be doing that. I recommend
everyone do that. No matter where you are in your life, not just if you're in a relationship
or whatever, like all was there, there should be no reason not to level yourself up. I hope I'm
still leveling myself up when I'm, you know, 70, 80 years old or however long I ended up living. I,
I hope I'm always striving to become some better person, a better version of myself. That's,
that's a really interesting experience. That's a really interesting thing that can happen when
there's this sudden realization that like, oh my goodness, I made a mistake in all this. Of course,
you know, you probably feel some sort of, you know, self-righteous of indication or something
like that. That's fine. But like, you know, don't get lost in that feeling of like, yeah, I'm right.
And you're wrong or anything like that. Cause again, that's not a great setup for a
relationship. We want to have relationships where we can feel equal with someone where we actually
have compassion for someone. And it's going to be hard to do that if you're on opposite teams and
you're trying to prove the other person wrong and you're trying to make yourself right. Or anything
like that. So just recognize that that's not a healthy thing. You might feel some sort of sense
of vindication from it and okay, fine. Soak it up for a little bit, but get over it pretty fast.
The second time that she regretted, um, breaking up with me third time we broke up. Um, she, uh,
she ended up getting engaged to the rebound guy. Um, apparently two weeks after we broke up, I
didn't know this because my, you know, our mutual friends were trying to shield me from this.
But eventually after I think it was like two or three months, um, a good friend of mine
told me and he's like, Hey yeah, they, they got engaged. And I was like, oh my goodness. And like,
I went through all sorts of things as a result of that, but clearly obvious rebound relationships
shouldn't have to point that out. Um, but what happened was she, she realized that she made
the wrong choice again, because again, here I was, uh, leveling myself up going after things in life,
getting my foothold in my career, um, trying to do things that I thought were important for me.
And apparently from what I heard from other people like this guy, uh,
started to get depressed. He spent a lot of his time playing video games, not really doing the
things that he was supposed to do. He wasn't like trying to get a job or anything like that.
And, you know, I don't know how much of this is true and how much of this people were just trying
to tell me to make me feel good. But I think that if that was true, I could definitely understand
why she might feel some regret that maybe she made the wrong choice. And the breakup was a mistake.
And what happened was, you know, a couple months down the road, she started blowing up my phone
and calling me, I don't know why at that point, you know, it was kind of a moot point anyway,
cause I decided that, um, I wanted to take my life in a different direction. We weren't compatible
with one another. We wanted different things in life. You know, I wanted to try out some,
some interesting adventurous things in life. She wanted to live this like, uh, really conformist
kind of lifestyle where she could feel safe, just sort of fitting in with the world around her.
And that's, that's fine. That's great. I, you know, I, there's nothing wrong with that. It just
wasn't what I wanted. That, that, of course it did feel good as well too. But um, again, the point
here isn't to hold on to grudges the point here isn't to hold onto this idea that you're right,
your ex is wrong or anything like that. Cause that's just going to be, um, soil that resentment
can grow in. Bitterness can grow in. And I don't want you to be one of these people. That's,
you know, looking back on your relationship with your ex you know, whether you get together or not,
whether you get back together or not, I don't want you to be seeing your ex is like,
yeah, you were wrong. And I was right. Yeah. You, you suck. And I'm, I'm totally got,
got all the answers figured out here. I don't want that to happen because that's not
a good setup for a great relationship. Um, even if you don't actually get back together with your
ex and you carry this with you, you know, I don't want you to become bitter and cynical, you know?
Oh yeah. All women suck. All men suck because I had this one experience with this one person
this one time, right? Like don't, don't carry that forward. And if you do start dating someone else,
look at that person as a blank slate, don't look at them as like, yeah, you're going to cheat on
me, just like my ex date or anything like that. Do your best to let go of it. Do your best to
create something with a blank slate. Even if you're actually getting back together with
your ex, you want to be able to put the past to rest and just move forward together.
Um, as a team, as, uh, as two people that actually care about each other, not two people that like,
uh, are competing with one another or trying to make the other person look bad or trying to
make themselves look good. We want to actually work together as a team, as a collective. So
yeah, maybe your ex made a mistake if they did
come to peace with it, realize that they did it for their own personal reasons. And then, uh, to
the, to the degree possible, get over it and move on so that you can start whatever comes next with
a blank slate. Anyway, um, go ahead and leave a comment down below letting me know
if you're able to see leave, uh, the past in the past and to create a blank slate with you and
whatever happened between your you and your ex. Um, how did you know that your ex uh, regretted
the breakup. Go ahead and leave that story down in the comment section as well to also
go ahead and check out this video playlist over here on getting over a breakup. Anyway,
this has been quite once again, take care. Thanks so much for watching and I'll talk to you.