hey there do you want to help in the stigma that surrounds mental illness and
borderline personality disorder well then don't be like Onision what is
up everybody this is Chris from the rewired soul where we talk about the
problem but focus on the solution and if you're new to my channel my channel is
all about mental health and not only do I try to do some videos about my
experience and topics going on in the YouTube community to see what we can
learn from them I also like doing videos about the stigma that surrounds mental
illness and specific mental illnesses as well anyways if you're into any of that
stuff make sure you subscribe and bring that notification about and let me tell
you something let me tell you something I absolutely hate making videos about
oniisan he is this thing that just feeds off of the attention that he gets and I
do my best not to cover him not to make videos about him usually it's like easy
views and stuff like that but just knowing how much he loves it I hate
doing it but some stuff went down and I felt the need to talk about it in case
anybody heard it in case anybody was impacted by it because the the stigma
around borderline personality disorder specifically really bothers me and I'll
dive more into that a little bit later in this video
anyways to give you some context I'll link this whole thing down below if you
want to go through the nightmare of listening to the whole thing but yeah I
had some people DMing me about oniisan being on kill stream live I
believe the podcast or live stream is and it's like three hours long man it is
like three hours and I am a busy busy dude I do not have the time to listen to
three hours of onesi on so anyways I I was doing some work and I just decided
to listen to like the first part I think I listen like the first thirty minutes
but anyways I heard this part this clip I'm about to share with you and I was
like oh God so again let's let's let's learn from
this and let's do our best not to be like uneasy on anyway so she did that
and we were already like you know warmed up to each other because of everything
that happened that day and everything that was just like the vibe was good or
whatever so yeah I know then she did that and then way down the line she's
pissed off at me and I because I called out people with BPD I said I never want
to be associated someone who was BPD again because when Sarah was here I had
locked myself in my garage while I slept because I was afraid she was going to
kill me because there's a certain vibe that people get who have BPD when you
piss them off so first off first stuff like it's probably for the best that I
you know these women were able to get away from Oni see on especially if he
doesn't like people with borderline personality disorder so ladies out there
if you have borderline personality disorder the good news is that Onision
is not gonna try to date you alright but anyways yeah I wanted to discuss this
because this is one of the most highly stigmatized mental illness and I know a
lot of you here watching this you know you struggle with your own mental health
issues whether it be depression anxiety ADHD trauma whatever it is right and
something that you know bugs me sometimes is that people pick and choose
which mental health issues they want to care about right like the ones I just
listed like depression and anxiety those are the most common ones and sometimes I
see people and they are just like yeah mental health mental health awareness
all this stuff but then it's like oh but that disorder over there
nah not that one and I think when we talk about mental health awareness and
decreasing the stigma it should cover all mental health issues because we're
all struggling there's all different factors and when it comes to borderline
personality disorder specifically I started becoming really passionate about
it um years ago when I was working at the drug and alcohol rehab center I
actually had no idea what this disorder was until I started working with clients
at the rehab who had it was a dual diagnosis treatment facility I'm not a
licensed therapist anything like that I was a liitle um
night coordinator but I did groups for all the clients and I would do
one-on-ones with them and I would help support their recovery after they left
and part of that was like yo take care of her mental health issues right so I
learned about borderline personality disorder and I saw kind of like you know
the symptoms play out in real life with you know emotional regulation issues and
the ups and downs and everything but for some reason I was always able to connect
with the clients who had BPD like I was just like okay like something that I do
when talking to anybody with mental illness like I understand that you know
same thing with me and my you know addiction recovery and my depression and
my anxiety and my childhood trauma like it's a sickness right it's not a person
being a bad person it is a sickness but when I first got really bothered by this
and started to see the stigma was working with therapists at that
treatment center there were so many therapists like we would do like our
morning meetings and stuff and they would pass clients around like oh this
one has BPD I hate working with the client to have borderline personality
disorder like wait what I'm like you're you're a therapist like you got into
this profession to help people and now you're gonna pick and choose which
people you work with like in my opinion like that's not how any of this should
work and I started to empathize with him like I couldn't imagine I couldn't
imagine someone being like oh that guy Chris he has this disorder you know
whatever it is I don't want to work with him right like because here's the thing
that I've learned in my seven and a half years sober in my seven and a half years
working on my mental health is that there's no such thing as a hopeless case
everybody can get better everybody can recover although there's
not a cure for addiction or borderline personality disorder or other forms of
mental illness those might last you your entire life there are ways to manage it
and live an amazing life and I'm living proof of that I've been clean and sober
seven and a half years my depression and anxiety ninety percent of the time
they're under control and that's why I make these videos to try to share that
with you so see you know mental health professionals not wanting to work with
people - borderline personality disorder that really bothered me and that's one
of the reasons I try to educate people about it and I've read a lot of books
about BPD just so I can understand more and understand what helps borderline
personality disorder so I can understand people who have this even more so when I
see somebody like oniisan just on a you know very publicly saying this kind of
stuff it bothers me I think one of the first things that helps people empathize
a little with those who have BPD is understanding the causes of it okay like
when you start to understand the causes of borderline personality disorder
rather than just looking at the person and their symptoms and you know some of
their behaviors it helps you empathize and understand so one of the first
causes of borderline personality disorder is genetics alright there's
some science around this where BPD can be passed down through generations
alright that's not the person's fault you know what I mean like if if a person
was you know born with any kind of physical illness or disease right like
it's the same thing with a lot of forms of mental illness and borderline
personality disorder is one of those okay so one of the causes of BPD is
trauma and there is scientific evidence that trauma can be passed down through
generations alright because trauma can affect your gene so you get traumatized
affects your genes you get the hippity-dippity on you have a kid that
kid might develop trauma or a lot of anxiety based on the genes associated
with trauma right but even more saddening to me is one of the primary
causes of borderline personality disorder and most of the people I've met
who struggle with this disorder their BPD stems from childhood trauma and
abuse alright a lot of people with BPD grew up
in very abusive households alright we're talking about emotional abuse verbal
abuse you know a lot of what the symptoms of BPD come from is this kind
of chaotic relationship with caregivers okay
and something I've been learning more about is different attachment Styles so
when somebody grows up in that type of household it affects their relationships
later on because one of the other symptoms of borderline personality
disorder is this intense fear of abandonment right so you combine this
fear of abandonment with emotional regulation issues it makes it hard for
people to be in relationships so when I see somebody like oniisan just like
talking all this trash about somebody with BPD it's like you need to
understand that there are things that might be you know genetic or stemming
from childhood trauma especially because somebody like me see on his some one of
the excuses that he likes to use is his childhood abuse his childhood trauma so
we need to understand that about other people and don't get me wrong like I
said it is a great thing the less most people that book that only Seattle date
the better for this entire planet okay but I want all of you out there to learn
from this and not be like oh nice Eon and start understanding borderline
personality disorder a little bit more the video I did yesterday on ozark like
check it out like this is one of the reasons why I try to promote people
being educated about these disorders you might fall in love with somebody with
borderline personality disorder and if you love them and you want that
relationship to work you will educate yourself and see how to be with somebody
who has borderline personality disorder now just like somebody like me see on
this does not give you a pass to be a jerk and not work on yourself borderline
personality disorder is treatable and one of the best forms of therapy for it
is something called dialectical behavioral therapy I've had a lot of you
you rewired soldiers out there leave comments down below and say that DBT
helped save your life and your BPD is under control so anybody out there who
struggles with borderline personality disorder like you don't gotta listen to
me look at the comets look at the people
saying that yeah this thing works you know because DBT is highly highly around
managing emotions right noticing these emotions and these thought patterns that
are arising in your relationships and working on those symptoms you know what
I'm saying so anyways I just want to make this video real quick again if you
want to help decrease the stigma around mental illness as a whole not just
specific ones don't be like oh nice young alright anyways that's all I got
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