In the previous video, we talked about Master's and Johnson's cycle of sexual arousal, and I described for you the first two stages:
excitement and plateau. There are two more. Orgasm, and resolution.
*whip, throat clearing*
When somebody asks me about orgasms I immediately think of The Fifth Element.
In the future, earth has hover taxis, and insta-chicken.
*silly voice* Chi-cken
It is a really crazy, kind of beautiful place.
And it is going to be hit by an evil orb of hate.
Unless future Earth Government can gather up these four stones, basic elements, earth, wind, fire, water, and the fifth, the supreme being, to save the planet.
Leeloo, orange hair.
Here's a spoiler alert. So at the very end of The Fifth Element there are four bricks: earth, wind, fire, water.
And she's lying there, wondering why we're going to preserve the planet when it's such a wretched place.
War, starvation, poverty.
And Bruce Willis holds her in his arms, hoping that Leeloo will activate these stones and send out this energy that is going to save the planet from the evil orb of hate.
And love, love saves the planet. *Supernatural beam sound*
Love and Bruce Willis.
Alright, so this is how I would explain orgasms. Not all orgasms are like this, not all of my orgasms are like this.
This is a very unscientific description. But the sentiment about orgasms usually is, "You'd know it if you had one."
It's terse, but true.
If you're not having an orgasm, that's not so uncommon. Lots of people are pre-orgasmic, meaning they haven't had an orgasm,
Or anorgasmic meaning they've had one but aren't having them now.
The top number one solution for those of you not cumming is to masturbate.
If you have hangups about touching your body, then dealing with those is a prerequisite step.
You absolutely have the right and responsibility to navigate your own body.
How does that happen?
Boys have getting erections as early as in the womb, then these little erections popping up spontaneously
bump up against something, like the chair of the couch or their hand, and it feels good, so it reinforces them to do it again and again.
They may not be ejaculating until let's say twelve, thirteen.
But by then, they've figured out the whole jacking, pumping, stroking, grinding thing.
Sometimes girls figure it out early too and they get on the same track as the boys
but more often, I see women who have tried it out by penetrating because they haven't been told that the clitoris is actually the organ of pleasure
and they put their fingers in, it feels slimy, kind of like picking their nose
or going to the dentist, and this is not reinforced them to seek more masturbation.
"Yeah, why would I do that again?"
Then in high school or college someone gives this young woman permission to try again
with stimulating other parts of her anatomy.
Tries for a while and then they hit a wall. This is extremely frustrating. How couldn't it be? They know that orgasm is on the other side.
(quietly) Help!
Masturbation is a step in the direction. You can't expect that you're gonna have an orgasm after a few months of trying
just as the youth was masturbating, masturbating, masturbating, even before orgasm ever happened. Give yourself some time to get there.
My hope is that by sharing with you Master's and Johnson's model, you'll be able to queue into the physiological changes in your body
and see how far away you are from getting over that wall.
When anyone does orgasm, here's the Master's and Johnson's breakdown of what happens.
For biosex males, they reach this point of no return
*Squeal* They can't stop.
Internal reproductive organ contract, their seminal vesicles, their vas deferens, their ejaculatory duct and prostate.
The internal sphincter of the bladder also contracts, this prevents the semen from going backward and blocks urine.
And then big ba-da-boom! There are two-to-three sensations of "I'm-I'm-I'm!"
And then the sphincter relaxes so that semen can pass through and then in contractions of .8 seconds
*three booming noises*
So, on the biosex female side.
There are noticeable spasms of the orgasmic platform and a rippling from inside out.
Three to fifteen contractions in the same intervals as biosex males.
Then a release of tension, followed by slower, weaker contractions.
For all orgasmic bodies, we're talking about twice as many heartbeats per minute, and many, many more breaths.
Typically biosex males don't have serial orgasms, they go into what's called a refractory period: where their body is unable to go into the arousal cycle again
for seconds to days.
Biosex females are known to have serial orgasms.
One after the other, after the other, after the other.
Not one, not two, not three, but four.
So, if the stages look like excitement, plateau, orgasm, resolution, or a longer excitement with a short plateau, orgasm, and resolution
a serial orgasm would be something like this:
*Beep beep beep beep beep*
In any case, the body does not stay in this elevated state, heart rate, breathing, fluids ejaculating.
It goes through resolution, which is the final stage of Master's and Johnson's model.
This is when the body returns to homeostasis.
The erection goes down, sex flush fades, heart rate, breathing. The body is like it was before sex, except maybe healthier and happier.
If you're interested in learning more about how sexologists describe sexual arousal, check out the six I've listed below.
Or design your own model, and post it online