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regular basis what you're about to see is an interview with one of my students
James James spent a lot of time with me doing all of my NLP trainings and even
doing coaching with me and he's a great example of what the possibilities are
with NLP and what you can do with your life using NLP take a look
James is somebody who started showing up at my workshops a few years back when I
was doing more live workshops and then we became friends and he's also he's
happened to take him pretty much every one of my trainings if we had my
practitioner training transforming yourself did some individual coaching
and so anyway he was telling me some things about what he got out of the
trainings when he got out of the coaching and I said wait wait let's get
this on video we're here in Hanoi Vietnam and firmly
James James lives in Bangkok Thailand which he didn't always move there what
eight months ago yes eight months ago well if you were saying that there were
certain things you didn't think he would have done I did not look for the
trainings what were some of those things I yeah I never really quite realized it
but I had an event in my when I was younger when I was a child and it was
kind of traumatic I mean not it wasn't I mean I didn't really think too much
about it but I created a fear of safety within me and I before you have taken
your trainings I wasn't really aware that this was a thing so I was afraid of
lots of things afraid of running out of money like it wouldn't feel safe unless
I had a certain amount of money or travel I would just even to simple
things like from California to Nevada to go to Las Vegas remember we were having
that coaching session and I just kept asking like what do you want and
eliciting these values and really working on that and you said well you
know I wanna go check out Las Vegas just your I think you were considering moving
there right yeah and so I was like okay so you know are you going to do this
he's like yeah yeah and I said okay what are you gonna book the ticket and you
said like I'll do it tomorrow I said I'm gonna call you tonight and make sure
that you've done it and I remember you kind of like because that's what usually
happens when it's like okay now it's time to take that actually people kind
of go oh wait a minute that's right this this is time to take action and you did
it there 24 hours you booked yeah yeah so I
I booked it I was on the trip and it's kind of like at afterwards I was I was I
afraid of why why it was you know what was actually holding me back from doing
this I mean is after I you know I did it it was no big
deal and I think I mean it's hard to like put
my finger on it but it's unlocked something inside of me and the following
year I took a trip out to Thailand and this was the first time for me to leave
the US and leave the country and I just fell in love with it and the next year I
took another trip and then now I'm living in Bangkok so I think you know
whatever whatever it was just having that that block state or that limiting
belief just removed just kind of freed me to do things that actually make me
happy and fulfill my values I remember being very surprised nothing he booked a
trip to Las Vegas that's really not a big deal to an hour and 20 minute play
in California but when you said you know I really
wanna take this trip to Bangkok and I was thinking to myself wow that it was
so unlike you and how I knew you up to that point I mean I knew that you wanted
to talk about doing things like that and then suddenly he's you're like I have
bought a plane ticket and then when you came back you're like I want to live
there I want to save up some money and go lived and I'm thinking wow I mean
he's really serious about this because before you couldn't even buy a plane
ticket to Las Vegas now you're talking about living in Bangkok yeah and then
you're like yeah I'm doing this thing and I'm glad you stuck around for the
rest of the practitioner training you completed but right after that he took
off and that was impressed very impressed yeah I think I think what I
really got out of going to all the workshops and
the practitioner it wasn't it wasn't just like taking one workshop and I was
like okay I found the magic key no it was just kind of the process of learning
all these techniques and in a real sense and exploration of myself and who I am
and my potential what I could be and really gave me the tools to understand
you know was getting in my way and kind of opening up those resources that I I
had inside me but you know I had some bad programming that
just wouldn't let me tap into this I mean that's what I really got most out
of it is I think getting a skill sets it's not learning XYZ technique and then
you know all your problems are solved having the skill set to identify those
wins when I'm in this stuff state or when something that's not working right
and just beating her to work on it finding find solutions
thank you for that well you did the work though that was that's Aikido I mean I
can put the stuff in front of ya when you kept showing up you kept going every
single training and then you wanted coaching we did that so yep definitely
were you were serious about it you kept showing up you kept doing it
and you practice like certain area you'd come back to me and say okay I'm kind of
stuck here having trouble with this and then when I had that practice for you
showed up to that a lot you're talking about like techniques and you know
limiting beliefs and for some people who are watching they might Sharon really
understand that so I think the simplest way that it's sort of explaining this
thing about your life before you know be training and then think about your life
after then it'll they don't be training two different things that you did not be
training you've done with manage that the only NOP training for the most part
I think I had read Tony Robbins book before I met you and maybe watch one or
two YouTube videos but then that's no your life before and I'll be training
your life after and I'll be training what would you how would you make that
and before before having NLP training I think I would just I would just get it I
mean sometimes life would be going okay you going fine and then other moments it
would just I would just be gonna get depressed or feel down or or maybe I
just get friction in my life and I don't know how to move forward and it's I
didn't I didn't really understand why is just I had these problems and I thought
oh maybe maybe because I'm depressed I need to go to see a therapist like want
to see a therapist may after a few sessions it didn't I wasn't getting any
results I think before really knowing an Okie I didn't I didn't really understand
how I got into these states these stucks AIDS or unrestorable states states where
I wasn't being effective in life filling values and it wasn't
and who I could be and it just it just seemed random sometimes I would be doing
well sometimes it would and yeah sorry I mean I knew there like I kept searching
for something I knew there was a way I knew there was a pattern here that I
wasn't recognizing and that wasn't it I just didn't quite have the tools and I
think I was just at a point in my life I was like okay you know I'm just gonna
look at meetup.com and you know see what's out there maybe there's other
people out there working on this and practicing on it and that's that's how I
meant Damon I went to one of his at the time he was doing meetups and he was
just keeping information away for free or at very low cost and I went to one of
these I went to my first workshop with him and
I got a great set of tools and and and I just I just wanted to take that further
and see you know what else can I change and how how can I improve things and I
never I mean having taken your workshops I've never fallen back to the point
before knowing NLP training I've never gotten stuck in it and a
really depressed state or Unruh sourcils state where I didn't feel confident that
I have the skills and I have the techniques to get myself out of it or to
you know realize what was stopping me I think I mean going back to this I
think that's the greatest thing about what I got from from all the workshops
and the practice is getting the skill set to to get myself to a resourceful
state and going for it in the future I sort of expected that I'll have moments
when I'm down or stuck but I I feel confident that's you know there is a way
out and I have tools to help me get it's kind of like driving a car and you
know nothing about a car like you don't know how to change the oil you don't fix
it or anything and you can just break down and you don't
know what's wrong with the car you don't know how to fix it so you have to depend
on someone else or you can learn them journey of life and you have that skill
set that's when it obvious and those understanding is that if you
do break down you gotta fix it yourself back on the road going
but I would like to ask you a little bit maybe go a little bit more general are
away from the you're still talking like a lot of you know key concepts I don't
know it becomes normal shift you learned it for a while but just like because
when I look at you when I think of you when I first met you versus you know
like your life than your life now who you are who you were then who you are
now I mean I can describe it but I don't want to describe not maybe I'll describe
it after you describe it but you know just in a few brief sentences your life
before you're just kind of where this life and then what your life is like now
there's a striking contrast you know between your who you were then where you
are now I think what I mean before really having
understood NLP I had a lot of confidence issues that I kept going back to this
and I didn't realize I was doing this but I had a lot of self-worth issues and
I would get some success in my life but then I would feel like oh I'm just not
good good enough so I would I wouldn't pursue maybe career opportunities or
maybe dating opportunity so I would think oh this girl's to accomplish
they're too beautiful for me I'm not good enough and I would sabotage the
situation and so it was this constant frustration inside me
I felt a part of me knew I could do these things
but I just have this deep-rooted belief that kept telling me like once right
when I would feel like I'd be about to achieve what I want something inside me
would tell me no you're not should enough deserve this for whatever reason
it and just let it go or ignore job
opportunities so it was just really a life of mutt
that's how I would describe it is I knew I could do better but for some reason I
I wasn't sometimes I do get in moments where I see those beliefs coming up
that self-doubt but then I I realized you know I catch it I'm really aware of
it now so I catch it and I oh this is uh this is that that limiting belief and
then I have the tools to kind of look through it and I really I feel like I
mean I think it's a never-ending process you're always trying to go up to the
next level and once you get to that next level you start discovering you know
there's these other beliefs or maybe other branches of that limiting belief
or manifesting themselves so it's constantly improving and working on it
but I would say that I'm actual izing so much more of my potential and doing a
lot of the things that I wanted to do but I wouldn't allow myself to do
it's I mean it's not where I want to be and I mean I still have that you know I
think it's I think it's good to kind of never be quite satisfy the laws keep
trying to do better and achieve more and do more things and get more out of life
the person I met before the person on that before he shifted over was a person
who just kind of like in a routine and by the way correct me if I'm wrong about
you were kind of in a routine and you thought what this is just how it is you
wake up every morning go to a job and this is just how it goes and then I
would ask you so that I still do this I ask you know this life is gonna be like
for you in five years when you know what do you want to do
you want to do and back then it was like what you wanted and what you were doing
there was no connection whatsoever I remember we were in the Red Room I think
that we were having this conversation and I said so how are you gonna get from
this point to this point and your mind just like went blank like there was no
connection there whatsoever and so I would have these conversations where are
we it's asking you questions to fill in
those gaps and suddenly you started going into that like connecting with
reality connecting with what how does that actually happen how do I get from
this point to that point and pop are like stepping into that we would do that
exercise sooner and I've just stepped into the end point and then work your
way there so what I would say is what I see now as a person who's living an
adventure living life on your own terms living a much happier life whereas
before you weren't living on your own terms you were living on other people's
parts like your job or your job or even in like dating situations
kind of it's living in this programming that wasn't serving very well didn't
they weren't really conscious of it and so by becoming conscious of it and then
also doing those exercise the real sensory experience got you to start
seeing and feeling and hearing how this thing is going to work suddenly you
started making these decisions and suddenly you're you know you're off to
Bangkok suddenly you're going to Bangkok again with me and then suddenly you're
like I'm there I'm moving there and we said hey let's meet up in Vietnam here
we are in Vietnam so definitely a person who you you have
shifted quite a bit it's under you can't really see it from the outside but and
when you put annapolis t on the inside sometimes you're not so aware of it but
it's so blatantly obvious to me and I'm sure to a lot of other people
during that you didn't you just not only you're in a different location and doing
different things you seem like a different person not a bad way of course
sir you seem more relaxed BC more at home with yourself and it ease with
yourself and then happy with the way your life is going
that's a really good way to put it yeah definitely at ease with myself and
Graham I mean that's what life is all about if you're waiting for something or
if you're waiting so you make more money you get better at
something or you're deserving of it you got it you gotta start now again
it's not going I'm happy to say we're doing that
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