Who says this to people stop saying this to people please please stop telling people that you
accidentally hi i'm hannah the wife without kids this channel is all about building a positive and
non-judgmental community for people like you who have made the choice to live a child-free life as
a child-free person do you ever feel that people don't see your choice to live child free as very
beneficial or valuable it can be really easy to come to this conclusion because of all of
the questions and comments that are directed at us when people find out that we're child free
those comments and questions can often be intrusive uncomfortable judgmental and a
little bit rude i asked this question on my instagram and i got a lot of responses
in this video i'm going to share the things that people need to stop saying to child free people
but come on kids are such a joy if you do not want to be a parent having kids would
not be a joyful experience in fact joyful is probably the last word i
would use to describe someone who becomes a parent that does not want to be a parent
hair when money is tight you'll figure out the costs and things will just take care of themselves
this one really rubs me the wrong way because i am such a planner when it comes to finances and
i follow a budget so to just think about winging it and oh we'll just figure it out when it happens
i can't even this like stresses me out to think that parents just wing it and don't have a
financial plan because i think you should always have a financial plan not just with kids with
basically life i declare bankruptcy once the child is here you will learn to love them i mean yes for
some people this is true and i have heard people who say they had no desire to be a parent and then
they got pregnant and they had their baby and you know things turned out and they didn't realize how
much they could love a little baby but let's be honest if you start out that journey really not
wanting kids it just might not turn out like that i mean those are best case scenarios but it's not
like that for everybody and if you really don't love your kid the way that a parent who desired
a child would love their kid it's really to the detriment of the child and that's just not fair
robin it's just a phase and you'll get over it like the way that people get over fashion
phases or hairstyles i don't really think so this is talking about a human life somebody
that you are going to be responsible for for a really really long time you can't just on a whim
turn your feelings off and on it doesn't work like that but you would make such a good parent
false why do people pace that off of the fact that i can interact with children and they like
me and they think i'm fun the fact that i can make their kid laugh i think the start of a good
parent is somebody that actually wants to be a parent that is the definition the start of the
definition of a good parent sometimes people want kids doesn't always necessarily mean
that they are good parents if you're going to start on the journey of having a child
you should actually really want that child assuming that somehow you're just going to slide
into the role of being a parent and everything's going to be perfect and wind up okay is very
naive just in case you're thinking i might have a fancy setup i don't simple stand and a bucket
that was dirty that i wiped off before i sat on it i think there's something in my hair
okay hang on i feel it yeah there's something in my hair okay whatever by the time i was your age
i already had four kids good for you i'm my age and i have zero kids because i don't want any
who will take care of you when you're old you'll regret your choice when you're old
and have no one to look after you i made a video about that right here go ahead and check it out
what if your future husband wants kids well then he's not the future husband that's right
for me because my future husband isn't going to want kids and in fact my future husband or
current husband i guess i'm already married he doesn't want kids either why would you even get
married if you're not going to have kids that's a ridiculous question marriage is not just reserved
for people who are going to procreate and have children people who don't want kids are allowed
to get married marriage is all about two people who decide they want to spend their lives together
it doesn't necessarily have anything to do with children unless of course you wanted to
you don't know what you want eventually you're going to change your mind how are so many people
sure that i'm going to change my mind they don't even know me i mean they don't know me that well
how can a stranger or someone i don't know very well know me better than i know myself look there
are people that change their minds absolutely 100 and it's okay to change your mind if you decide
after a while hey you know what i want to be a mom i want to be a dad i want kids
there's totally nothing wrong with that you're allowed to change your mind but just because some
people change their mind doesn't mean everybody's going to change their mind and it's okay to not
change your mind accidents happen i hope you accidentally get pregnant who says this
who says this to people stop saying this to people please please stop telling people that
you accidentally want them to get pregnant when they don't want to be parents that is
not something that we should be saying to people like ever it's different when it's your own child
well of course it's going to be different if it's your own child most parents love their own
children better than they love somebody else's children because you made the child you were
pregnant with the child you birthed the child you're going to feel a different connection to
your own child than you would somebody else's but that doesn't mean that the idea of having a child
is going to change your mind just because it's your own child maybe some people don't like kids
i mean that's not the case for me but some people just don't like kids there are plenty of parents
who don't particularly like their own children he's going to leave you eventually and start a
family trying to threaten or scare people into having children is so completely inappropriate
i'm pretty sure most couples have the talk of whether or not they want kids long before they
decide to be together so their partner already knows and more than likely if they're together
their partner is on board with that decision it's not something that the woman just
tricked the man into or that the man is going to trick the woman into getting pregnant
so that he can feel fulfilled people are having these conversations together and they
are deciding together to not have children so please please don't say this to people
what else are you going to do with life there's no meaning to life if you don't have kids that is one
person's opinion it is just not a fact people can feel fulfilled and have meaning in life doing a
variety of different things i'm not even going to start mentioning anything here because there are
a million ways that you can feel satisfied in life and for some people that means kids and for
other people it means no kids what do my parents think about my choice to not have kids well i am
an adult which means i get to make that choice for myself my parents wanted kids and so they
had me and my siblings i choose not to have kids at the end of the day you are an adult and you get
to make that decision can your parents have an opinion sure but that doesn't mean that's going
to change your mind nor should it change your mind you get to make the decision all on your own
you understand that what i'm telling you is a universal truth so you might be asking yourself
how can somebody even feel valuable when you get these constant negative remarks said to you
here's how you're valuable just because you are you the fact that you are a human being
that walks on the earth that is an individual makes you valuable other people's opinions of you
do not make you valuable lately there's been a lot of talk that us child free
people are causing a crisis in the u.s because birth rates are plummeting to
see my thoughts on that topic go ahead and click the video that appears on your screen
thanks so much for watching remember you are never alone and i will see you next week
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