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Hey there, welcome back to AmyTV.
Are you not feeling like yourself?
I get it.
I have been in a situation
where I was feeling so discouraged.
As a matter of fact, not too long ago.
I've been going through sort of these waves of
something is not quite right.
I don't feel like myself.
I feel like I could be doing better.
I could be doing better emotionally, mentally, physically,
everything you can think of, all the ways
I could be better.
But when you're in this state
and you're just not going anywhere,
you don't feel like it's getting better at all
ever at any point in time
and it's just this constant state of discouragement.
At some point, you have to decide
you have to do something about it,
which is why I think you clicked on this video.
So today, I want to talk about what I do, in particular,
when I'm going through a little bit of a struggle,
A little bit of a struggle to stop being discouraged,
to get more motivated, to come out of a funk.
These are the things that I do,
and so maybe, if you're going through that right now,
this will be helpful for you.
Before we get started, I just want to remind you
to subscribe to this channel.
I make new videos every Sunday and Wednesday
helping you go after the life that you want
and I'd love to see you here for the next one.
Okay, let's just talk about it.
Things suck right now.
You're just, like, why am I even doing this?
Why am I even trying?
Well, the first thing I want you to do
is respect the moment.
What goes up must always come down,
and what is currently down only has one place to go.
So you have to sit in this and go, hmm,
you know, this is just not my best moment.
This is not my very best life.
I'm trying very hard to make every day better,
every month better, every year better,
everything better, but there are going to be waves
and there are going to be moments
when you're in that valley.
By respecting this moment by saying, you know what,
it has to happen sometimes, you are respecting the process,
the process that is life that is not always fabulous
all the time.
Doesn't matter what Instagram's trying to tell you.
The moment you can respect what's happening right now,
the more you're gonna be grateful
and respect what's happening later
when you're on the up and up again.
Next, you're gonna hate me, but I gotta tell you,
this is gonna work.
I'm telling you it's going to work.
You gotta move your butt.
It's hard.
It sucks.
It might mean you actually have to go to your PT sesh
and suffer through it but, when you are done,
you know it sucks how much you love that you did it
and you feel the increase in happiness,
you feel the increase in energy,
and your state has changed.
Tony Robbins talks about this all the time, right?
Change your state.
If you want to change something,
you need to change your state,
and movement and getting your body going
is, by far and away,
the first and most important thing you should do
in that respect.
Moving is so hard when you're feeling down.
Smiling is super hard when you're feeling sad.
But the reason it is is because
it is your first challenge to getting on your way
to a more productive and less discouraged
and more exciting life.
Get back up on that hill and out of the valley.
You've got to make at least one change.
Sit there where you are, take a look around.
If you're not feeling good,
you're feeling a bit down,
and you're, like, hmm okay, what am I watching?
What am I listening to?
What am I surrounded by?
What am I wearing?
What am I up to?
What am I committed to?
When you really start wrapping your mind around
your state of discouragement, and sadness maybe,
and think about all the things
that are happening around you or condoning your behavior,
such as hanging out in your house robe
for a little bit too long.
It feels good though.
Make one little change.
Maybe the big change was actually going to the gym.
That's a good start, that's awesome.
But now make another little change.
Maybe you shouldn't spend that extra hour on television.
Okay? Maybe we shouldn't be watching so much.
Maybe you're listening to morning radio,
I don't know who listens to the radio,
but more likely a podcast
where somebody makes a living complaining,
and so you're just listening to complaining all the time.
What's that doing to you?
Make a change.
Listen to something else.
Try something new.
Throw on a happiness playlist on Spotify.
I don't know.
Just make a little change and notice the difference.
Write down what is going on.
We have talked a lot about morning pages here.
Doesn't have to be morning pages.
Doesn't have to be longhand.
Maybe you feel a little bit more freehand
when you're typing.
It's up to you.
Just write something down.
The biggest thing I want to see from you here
is being able to get past those thoughts
that are in the front of your mind.
The constant, constant, constant don't feel good.
I'm not happy.
I'm not really feeling excited or productive.
I'm not feeling ambitious.
I'm not feeling like myself.
Write it out, write it out, write it out,
and get it out of your head
so that maybe we can tap into some other feeling
or thought or idea that might be hiding behind it.
Once you start to have that breakthrough,
you realize, okay, there's something in there
that I really want to focus on more
than the other crap that I've been focusing on.
How do you do that?
Get it out of your head.
Get it into real life.
Tomorrow, when you wake up,
try five minutes earlier than usual.
If you've been super discouraged and hitting the alarm,
you know what time you meant to wake up
and you know what time you actually got out of bed.
Whatever that time is that you got out of bed,
just set your alarm for five minutes before that.
Be realistic with yourself.
Don't go crazy.
Don't say, like, well Amy said
I have to wake up at 5:00 a.m.,
so I guess I gotta wake up at 5:00 a.m.,
but I haven't been rolling out of bed until 7:30.
Be realistic with yourself.
Instead of trying to force the big change,
make a simple one.
Five minutes.
Just that little accomplishment of five minutes
can completely change your mindset for the rest of the day.
Maybe you don't start bumming on the couch
as soon as you might have otherwise,
or maybe you actually feel like you are more prepared,
more ready for work or school
because you gave yourself that extra five minutes.
How often are you five minutes late to work?
And you're like, where could I have gotten
that five minutes?
Now you might be thinking of some people
who are holding you back around you,
and I want you to come up with your negativity rebuttal.
Ideally, this is not going to be a super negative comment
back to somebody who's not really being very encouraging.
Although we love those moments
when we come up with the best,
the best response we could've said to someone,
but we forgot to say it in the moment
cause we didn't have it yet
and we came up with it later and it's super frustrating.
We don't even really want that.
We just want our best selves responding to somebody
who is not being their best selves to us
and who we feel might be making us
a lesser version of who we truly are.
Could be somebody in your office,
could be somebody at home,
could be somebody you see every day,
could be a family member that's trying to hold you back
cause they're discouraged too.
What is your rebuttal to that negativity
when you know it's incoming?
Because we all often screw this up
and then feel like lesser versions of ourselves
with the way that we've handled it.
So how can you prepare yourself for what's going to happen?
Something that is very foreign to me
when I'm upset with somebody
and how they're frustrated with me or talking to me
in a way that I think is demeaning or negative,
or maybe they didn't even realize what they're doing.
I smile at them,
which is, if you know me, pretty weird.
I mean, I'm a smiler, but I'm not like a smiler, right.
So usually, that freaks people out enough
to go on and potentially correct what they just said.
It gets weird, but you better believe
it's the best rebuttal that I could ever come up with.
Now on that note of smiling, why don't you think of somebody
who actually does make you smile and talk to them?
It could be a young person who is super, super naive,
which is the most delightful converation to have,
if you ask me.
Or maybe it's someone close to you
or maybe it's someone that's not that close to you
and you need to reach out to them
and come up with the courage to ask them,
hey, can I just chat with you for 30 minutes.
That's something you can look forward to.
That's something that you can sit in and enjoy
and actually become more uplifted because of it.
So why aren't you doing more of that?
Why aren't you talking to more people who make you smile?
Make time for it.
Find a way.
And the last thing I wanna say before you go on
and do something about the current state that you are in
is I want you to believe.
I want you to believe that this is not forever.
I want you to believe that this is not everything.
I want you to believe you are better than this.
And I want you to believe that you can do it
because you have to do it.
No one else is gonna do it for you.
I can sit here and tell you till I'm blue in the face
how life's gonna get better.
And I gotta tell myself that sometimes too.
But I know that, no matter how many people tell me,
I have to do it on my own and I believe that I can.
And I have to instill myself with that belief every day
so that it will continue
and so I want you to do the same.
Believe that you're capable of it because you are.
I hope this was a helpful place for you to start
if you're not feeling at your best at the moment.
We have an entire four
or three and a half months or something left in the year.
This could still be your best year ever
if you just do something about it.
I want to hear from you.
What do you typically do when you are discouraged,
when you know you have to do something different?
I want us to all share with each other in the comments
so that we can continue to make life a little bit better
every single day, incrementally.
It may not happen overnight, but just those simple changes.
Let's do it.
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and I really appreciate it.
That's all for today.
Thank you so much for tuning in.
I appreciate it.
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and remember to continue to go after the life that you want.
Cheers.
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