Hey everbody!
Michael Gebben here and I'm super excited to be with you on another awesome Wednesday.
So, I'm pumped!
I freakin' hit 1000 subscribers this week, actually yesterday.
It's pretty freakin' awesome.
So, thank you each and every one of you for subscribing to this channel, watching the
videos, sharing them with your friends.
I truly, truly appreciate it.
I'm eternally grateful for you guys.
I'm gonna keep rockin' these out each and every week.
So today is a kinda' touchy subject.
The subject of depression.
I've been getting a lot of messages from people who, it seems to be a reoccurring thing, this
idea of being lost, this idea of not being good enough, things aren't gonna work out,
being really scared.
Those things suck and I'll tell you right now that I know exactly where you guys are
coming from.
We all have different variations of it so we can't judge that yours is worse than mine
or mine is worse than yours, or anything like that.
We all have our own versions and they suck.
That's the bottom line.
And so I just wanna give you guys some pointers today of some things that I've used in my
life to help me through these difficult times.
One thing to realize is you're not alone.
And I know it sounds cliché.
I know people tell you that, "Oh look, no crap, there's other people who go through
it but I'm going through it."
It's you, you're the one who feels it right now and I get that.
100% I get that.
That is the truth.
Remember that.
You aren't alone.
Secondly, it won't ever fully go away, just fully where it never bothers you ever again.
The thing is there's a lot of things- bad, good, whatever it is, nothing happens all
the time.
I guarantee, even if you're depressed, you have little moments that you'll laugh or you
smile.
I hope you do it right now.
But, the reality is, where do you live in the majority?
That's what's important for me and in my life.
Not that I don't have bad days, not that I don't have bad thoughts, not that I don't
have negative things happen, blah, blah, blah, the list goes on and on.
But before, I lived in that bad place all the time.
It was the majority.
It was a daily thing.
I could put on a little show from time to time to act happy but really, the majority
at that time, I was stressed, I was scared, I didn't know what to do.
I had a buddy who passed away a few years ago.
I had my business was actually doing really well but I was so overwhelmed I didn't know
what to freakin' do.
I was still doing weddings.
I had so many weddings they were so far behind, 9 months behind.
I was never proud of that.
But I was scared to death I couldn't even go out of the house and won't answer the phone.
I was afraid somebody's gonna call being super upset.
And as in my other video, "Difficult conversations or confrontation," I hated that.
I avoided it like the plague.
I finally got all that stuff under control but the big thing was in 2010, I felt like
there were people in my life that were bringing me down, that were negative, that weren't
supportive of me, that just ended up themselves (even if it didn't have to do with me), they
were toxic.
They were negative all the time and I didn't know how to help them.
So one of the things I did is let go of that in my life.
That's the thing I wanna encourage with you, whether it's your Facebook feed, if you've
got people who are negative all the time, get them out of there, ban them, hide them,
whatever.
Get the people out of your life that aren't supportive.
Whether it's even just you or in general, whether they're just negative all the time,
always bringing down.
That is not going to get you out of the state that you're in.
Number 2, low information diet.
I learned this from Tim Ferriss and I've really taken this pretty hard core and some people
say, "Woah, I've got to know about the news and I've got to know about this and that and
all these things that are happening all the time."
You really don't.
For me, it's never fully affected me in any way shape or form.
Turning on the news at 9:00 at night and seeing all these people that have gotten shot and
all these bad things happening, same new Facebook feed, anywhere you go in the media, it's nothing
but negative typically.
So I do shelter myself.
I find all the things, the people, the places, the things, the songs, the music, the movies,
everything that's positive that's gonna lift me up.
It's gonna reinforce great things in my life.
And to realize it's not all or nothing.
That you don't have to be happy all the time or mad all the time, it doesn't have to be
one or the other.
But what it can be is you can live in the majority of being happy.
You can find the positive and the negative because what you focus on, as the things I
said last week, "Change your mind.
Change your life."
What you focus on will continue to grow, will continue to happen.
So if you keep focusing on all the bad things are gonna continue to happen.
So change that, get rid of it all, don't live in the past anymore, live in the present.
You guys can do this.
I truly, truly believe in you and great things will happen.
Leave it all there.
Stop it today and move forward.
Get the crap out of there.
You can do it.
You really, really can do it because it's where you live, in the majority.
The majority, the time for me now, I literally can go weeks, weeks at a time.
But like clockwork, after a few weeks, I go hardcore, I'm happy and things are working
and just, even if it's not working, I still see impossibly.
That's just who I am now but I'll still hit a few days, a day at least, or a couple days
where I'm just off, I'm irritable, I'm grouchy, I just don't feel it.
I'm just off.
And like clockwork now, for a little while now, that's how it's been.
I go a few weeks hard core, all cylinders, everything's good even if bad things are happening,
I usually can spin 'em around pretty quick and then I'll have a few days where I'm just
like, "wwuuughh...."
But I'm conscious of it now.
I'm conscious of it.
And that's the final thing.
Be conscious of these things you're doing and recognize them so you can stop them, so
you can nip them in the bud very quickly.
Because that's the thing.
We might somewhat know that we do these negative things but the reality is, we're not really
conscious of it so that we can stop it.
So we can go, "Oh my gosh.
I'm telling myself I'm not good enough.
I'm telling myself I'll never get down."
You know all these things that you do, these self talk.
I'm my biggest enemy.
I've gotten all the crap out of my life.
Now it's just me.
And I still have to deal with myself, telling myself I'm not good enough.
No matter how many great things happen, it doesn't matter who you look at, they struggle.
And they're lying if they don't.
But it's how you deal with it.
And I hope some of these little tips today help you deal with it in different ways.
You can get over it so you can move on and so you can live in the majority of being happy,
being inspired and rockin' out life.
'Coz that's what's important.
It's fine you have a few days.
We're all human.
It's fine if you even have a week or two from time to time but don't live there in the majority.
Recognize it, be conscious of it and get rid of it and get out of it.
Get what's ever bothering you and just drop it.
You guys rock.
I truly appreciate each and every one of you.
Seriously, the messages, everything has been amazing.
And it really touched my heart and I'm so thankful that these videos were having an
impact on your life and I hope that you can get over whatever you're struggling with.
You can get past it.
I know you can.
So if you found this helpful, share it with a friend, share it with somebody who could
really use this and I'll see you guys next Wednesday.
Be ready to rock and roll.
Share with me your breakthroughs, tell me what you found helpful, what I can do to help
'coz I'm here for you guys.
I truly appreciate you and I'll see you here each and every Wednesday.
Thanks so much.
Rock and roll.