It was a direct question from James Corden to Harry: "why did you walk away from your
family?"
And you're about to see why Harry is going to regret his answer sooner than you think.
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Of course James didn't want to sound too harsh, so he sugarcoated the question a bit:
- ...to walk away from the Royal Family, why did you feel like that was necessary and the
right thing to do for you and your family?
He didn't ask that question near the start of the interview.
He instead waited a bit until Harry was relaxed... especially AFTER the ordeal of facetiming
Meghan.
And the first part of Harry's answer is just 6 seconds of linguistic, body language and
facial clues:
- It was never... it was never walking away.
It was...
It was stepping back rather of stepping down.
- Right - It was never... it was never walking away.
It was...
It was stepping back rather of stepping down.
- Right
I always suggest that before any body language clues, you should pay attention to what people
say.
The actual words that come out of their mouth.
Because that's the blueprint of the intention behind their message.
And in this case is something that could earn the label of word salad.
- It was never... it was never walking away.
It was...
It was stepping back rather of stepping down.
- Right
So, it was not 'walking away', but instead it was 'stepping back'.
Maybe it's my limited knowledge of English, but if I get in trouble in North Korea, and
my release depends on publicly stating the difference between these two terms... you
won't see me again.
Even worse when you add 'rather than stepping down'.
Of course, Harry and Meghan would never step down.
That's against the Montecito Constitution.
When a person makes a word salad on purpose, you already know that they are trying to conceal
something.
Sometimes it's truth, sometimes it's feelings about the topic, sometimes it's the involvement
of a third person.
Sometimes a person speaks in word salads because they want to pass off as smart, intelligent
or sophisticated, but I think that's not the case with Harry.
Ow... it would be bad if you misinterpret what I just said.
Notice that Harry also hesitates twice when speaking.
These are linguistic markers of not being so sure of what he's saying, or being nervous.
We can compare with other parts of the interview, for example, when talking about how he fell
in love with Meghan, he doesn't have any problem speaking without stops or hesitation:
- And then eventually once you become a couple, then you venture out to dinners, to the cinema
and everything else.
So everything was done backwards with us.
It's very obvious that his body language is richer, he seems way more animated when talking
about how he fell in love with Meghan, and he uses a lot of gestures to emphasize his
emotions.
But... when talking about how he STEPPED BACK from the Royal Family, it doesn't help that
the first body language signal is breaking eye contact, turning away and even lowering
his gaze.
That's a first sign of insecurity, of not being shure of what he's saying, and at the
same time he keeps stroking his leg with his left hand, which is a pacifying gesture, something
that we do when we feel stressed or threatened.
You begin stacking these signals and the next one is a very long blink when he finally raises
his head to face James again.
This is usually being uncomfortable, or wanting to change the topic.
This is interesting because I'm sure Harry knew about the questions in advance.
I don't think James would pull an Ellen on him, especially because James WAS invited
to the Royal Wedding.
What I still don't understand is why that face of "Did I leave the stove on?"
So the fact that Harry looks so uncomfortable, knowing that the question would arise at any
time, means that it's the topic itself that makes him feel uncomfortable.
And that must be the reason he presses his lips at the end, a slight display of frustration.
But the second part of his answer is even more revealing... if you know exactly where
to look.
And no, I'm not gonna spoil it.
You'd have to watch it for yourself:
- Uhm... and it was a very difficult environment... as I think a lot of people saw... we all know
what the british press can be like, and it was destroying my mental health.
This is toxic.
Wait a minute... did you spot that change in environment?
Look at the background at the first part of the clip.
They're still stopping at that spot with the pink wall on Harry's back.
You can confirm that's where James asked the question.
It happened in the previous clip.
The bus was not moving and that's where this topic started.
By the way, I looked for that place.
I spotted the department store logo at the background and noticed that in front of it,
there was some kind of pool.
Most probably a Hotel.
So I went to Google maps and searched near Beverly Hills, any mall with this department
store and a hotel across the street and voilá!
86 14 Beverly Blvd.
Yeah.
I'm that kind of guy.
So, in this clip we're still talking about the Royal Family, right? but then the background
changes so when Harry says "it was destroying my mental health, this is toxic", it was a
totally different clip, from a different part of the interview, from another area of the
city, inserted in there.
And how do I know it was inserted?
well... look at the clip right after that:
- And it was destroying my mental health, this is toxic.
So I did what any husband or any father would do, it's like "I need to get my family outta
here"
Yeah! they magically went back to Beverly Boulevard again!
There's the pink wall, and the mall with the department store.
So the clip when Harry says, that "you know how's the British press, and this environment
was destroying his mental health, it was toxic", he said that in other moment of the interview,
in a totally different place of the bus tour, and it was purposefully inserted when he was
talking about his relationship with the Royal Family.
I cannot stress this enough.
This is not a mistake.
This was done on purpose.
And you might say that he was actually referring to the British press, but... let's face it,
the British tabloids are going to talk about you, no matter where you are, especially with
your definition of "privacy".
So Harry must have seen this BEFORE it went live.
And of course, he knows what he said and he noticed the editing.
And HE KNOWS that the inclusion of the words "environment destroying my mental health"
and "it's toxic", especifically when talking about the Royal Family, was going to be misleading.
I mean, he's been invited to panels to talk about misinformation, and I don't think it
was because his joyful charisma.
The irony is that in that same interview, he says that he prefers Netflix's The Crown
to whatever the media tries to pass off as news:
- I'm way more comfortable with The Crown that I am seeing the stories written about
my family, or my wife, or myself.
Or myself.
Oh, look how confident he says that.
Raising his chin, staring directly at James.
The man who literally edited your own words and video to intentionally mislead the audence's
perception of the family that you 'stepped back' from.
And as far as I know, Harry never criticized or said anything about this interview, so
it's safe to assume that he's ok with that.
That's why I always suggest that you pay close attention to the background of any image or
video that you want to analyze and at the same time, if you want to protect your privacy,
be mindful with the background of the photos that you publish online.
This kind of statements are going to come back and bite Harry someday, because he's
desperately trying to make it seem that he was trying to escape the eye of the British
tabloids, and...
I think he did exactly the OPRAhsite.
That's why I cannot wait for his next visit to the UK.
Let's hope that Meghan gives her permission soon.
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