WE
WE KNOW
WE KNOW A
WE KNOW A LOT OF PEOPLE ARE STRUGGLING WITH THEIR MENTAL HEALTH ESPECIALLY SINCE
THE START OF THE PANDEMIC.
SO MANY FOLKS JUST REALLY DON'T
KNOW HOW TO FEEL OR HOW TO
EXPLAIN EXACTLY WHAT THEY'RE
FEELING.
DR. SHERYL ZIEGLER IS HERE.
SHE'S A PSYCHOLOGIST OUT THIS
OUT IN DR. ZIEGLER.
I THINK A LOT OF PEOPLE ARE
EXPERIENCING GRIEF.
WE'VE ALL FELT LIKE THAT EVEN
IF WE DIDN'T LOSE SOMEONE WE
FEEL LIKE WE'RE GRIEVING.
THAT'S RIGHT.
BECAUSE GRIEF IS REALLY
THE LOSS OF SOMETHING.
SO WE HAVE LOST OUR TEENS, OUR
SCHOOLING, OUR DAILY HABITS AND
SO IT'S HELPFUL SOMETIMES FOR
PEOPLE TO JUST THINK ABOUT THAT
.
YEAH.
. YEAH.
. YEAH. THIS IS A TRANSITION INTO GRIEF
AND THERE ARE STAGES OF GRIEF
AND PEOPLE CAN GO IN AND OUT
OF THEM.
YOU CAN BE IN ONE STAGE ONE DAY
AND THE NEXT WEEK YOU CAN BE IN
A DIFFERENT PLACE.
SO I THINK IT'S REALLY
IMPORTANT FOR PEOPLE TO THINK
ABOUT THIS WHOLE YEAR 20 20 AS
A YEAR IN WHICH WE COLLECTIVELY
EXPERIENCE THE LOSS.
AND SO WE'RE GRIEVING THOSE
THINGS IN OUR LIFE.
WHEN YOU TALK ABOUT GRIEF, HOW
DO YOU KNOW WHEN YOU'RE
ACTUALLY FEELING GRIEF?
I MEAN HOW DO YOU SEPARATE THAT
FROM JUST BEING FRUSTRATED OR
SAYING SERIOUSLY THE NEWS ISN'T
GETTING ANY BETTER?
HOW DO YOU KNOW WHEN YOU'RE
FEELING GRIEF?
WELL, IT DEFINITELY IS VERY
SIMILAR TO FEELING DEPRESSED.
BUT THERE WE KIND OF CLASSIFY
IT TWO DIFFERENT WAYS.
SO THERE'S EMOTIONAL SYMPTOMS
LIKE FEELING SAD AND HAVING
DESPAIR OR HAVING ANXIETY PANIC
WHEN THAT'S WHEN YOU FEEL
PHYSICALLY HAVING A LACK
OF PURPOSE AND FEAR AND ALL
OF THESE EMOTIONS IN TERMS
OF YOU KNOW, HOW YOU'RE FEELING
IN TERMS OF YOUR FEELINGS.
BUT THEN THERE'S ALSO
THE PHYSICAL PART.
PEOPLE GET STOMACHACHES, THEY
GET HEADACHES.
THEY CAN FEEL TIGHTNESS IN
THEIR CHEST.
THEY CAN FEEL FATIGUED AND
TIRED, DIZZY, CRYING, HAVE
DISTURBANCES IN THEIR SLEEPING
AND EATING HABITS AND SO JUST
ONE OF THOSE THINGS DOESN'T
NECESSARILY MEAN YOU'RE EITHER
IN GRIEF OR DEPRESSION.
BUT WHEN YOU REALLY LOOK AT IT
AS A WHOLE AND YOU'RE CHECKING
OFF A LOT OF BOXES REALLY TO
PAY ATTENTION TO THAT AND THINK
ABOUT CARE BECAUSE IT'S
INCREDIBLY IMPORTANT WHEN
YOU'RE IN GRIEF TO LET OTHER
PEOPLE KNOW BUT ALSO BE TAKING
CARE OF YOURSELF.
ISN'T THAT THE TRUTH?
I WAS TALKING TO SOMEBODY
RECENTLY THAT SAID, YOU KNOW, A
YEAR AGO WE PROBABLY WOULDN'T
RECOGNIZE THAT SOMEBODY WAS
SUFFERING AND PRETTY MUCH ALL
OF US LOOK AT EACH OTHER NOW.
NO, WE'RE ALL KIND OF SUFFERING
AT DIFFERENT LEVELS.
SO WHEN YOU TALK ABOUT STAGES
OF GRIEF, HOW HOW CAN WE HELP
SOMEONE THROUGH THOSE STAGES
AND WHAT ARE THEY SO GRIEF HAS
THIS MYRIAD OF STAGES.
THE FIRST ONE IS DENIAL.
RIGHT.
IS IS THIS REALLY HAPPENING?
IS THIS REALLY GOING TO BE THIS
LONG?
RIGHT NOW THE DENIAL IS IS IT
REALLY GOING TO BE THAT BAD?
JUST GET TOGETHER WITH A FEW
FAMILY MEMBERS OVER
THE HOLIDAYS.
SO THERE'S NOT DENIAL THEN THAT
CAN TRANSITION TO ANGER.
I'LL STAY WITH THE SAME
EXAMPLE.
LET'S SAY YOU DECIDE YEAH.
WE'RE IF THEY GET TOGETHER OVER
THE HOLIDAYS THERE'S THIS
ANGER.
YOU KNOW, WE WANT BE MAD AT
SOMETHING THAT THE GOVERNMENT
NOW HEALTH OFFICIALS JUST MAD
AT THE VIRUS, MAD WORLD THEN
THERE CAN BE BARGAINING.
WELL, WHAT IF I JUST HAVE JUST
A COUPLE OF PEOPLE THAT WILL
PROBABLY BE OK.
OK, QUARANTINE AFTERWARDS.
SO BARGAINING PEOPLE DO THAT
AND ALL KINDS OF GRIEF.
IT'S LIKE YOU'RE MAKING A DEAL
WITH GOD OR A HIGHER SPIRIT OR
THE SITUATION.
AND THEN THERE'S DEPRESSION
WHEN IT REALLY SINKS IN THAT
NOW I CAN'T DENY THIS ANYMORE.
YOU REALLY CAN'T MAKE THESE
ACCOMMODATIONS.
I'M REALLY NOT GOING TO BE WITH
MY FAMILY OVER THE HOLIDAYS,
LET'S SAY.
AND THEN THERE'S JUST THAT REAL
SADNESS THAT SINKS IN AND
DESPAIR EVENTUALLY PEOPLE GET
TO ACCEPTANCE.
OK.
YOU KNOW, THEY'RE MORE POSITIVE
.
THEY UNDERSTAND IT A LITTLE BIT
MORE.
BUT JUST KNOWING THAT WE GO IN
AND OUT OF THOSE STAGES AND ONE
DAY YOU MIGHT BE IN ONE STAGE
AND ONE DAY YOU MIGHT BE
ANOTHER IS IMPORTANT BECAUSE
YOUR FAMILY MEMBERS ARE ALL
EXPERIENCING THIS AS WELL.
SO YOU COULD ALL BE IN
DIFFERENT PLACES AT THE SAME
TIME.
AND THAT MAKES PERFECT SENSE.
I THINK WE'RE GONNA HAVE LOTS
TO TALK