about the relationship my girlfriend has influence on me she she's a big feminist
and you know that made me think about those kind of issues I'm a FEMINIST as
well any feminist here clap many people don't you know here's the thing okay now
there's a lot of people didn't clap but I I don't believe you Oh bump bump bump
bump bump a bump bump bump bump bump bump bump bump another one bites the
dust what's up everybody this is Chris from the rewired soul where we talk
about the problem but focus on the solution and that's right
the latest person in Hollywood to be accused of sexual misconduct is Aziz
Ansari so today we're going to be talking about this and we're also going
to talk about some solutions because like I always say here at the rewired
soul we talk about the problem but focus on the solution so what are the reasons
that I'm making this video there's a million reasons why I'm making this
video first one is for guys be better be better but I've always been kind of
weary of mr. Aziz Ansari so I was a huge fan of his work still am I like a show
master of non heck and win some awards so I'm not the only guy who likes it but
one of the reasons why he blew up was because he was playing this this white
knight right in his stand-ups he even made a book about modern romance and
when he does these things he talks down to guys for being scummy guys which you
should do there are a bunch of terrible men out there I've discussed them in
other videos which I'll link in the info card above so I'm glad that he does that
but you always got to be worried about the wolf in sheep's clothing and that
hat is how I've always felt about Aziz because he's always talking about these
terrible guys and that's kind of how he blew up and it's almost like youtubers
it's almost like people on this platform you see them make a video and there
okay okay that that got me some traction I need to keep running with that I need
to keep rolling with that and then he ends up writing a whole book about it
but the book is also about like modern romance dating texting dating sites and
all this other kind of stuff but even in the show master of none which he does a
lot of the writing for he tries to appear as this do-gooder man just being
a really good guy to be this example to other men but this story actually came
over the weekend and it was first released by a website called babe so I
will link to this article in the description down below but it's it's
very long but I highly recommend you read it like my friend sent me this
article and I was like what's this about this sounds weird and I read it and it
is so detailed and just brutal and to give you kind of the Cliff's Notes on it
a young woman who wishes not to be identified she met Aziz at a party she
was blown away oh my god that's Aziz they start talking they exchanged phone
numbers and then Aziz astrodome date they go out on a date everything's cool
they have like a glass of wine and he's like in a hurry to get out of there
let's go back to my place so they go back to his place and immediately he's
putting the pressure on her to start performing sexual acts and I won't go
into the you know real deep details on this but check out the article um and
the way is described you can just picture this in your head and this is
why men we got to be more empathetic to this situation like this woman gave him
more than one hint that she was not into it she just didn't want anything to do
with it and she even details part where she was trying to get away from him I'm
trying to leave and he kept kind of jumping in front of her and things like
that and it puts you in a really awkward position right and they didn't end up
having sex but he performed oral sex on her she did the same to him reluctantly
after she kept saying let's slow things down and everything like that
and eventually she ended up saying all you guys are the same I'm out of here
and she left crying and this dude tech sir and like she sends him a long text
like this was terrible and he sends like a nonchalant tax like oh my bad I must
have read the signals wrong or something like that right and as with any of these
Hollywood stories this is probably the first of many to come out I have a
feeling over the next week we're gonna see a lot more but aside from what Aziz
actually did his response to their saying is one of the one of the reasons
why I'm so upset about this situation so let's let's go ahead and read this
together in September of last year I met a woman at a party we exchanged numbers
we texted back and forth and eventually went on a date we went out to dinner and
afterwards we ended up engaging in sexual activity which by all indications
was completely consensual what indications like here's
okay so let's pause real quick here's the thing he does not deny av any of her
story any of it at all so if he's not denying any of his story
then which indication did she give him right okay let's continue with it the
next day I got a text from her saying that although it may have seemed okay
upon further reflection she felt uncomfortable it was true that
everything did seem okay to me so when I heard that it was not the case for her
I was surprised and concerned I took her worse to heart and responded privately
after taking the time to process what she said
then he ends with this little gym I continue to support the movement that is
happening in our culture it is necessary and long overdue like okay first off
dude you gotta back up like you ain't allowed to be part of this movement
right now until some of this stuff clears out of the air okay but like
here's the thing and because I have a mental health channel let's talk about
mental health so like I said I'm pretty frustrated because he built a career and
an audience based on this character this persona of him being good guy Aziz right
he even had this stand up clip which I thought was funny because I have a lot
of female fans who get the unsolicited junk pics right so say about that have
no message just the photo such a strange display of male arrogance
just like what am I gonna do speaks for itself I make this video for all of you
there is no chance in hell that Aziz is gonna see this video so I make this
video for all of you so the two things I want to touch on mental health wise are
two things called pride and ego pride and ego plays such a huge role in
people's mental health and when when I'm seeing all these situations I I just
think about the inflated pride and ego of the men being involved in these so
pride pride is the way we think other people should treat us right nobody
should talk to me like this people should treat me like this so when it
sees this case you know he has expectations of how people should treat
him based on his stardom right then the ego the ego plays really closely into
the pride right the ego is the story that we create in our head about
ourselves and that inflated ego okay so one of the issues in Hollywood is you
have these men and and this is a whole society issue by the way this isn't just
you know a small like okay these are people right here like what
the reasons that these people are so terrible and run amok is because we put
them we put them on this pedestal we put them just way up here because of this
talent they have to act and entertain you know what I mean so they get this
inflated ego and they think they can treat anybody how they want um these
guys think they can treat women however they want and then they get exposed just
like this alright so I mentioned in one of my last videos about how addiction
destroyed my eSports career and I talked about how a lot of that was manifested
through pride and ego right probably go destroy so many of us and on a more
personal level so you can relate to this because I'm trying to help you out we
got to start looking at how our pride and our ego plays into the jobs we have
we get a lot of inflated pride and ego there the relationships that were in
right we think that we deserve more in a relationship we think we we should get
this kind of attention in this love and this person this person should be
grateful for who we are and the fact that we're with them we get such an
inflation of these things and we start treating people like they're less than
us and to be honest that's one of the drawbacks of living in a capitalist
society like so many things are based on wealth that we look at people like okay
wealth must mean that they're a certain type of person and what we're finding
out lately with all this me to stuff is that that's that's not always the case
all right but you know the last thing I wanted to end with is something that
Gary Vaynerchuk talks about all the time which is this
that's Buddhist belief treat others as you would like to treat your mother I
believe in that stuff I actually think it's not some karma cosmic thing I think
it's actually quite practical would it not make sense to our practical brains
that if you're doing something good for somebody else that that puts you in a
leveraged position for something good to happen to you I'm actually not very
romantic or cosmic or Spacey or Zena fide around providing people value like
I love karma I believe in it because I believe Karma's fucking practical that's
what karma is practical it's practical like
we all have these ideas of who we want to be where we want to go what our goals
are what our version of success is all these different things but that's more
of a reason why you need to start acting like a good person right now not once
you get to fame now once you get the four chin or whatever your your goal is
don't start trying to be better then start trying to be better right now okay
being good to your fellow human beings it just makes sense part of the problem
and I've talked about this in other videos
is the default mode Network in the back of the brain I'll link to a video I did
about youtubers trying to teach them a little bit about this but it comes from
our posterior cingulate cortex this is where all of our selfishness comes in
okay so we need to start learning how to deactivate that thing and be more
empathetic try to understand like you can look at Aziz his whole response in
life is this dude really that disconnected to other people that he
couldn't you couldn't see the signs that she was not into this right but anyways
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