From a man,
how do men view sex?
All right now, real quick
I'm just going to say that
There's always exceptions to the rule, all right.
Go ahead throw out the disclaimer.
And some men
are going to see things differently.
I think for the majority of men
sex is just viewed as
a pleasurable experience.
That's it a pleasurable physical experience.
There may be some emotion
little bit in that moment
but it stays in that moment
for the most part.
(Laughs)
It is just not much more than that
for the guy, you know.
Now, don't get me wrong.
And when I say there's emotion involved
I think when he actually likes the woman,
he's in love with her,
then it becomes something
more than just a physical experience,
a chance to bond with her,
get closer to her.
But outside of that,
yeah, it's just physical pleasure.
Do men have sex with women they don't like?
Hell yeah.
Look into that camera.
Look into that camera and say that. Hell yeah.
Why? Why Stephan? Why?
Not, only do men...
Now again, not all men
but not only do men
have sex with women they don't like
there are tons of men who have sex with
women they're not even attracted to.
So, again, this is the
men are from Mars women are from Venus thing.
Because speaking for the majority of women
I can't even fathom
a man on top of me that I don't like
I'm not interested in, I'm not attracted to
like that... Why would I do that?
You all are totally...
Their heads are exploding right now Stephan.
So, listen... So now again,
I'm one of those guys where I cannot
sleep with someone I'm not attracted to.
I'm very visual
I need that stimulation
if that's not there you know, I can't do it.
But I know dudes
as long as you got legs
and something in between it's a wrap, okay.
And they will have sex
out of the mere convenience of it
in that moment, yes.
Because again,
it is simply a pleasurable physical experience.
They're viewing that woman
as a chance to get off.
That's it, that's all it is.
And so, yeah.
And as far as not liking her
because the reality is that
he only has to tolerate her
for that moment in time.
This is why he may have sex with you
but he won't be in a relationship with you.
He won't even pick up the phone the next day baby.
He can't deal with you
more than just that moment.
But to engage physically
and again, in that physical moment
he doesn't have to worry about
having talks with you and all this other stuff.
So, yeah he can still enjoy
you physically but
not care for you otherwise.
So, we going to pause,
a moment of silence for you all feelings
and your edges.
but I think though that
again, that's a major disconnect because
women a lot of times
mistake men wanting to sleep with them,
with men wanting to date them
or court them or be in a relationship.
And so you know, I hear...
Shout out to Kevin Samuels, all right.
Kevin said... One of the things
that Kevin Samuels says often
that I do agree with though,
is that you cannot count
the number of men who have tried
to holler at you or tried to have sex with you
as the number of men who are
interested in getting into a relationship with you.
And so, I think a lot of times
women are mistaking
one for the other and thinking
well, men are interested in me
you know, I am a catch.
And just because men are
interested in sleeping with you
does not mean that you are
necessarily what men are looking for
when it comes to a relationship
So, what's the difference?
What would make a man say
okay, I'll have sex with you, but
that's as far as it'll go.
So, okay there's various levels to it.
For some men
it could be physical
levels of physical attraction.
So, to put it in a more specific context
so people can understand
if his standard for marriage is
I'm only going to marry a woman who's
an eight to 10
on a scale of one to 10
but he'll sleep with a six,
he'll sleep with a five, you see I'm saying.
So, there's enough...
And maybe she's not that cute
but her body's banging
so he'll sleep with her because
he really likes her body
he wants to try it out.
I know that sounds horrible
but I'm just... It's what it's, yeah.
Lemme put that in the mail
I'll come back to that.
But again,
he's not attracted to her enough physically
to say, I want to spend my life with her.
Because again, it's one thing
to have to see you for the night.
It's nothing to have to wake up
and see you every day next to me.
That requires a different level of attraction.
then of course there's just
the qualities of a wife.
Some women again, may be really cool
and you may even enjoy hanging out with them
but you know you cannot deal with them
over the long term as far as marriage.
and let me say this, the reality is that
women see the same issue
or go through the same thing with men.
It's just that women are willing to
overlook those red facts
and still marry that man.
But then be miserable and unhappy.
The man knows yo, like
in a lot... Don't get me wrong
plenty of men choose horribly
wives and partners but...
Like, I remember one time in a Uber
a guy said to me... He was the driver.
He said you know, you hear in society
women are always being told the fantasy of
the one waiting
for that right guy, all that stuff.
But what you see play out
in dating and relationships is that
men tend to hold onto that principle
more than women, all right.
Women know of the one connection
but the minute they see
something that they want
I take that one. Yes.
I will make this work
because this is what I desire right now.
Whereas men if they're just not
feeling it enough
they're just not going to do it.
And that's why I tell women
it's not a reflection of
your value or your quality
you all two just don't fit together.
He can really see
or view you as a good woman,
just not for him.
So this is not a question that was on my list
but I just feel like because you're hurting feelings
snatching edges, we might as well just
snatch the whole wig off.
Because I have literally had a conversation
with a man I hope he's not tuned in.
It's not my man you all.
Amen not my man.
But I've had a conversation with the man
who has going back to like
the 90 day rule thing and
men trying to fit into
women thinking that they're being in control
and you know, controlling how things are going.
But men really having a big joker,
like really you know, pulling the Trump card.
But I was having a conversation with the man
who talked about a woman
who had like a 90 day rule
and she had verbalized it.
Big, big mistake.
So, she talked to him about it
you know, she's holding him to this standard
and he literally told me
like, yeah, I just did what I had to do
to get to the 90 days.
You know, just basically to get her back
for playing games with him.
Playing games with him, like he did
all of the right things,
told me this out of his mouth
that he did all of the right things,
had these conversations,
like took her out, did all of the things
to play the game.
So, what is your advice
for women who are
watching for the red flags,
asking the questions,
like thinking that they're doing their due diligence
and then they're just dealing with
like a fraud.
So, I'm very skeptical of
any situation that proclaims that this man
just fooled you the entire time.
I always say
a lot of times women don't get played
they play themselves, all right.
Girl stop playing.
They see something
they pick up...
And even if you can't say
you saw something specific
they sense, yes,
they felt like something's not right.
But again, they tried to ignore it.
So, to me
you've got to be strong as a woman
in the sense of accepting your intuition.
Stop denying it, stop running from it.
And if you're spiritual
you've got to go to God
and pray about the situation
and asking God
not just looking for signs
hearing it in your spirit like
this is what I need to do right now.
Because again, I don't think
anyone's that good of a liar.
I think that you let someone talk enough
they're going to expose themselves.
You just have to know
how to keep them talking.
And so, that requires conversations,
asking questions,
diving deeper because it's very easy
for people to either
when they give you a BS answer
you can sense it
or they just dance around the situation
or dismiss it all together.
You know I'm saying so...
And then there's just certain questions that
men will... And women
will expose themselves on.
Like if you ask a dude questions about
handling finances in a relationship
he's very likely to tell you
straight up what it is.
So, if you don't like the way that he does things
you don't have to keep guessing.
You see I'm saying.
But you just have to have those conversations.
But we tend...
When I say we, society tends to
be scared to dive deeper early on.
It's like, well I don't want to run this person away.
Yeah but it's like, yo, if they run away
because you're diving deeper they're not for you
That's the way you weed them out.
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