So in this video we're going to be talking about reasons why I do not have
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upload a new video a few weeks ago I made a video that was entitled childless
couple 10 things people say to my husband and I when they find out we
don't have kids if you haven't watched it it's gonna be linked down in the
description box below so go ahead and take a look at that video after you
watch this one this is sort of a second part to that first video in that video I
said it would make a second video and tell people why we don't have kids if
anyone asks the question and someone did I'm gonna pop their name up on the
screen right now thank you for asking this video is going to talk about the
reason that my husband and I don't have kids now first I want to give a little
disclaimer I think being a parent is the hardest job you can ever have I'm not a
parent but I know a lot of parents my siblings have kids
my cousins have kids my friends most of my friends have kids so first I just
want to say kudos to all the parents out there because you have a really tough
job before I film this video I spent some time doing some online research to
find other videos that people have made about why they didn't have kids and to
be honest there actually aren't that many videos out there it's interesting
to see the reasons that other people have for not having children we're kind
of a weird Bunch people don't really know what to do with us
or maybe a bit of an anomaly statistics show that in the United States women
aged 45 to 50 have been approximately 17 percent childless rate and in countries
like Europe and the United Kingdom these rates vary from about 14 to 23 percent
for the same age group there are two common misconceptions that I've found
number one if you don't have kids people think you hate children and
number two people think there's something medically wrong with you and
that's why you don't have children because you can't have them I'm gonna
say that neither of these two things are the reason that I don't have kids as far
as I know medically I can't have kids I mean I don't know for sure because I
haven't had any but I'm going to assume that I'm healthy enough to have children
and asked for the second one I don't hate children first off let's talk
babies babies to me are a little bit scary
they're super wrigley they squirm a lot and you're not sure how to hold them at
least I'm not I've had many friends who have babies and when they have their
babies they want to give you the pleasure of holding their most precious
possession and it's not that I don't want to hold their baby it's just that
you know I'm a little nervous never having been a mother or anything
so if they're holding the baby and they're standing and they go to pass the
baby to you I'm never sure what to do with my arms because I know you have to
support the head you have to support the body you want to make sure their arms
are being bent back I always have this fear that I'm going to drop someone's
baby I know that might seem really silly but I just always get nervous in the pit
of my stomach something's gonna happen and their baby's just gonna slip through
my arms and fall to the floor and I would feel absolutely horrible if that
ever happened is this just a childless lady thing or do new moms feel like this
- it's interesting I was actually talking to someone not that long ago and
they told me that they had a newborn and a lady was terrified to bathe her baby
because she didn't know how to hold baby and bath it and do all of that at the
same time so for the first month this is not a joke she sponged off her baby I
mean she cleaned it obviously but she just sponged it off because she didn't
feel like she was able to hold on to the baby and clean the baby and be able to
manage all of that so I feel like maybe my fear of just holding a baby is it's a
real thing so yes I've admitted babies make me a little bit nervous and
probably if I was around babies all the time and it was my own I would get used
to things I would know how to do things I would feel a lot more comfortable but
there's always like this comfort when you never had your own baby because
you're dealing with someone else's and you don't want to trial and error when
somebody else's baby that's a little terrifying I would say the main reason
that I don't have kids is I've never felt maternal I don't think I have a
biological clock or at least it's not ticking I don't think it ever started
ticking
it's interesting because when you're young every girl at at some point wants
to be a mom and of course I play with dolls and I held them and I pretended to
feed them and then it's like progressed I decided you know what I'm kind of over
that phase I don't think I want kids and since then my mind has very much been
made up to the point that I don't know what kids it's interesting though
because people never believe you they always tell you that you're going to
have kids so you know they say oh wait till you meet somebody when you meet the
right person you're going to want kids with that person well I did undergrad I
did graduate school I met the person I got married we've been married for ten
years and I still don't have kids and that feeling of wanting kids has never
come now I know there are some people who choose to have kids because they
feel it's the right thing to do it's part of the life cycle and they don't
wait for that super strong feeling to have children to have babies but that's
just not me if I don't feel that urge to have babies I'm not gonna have a baby
okay now before you write me off and you think I'm a completely heartless person
I have thought about babies before and I've even thought about having a baby
before with the baby have brown eyes with the baby have green eyes when it
loved music would it be gifted in playing piano like my husband or would
he or she liked to cook in the kitchen like me so beyond having some of those
really natural thoughts that I think most people do have at some point in
their life it's never really dogged beyond that I've kind of think about it
and then I think oh well I guess I'll just never know and I'm okay with not
knowing neither those of you that might be saying what about your husband
doesn't he get an opinion and yes I actually asked him this morning what is
your opinion about us not having kids obviously this is something we talked
about long before we ever decided to get married because he knew I thought really
strongly about not having kids and I never wanted to marry someone that
wanted kids so bad and couldn't have them because I was the one that said
nope I'm not having kids so here's what he said
and I quote I could have gone either way kids are a big responsibility
who would have less freedom if we hide kids and the longer we don't have kids
the more I feel like I couldn't have them because I'm so used to the life
that we have now so that's his opinion about kids it is such a huge decision
whether or not to have kids and everyone makes their own decision and I
completely respect that I'm really happy not having kids I don't feel like I'm
missing out on life my nieces and nephews are a huge part of my life I've
spent a lot of time with them and I loved watching them grow up it's been
super fun we have some older ones that are teens and starting adulthood and
then we've got some super young ones and some on the way and a super fun being
part of kids lives and getting to watch them grow up so I hope you enjoyed this
video that is why I don't have chase if you have any comments or questions
please leave them down below and don't forget to go ahead and watch the video
that I made a few weeks ago that discusses things people say to us when