by the end of this video,
you're gonna know what rock bottom looks like to a narcissist.
Hey there, I'm Rebecca Zung.
I am an attorney.
I'm a narcissist negotiation expert
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and in these videos, I talk about how to
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Okay. So let's talk about rock bottom
and whatever happens to narcissist
if they hit rock bottom.
Do they ever hit rock bottom?
The answer is yes they do
and it's not a pretty sight
because they don't want to hit rock bottom.
They do everything they possibly can
to make sure that doesn't happen.
It's the absolute worst thing that could possibly happen to them
because for narcissist,
it is a game of survival at all times.
I mean, that's what t hey are in their whole lives.
Just feels like survival all the time.
That's why they act the way they do.
Because they feel like they're constantly trying to survive in a way.
It's very sad.
It's like they don't have air or oxygen
and they don't have a sense of self.
So they're constantly trying to
layer on any feeling of having security
or a feeling of value from external sources
and it's black hole they’re constantly trying to fill.
It's like, it's like trying to get oxygen and they can't,
they can't get it
and so when they collapse,
when they, when they hit that rock bottom,
it's because they've been exposed.
It's because that mask has come off
because they've been outed for who they actually are.
That's when they've hit rock bottom.
They've led these double lives and the the real self has been exposed
and by the way, when you're negotiating with them,
that's how you have the power.
That's how you have the leverage
is by putting that pressure on
and potentially exposing them
and having that strategy and having that leverage to potentially exposing them
and potentially putting that pressure on and motivating
and squeezing them that rock bottom might be a possibility
and they don't want that to happen
because they know what that might look like for them.
So what happens when they potentially hit rock bottom?
Well, obviously, there's always that underlying potential of rage.
They have this something called narcissistic injury
and when that narcissistic injury gets triggered,
which is always right below that surface.
That narcissistic rage can come flying out there very easily slighted,
very easily slighted because they don't have that sense of self.
Anything can slight them.
Any kind of amount of tone.
Anything that potentially looks like something against them.
So they feel very bad about themselves,
even though, they act, like they are so wonderful all the time
and they put these errors on that
they're supposed to be so entitled all the time
and they're supposed to have the best tables in the best.
This is the best that it's all a big act,
you know, really under underneath it all.
They feel horrible about themselves.
They have this issues with self-loathing or potentially depression,
especially the covert narcissist
and so they often times they go into these deep depressions
and so if they hit,
rock bottom, it could be deep depression.
It could be deep rage.
So, that's what could happen.
Sometimes with rock bottom,
they have to kind of put themselves back together.
They’re shatter, right?
So they have to try to find a new source of supply.
They have to rebrand themselves.
They have to figure out where their
new source of supply is going to come from.
Remember supply is their food, their lifeblood, their oxygen.
So they need to figure out where is that
new source going to come from.
So they have to figure that out.
I mean, they're almost rebranding themselves as if,
you know, it's a failed business.
If a business fails, what is the business owner have to do?
They have to rebrand themselves.
So that's what a narcissist has to do.
They have to figure out what they're going to have to do
to get to attract new supply in.
So that's what a narcissist would do
and by the way, if you want to know what the signs are that this rock bottom maybe coming.
You can check out my video on the signs of a narcissistic collapse.
That collapse is coming on, you know,
they could be just in a state of shock
for a while that this actually happened to them that they were exposed.
You know, I can't believe this happened to me
and maybe they act like a victim
If they're a covert narcissist,
they may just act like a victim.
Any narcissist of course is going to be
blaming the rest of the world so they could be just sitting there
telling everybody how everybody else
is to blame for the fact that this
happened to them projecting and deflecting.
It's everybody else's fault.
That person is this person.
Of course, you know, they can't take any responsibility for themselves.
So they may go around trying to get everybody in the world
to think that their rock bottom happened
because of these circumstances
or that person or everyone else of course, right?
Every once in a while.
You might find that the narcissist might actually be changed as a result.
Sometimes it happens.
I have known a few narcissist or people who have said to me,
I once was a narcissist and rock bottom
is what caused me to change.
I as a result,
got therapy and help and was reformed as a result
and Because of that,
I now have a beautiful wife or husband or life
and I'm no longer that person.
It doesn't always happen that way.
But sometimes it does.
Sometimes that's the thing that causes the person to look
inward and get the help that they needed
and become who they were supposed to be
but it doesn't always happen that way.
Most of the time it doesn't.
Sometimes, you know, they become very vengeful.
Plotting against the person most of the time.
It's not a pretty sight.
It most of the time it's probably pretty much what to expect not necessarily a good thing
and you could pretty much expect that what's going to happen
and especially in negotiations and I'll tell you this,
as I've said many times before on this channel
and in these videos, narcissists are definitely way more
afraid of you than you are of them
and they did not attach themselves to you because you had so little value.
They definitely attached themselves to you because you had so much
and when you are negotiating with them, stand your ground,
definitely stand your ground.
Create your strategy, create your leverage.
You can figure this out. You can create a strategy that definitely works
and when you have given them
an offer stop allowing the gas lighting.
I can't tell you how many times I have seen
somebody gave an offer and then
they turn around and say you haven't given me an offer
and you absolutely have.
Just stand your ground and say,
give me a counter offer.
Don't allow them to gaslight you.
Be okay with the fact that they may hit rock bottom.
Don't allow yourself to feel guilty that they may hit rock bottom
That is not your responsibility.
They are who they are.
You as the empath,
cannot take responsibility for who they are.
If they're going to hit rock bottom. It's okay.
The negotiations are going to go.
However, they're going to go and you have to be
okay with whatever the fair and equitable
result is for you.
You are the only one that is going to have to live with whatever
the result is going to be moving forward
and you have to do what you have to do
so that you can take care of you.
There's nothing wrong with you taking care of you.
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