I just Robert Smith I'm here asked
answering another question
hey them this is Anita she says that my
mother has to mention she's struggling
with it she can't speak she's in a
wheelchair and she's in a nursing home
she has no quality of life I have tap
every day I see her and it's once or
twice a week is so upsetting she's
always on my mind and she hadn't seen
any video for the subject I tend to do
it I tend to do it on grief now here's
here's let's say let's explain what
happens okay all right so she's grieving
and what happens is is that first of all
she doesn't like what her mother's going
through and she's also projecting on her
mother that means you're feeling
feelings maybe what you think your
mother's feeling or you're feeling your
own guilt in your own emotional pain and
you're tormenting yourself so you don't
like what's happening to your mother
your mother's dying and she's you know
she's getting old and unfortunately
that's what happens to people everybody
gets ahold everybody dies and so you're
struggling with dealing with this so so
what do you do first of all you've got
to make peace with the transition that
your mother may thank I mean she will
eventually die so are you and so Ally so
you need to address how you feel what's
going on just your emotions about what's
going on what are you doing when you're
with your mother are you seeing your
suffer are you suffering because you see
her suffer or are you just tormenting
yourself inside yourself what you need
to do is just notice what you're doing
notice how you're feeling about the
whole situation
and change your emotions about it change
your reaction to it and also just just
realize that mom is doing the best she
can you know because he is dying she's
getting older so what you want to do is
love mom address your own personal
issues you have with your mother you may
be wishing you're a better daughter or
wishing you could do something to fix
her and you're feeling guilty because
you can't you're grieving because you're
with her and you know she's dying and so
you're experiencing her death before she
even the ice and now
one's a lot with people so what you need
to do is tap on this make peace with
their death make peace with her
transition the changes that has occurred
because everybody's going to do this
make peace with it within yourself that
way when you're with your mother you can
actually be with your mother and you can
you can share share her experience and
just love her where she is I know it's
tough you know I know it's tough I've
seen many of my my family members and my
dear friends have died and it's not easy
but what the difference is is what you
do with it inside you because see if you
just love them and you have to respect
the fact that this is nature people die
you don't have to like it but you don't
have to hate it either you just have to
accept it and don't torment yourself
with it because by the way this is just
what happens
so make peace with it and when you make
peace with it you'll be able to be with
them support them where they are and
they maybe even tap on them or you know
you can touch the points you know just
let them know that you love them and
you're there for them and it makes it
easy for you but let's say you're them
they're them and they're there wherever
they are in the hospital or in the
wheelchair or wherever they are and
you're unhappy you're tormented you're
sad you're grieving you're frustrated
how does that affect the help so you
need to let that go and just love them
and cherish them and be nice and to be
peaceful and just realize this is a
process of life just love them remember
the good memories hold onto the good
memories be a joy for them be support to
them whatever you can but don't torment
yourself because they're going through a
change and remember just let it go love
them and be with them right there at
that moment don't be making up stuff
just honor them tap on your fears tap on
your worry step on your emotional issues
I hope this helps you just remember be
there
don't be tormenting yourself they'll be
killing them off they'll be suffering
while they're there
love them and accept them and they're
going through their own journey tap on
your journey make sure that you don't
use that as a tormenting process for
yourself
anyway this Robert Smith
keep working on yourself peace out
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