So, years ago, I picked up an MBA at the University of Texas at Austin. Great school. I met a lot
of really smart people there. One of them being a foreign student from China, my friend Jing.
Now, both of us had applied that summer for an internship at Apple. It was a really selective
process. They were looking for certain types of experience, they were looking for a near
perfect GPA. And the reality is only one in five people at our business school even got
an invite to interview. Now, it turns out I didn't make the initial cut, but my friend
Jing... did. Now, I was excited for him because this was a dream job for him. Now, at UT, the
interview rooms are all together. I happen to be in the hallway walking by and minutes before
his interview, I run into Jing. I shake his hand, I wish him luck, I look down and my mouth
drops. No! Now, at this point in my life, I'm not a men's style expert. But, I am a fresh
graduate of the United States Marine Corps and the mistake Jing was making was glaring in
front of me. Now, if I just had 30 minutes, I could have fixed the problem. But, Jing didn't
have but like 30 seconds before he had to be in that interview room. I just didn't say anything
hoping the interviewer didn't notice. Now, here's the deal. This mistake should not have been
a big deal. It's totally correctable. Seriously, $25 in about 25 minutes could have solved the
problem. And what's crazy is the average student was spending like $100,000 there for their
MBA. And the stupid mistake that Jing was oblivious to was about to put his future with Apple in
jeopardy. Now, straight up, gents, over the years, I've seen a lot of men make this mistake.
And I can't tell you for certain if this is the reason that Jing never did get a call back
from Apple. But what I can tell you is when you're dressed up, when you're wearing a suit,
when you're high status. This mistake, it breaks the illusion, it pops the balloon, it makes
you look like a country bumpkin fresh off the boat. Now, gents, I can't go back in time and
help you, but I can share with you in today's video the tiny mistakes that are making you
look low status. Because, gents, if you're watching this video, you've got a future. You see yourself
as a man of potential. You're a one in a million. You're that future business owner, that future
engineer, that future doctor, that future lawyer. you are a guy that's going to go out there
and make a difference. So, what was the mistake? Well, it wasn't that his fly was down, that
would have been obvious and an easy fix in a matter of seconds. No, the mistake was his
shoes. Three things in particular. First up and perhaps the least egregious of all the
errors was that he was wearing an open lace type of shoe. These are known as bluchers,
they are more casual, they're not really meant to be worn. So, I'm going to go ahead and show
you with a suit. No, if you're going to be wearing a dark-colored business suit, you want to wear
a closed lacing system. Now, the second error and this one was a bit bigger is he was wearing
the wrong color. So, because the image is seared in my mind, I remember Jean was wearing a black
suit. Well, with that black suit, he had paired light brown shoes. Now, if he'd have been a
navy suit and he was trying to be fashion forward, he could have made this combination work. If
you're wearing a black suit, which I don't recommend, I'd recommend a charcoal suit. But, if you're
wearing a black suit, at least wear black-colored shoes. And, yeah, if I would have had 25 minutes,
I could have ran to my apartment, which is right next to campus and maybe gotten him an extra
pair of my shoes. But, the biggest mistake and the one that I'm like, Gene, what are you thinking?
Because he wasn't thinking, his shoes were not polished and the laces were falling apart.
Now, if you're new to this channel, you're probably thinking, Antonio, there is no way that one
small mistake would sink his interview. And to you, I say never underestimate how judgmental
your fellow human beings can be. Because the reality is, gents, even professional interviewers
are human and they judge a book by its cover. If you don't look like you fit in, if you don't
look like part of their tribe, well, they may not say that's the reason they're not hiring
you, but you can rest assured that it played a part in the decision. Now, this next mistake,
there is no hiding from. And it's something a lot of guys even when they look in the mirror,
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of guys when they're looking at themselves in the mirror, but they don't spot it because
to them, most guys are oblivious to this. Guys, I'm talking about not paying attention to the
details on your grooming. So, first up, the easy one. Let's talk about the forest. growing
out of your nose. Now, I know a lot of you guys are saying, well, hey, I don't have any hair
coming out of my nose. Well, unfortunately, you're looking at this at the wrong angle.
See, even if you're 5'4", your girlfriend who is 5'', guess what? She's looking up to you
and what does she see? Right up into those nostrils. And, gents, if you got a forest up there that
sometimes catches things as they're coming out, it is not the best look. Now, I have an undergrad
in biology. I understand the purpose of hair in the nose. But, the reality is once a week
getting in there and trimming that bush will do wonders for those looking up to you. Now,
a less obvious area is going to be the And I'm not talking about shaping your eyebrows. What
I'm talking about is basic grooming. If you've got three random huge hairs right in the center,
maybe consider removing those. I know for me, once I passed the age of 30, I started getting
these random really long hairs in the eyebrows. Well, consider cutting those. In fact, in case
you didn't know, when you go see your barber or your stylist, you can actually ask them.
to take care of your eyebrows and your nose hairs. And while they're doing that, don't
forget to ask them to clean out the ear hair as well. Now, does this all really make you
look low status? You could argue, no. But what this does make you look is oblivious. Oblivious
to the small steps that you could take to look better. Because I know that you're an amazing
guy, that you've got that fancy degree, that you've got that awesome experience, that you
have that enthusiasm. running that nonprofit. But, human beings in general are judgmental,
so why not be judged as somebody that pays attention to the details? Because, let's face it, you
do on things that you know a lot about. If you're into cars like my nephew, he notices everything
about vintage vehicles. In the same way that you would spot a mismatch of maybe tires with
a vehicle or a bad repair job, you got to expect if you're out there dating and you want to
attract an attractive woman who puts herself together, well, she's going to look at how
you... put yourself together. Because even those guys that look like they're not trying, a lot
of times that's a sprezzatura. Basically, that's an Italian term coined by I think it was the
Book of the Messenger. And they talk about it's like the duck on top of the water. It looks
smoothly, but what you don't see are the feet swimming rapidly. Now, this next mistake at
best makes you look like a tryhard. And the worst part is how much some people are paying.
for these outfits. Gents, in case you haven't picked up on it yet, I'm talking about the
wearing of oversized logos. Now, the sad reality is that some people are paying a premium for
these and they're actually knockoffs. They're not even the real thing. Because let's face
it, Gucci did not authorize this. Now, to their defense, Gucci and some of these other fashion
brands have put out some pretty hideous pieces. But, the reality is with manufacturing the
way it is, you can buy anything with any logo and some people seem to think that the bigger
the logo, the better. are to keep the logo at a minimum. In fact, if you don't even see a
logo, that's better. Instead, focus in on the style pyramid which is fit, fabric, and function.
Seriously, unless you're getting paid to wear the logo, why would you sport this huge one
and be like a billboard for the brand? Well, we know the reason. People are trying to borrow
credibility. They're trying to associate themselves with that tribe. They're wanting to fit in.
And, hey, who am I to judge? I was over in Japan and you see all of these fashion brands. And,
I'm not going to lie, I'm not going people getting into this, it was like the highlight of their
day. With streetwear, Supreme, Bathing Aid, it's huge. I've seen it. But, gents, I have
a feeling you're like me and that we know that status comes from within. Your clothing, it
should help enhance your natural look, but you really shouldn't be relying on big logos to,
you know, to feel good about yourself. The next mistake and this is classic, Buddy Ryan is
all defense and no offense. Now, deodorant is a great thing, but think of it like defense.
It's simply ensuring that you don't smell bad. Well, guys, if you want to score. compliments
or something else, you need to consider finding a signature fragrance. When I say signature
scent, I'm talking about something you wear again and again. That smell becomes synonymous
with you walking into the room. Now, you don't have to go overboard here. Here are three safe
designer fragrances that are easy to find yet unique enough that you're going to stand out
from the crowd. All three of these, by the way, are excellent compliment magnets as well. Seriously,
this Lunarosa Ocean EDP, the ladies love it. Really quick story time. As you guys know,
I love fragrances. I've got over 500 of them. In my area, I guess I've got the reputation
as the best smelling guy around. At ballet, I'm the best smelling dad. I walk into Starbucks.
After going there for a few weeks, I had three of the baristas ask me, okay, we're trying
to guess what you do. They thought I was a doctor or a lawyer. They had all these interesting
things, but the fact is they remember me. You're always you always smell so good. Gents, if
you want to elevate your status, the first step is to actually be remembered. And people remember
things that smell good. So, find your signature scent and smell amazing. So, the next style
mistake that lowers your following the dress code. Now, you may be thinking, what dress
code? At my office, when I go out on the weekend at home, there isn't a dress code. Well, try
showing up to work in a chicken suit, go out on the weekend in a ballerina outfit, hang
around the house naked. Now, you may be able to get away with that last one, but it's safe
to say if you were to wear something that was really outside of the ordinary, you would get
stares, you would actually maybe feel a little bit self-conscious. You definitely can't be
out there showing up to work naked unless you work in a nudist colony. See, there's an expectation.
There is a dress code. Always. even if it's unspoken. Now, some people choose to ignore
this and they want to fight against it. But, if you understand that there is an unspoken
dress code, why not simply swim with the current? It's a lot easier and you can use it to your
advantage. Seriously, if you're a lawyer in a construction firm, if you're a consultant
at a very casual creative office, you can still use your clothing in a way to be able to send
a message. And, I think that's a great way to before you even open your mouth. Because even
though that lawyer could dress down, but the fact that he dresses up shows that he pays
attention to the details. Again, not saying you have to and you don't have to dress up,
but if you're the guy making sure that every multimillion-dollar contract has all the T's
crossed and I's dotted, it's reassuring to people that you actually pay attention that you look
the part. of that high ticket order that's getting paid, you know, five to ten times more than
the average construction guy. At that creative company, you want to connect with the people
that are doing the creative work. And, yes, you're not going to be doing the drawing, you're
not going to be doing the designing, but you can wear those red glasses that you always
get compliments on and that people know, hey, you've got like five to seven different pairs,
different colors. And people appreciate the fact that you bring a little bit of fun and
creativity even if it's something as simple and muted as your eyewear. A piece of advice
I always try to tell people is have a uniform. Think through once. what kind of message you
want to send maybe once a year, couple of times a year, change it up, then have clothing that
you can default to that sends the message you want to send to people that you interact with
on a daily basis. So, for this next mistake, let's have a little bit of fun. Of these images
right here, which man looks smarter? Which one looks more competent? Which one looks, yeah,
just simply like they're hanging out? Now, I know some of you guys are going to disagree
because you saw probably where I'm going with this, but there was a study years ago that
I read. talked about the more skin that somebody shows on both men and women, the less serious
people take them. In fact, when it comes to perceptions of intelligence, if you're showing
too much skin, you are perceived as being less intelligent. Now, get it, it's hot. You want
to be wearing shorts. You want to be wearing that shorts. In fact, you want to take your
shirt off, but the reality is you're down in Central America, you're down in Mexico, you're
down in South Texas. And you notice that actually at this event, everyone's just wearing really
lightweight linen shirts. that are long sleeve, they are still wearing tropical white wool
trousers and not shorts. In fact, this is why many Americans get a bad rap because in many
parts of the world, wearing shorts is actually for kids. Grown men wear trousers. Now, whether
you agree with that or not, the point is if you are going to be in a situation which you
want to maintain a higher level of status, you want to make sure that you're fully covering
the skin. I'm not saying you can't roll up your sleeves, I'm not saying you can't wear shorts.
But, when you wear... trousers. When you wear long sleeve shirts, when you don't have five
buttons undone, you are giving a bit more of a sophisticated look. Now, gents, if you're
liking this video, you are going to love this one because I didn't repeat the same stuff
in this video. I go into other details other mistakes that you probably want to avoid. So,
if you want to continue on, yeah, check out this video right here. We'll go over more mistakes.
I promise I didn't have any duplicates. And, yeah, you'll enjoy it. Check it out. Boom.
Come on.