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Namaste Beautiful YouTube family Lis
Sayer here the Breakthrough life coach
and today I received an amazing letter
from Miss Jenna and I wanted it I wanted
to share it with you because it is quite
profound and the young woman is only 21
years old and it is a testament to the
human Spirit and the human M the human
mind the human who we are as human
beings and the fact that we can really
overcome some tremendous obstacles in
our life once we have a couple of ideas
that are really really cleared out of
cleared out of the way so here we go
dear Lisa I am 21 years old I was put up
for adoption immediately after I was
born I have lived in 10 different foster
homes I was finally adopted when I was
12 years old by an amazing couple but no
matter how much they tried to love me I
never felt like I was good enough I had
I had spent so much time being being
shuffled around from family to family
that I never felt safe I was verbally
emotionally and sexually abused as well
one of my foster mothers actually told
me she only took me in for the money she
received to do so it broke my heart in
one home I was made to sleep on the
floor in a hallway while my foster
parents children slept in their own beds
and rooms the crazy thing is I used to
think it was my fault this all happened
to me I've been following your YouTube
videos for a year now and only because
of how you say it like it is was I able
to understand that none of this crazy
was my fault it's not my fault I
was given up for adoption suffered
attachment trauma never felt safe lived
in survival or got abused literally none
of
it I cannot tell you how amazing it is
to understand myself and to know why I
self-harmed until I was 18 years old it
all makes sense I make sense I'm not
crazy I had a belief running that I was
not good enough that that was my inner
reality and I attracted people who
abused me and never made me feel good
enough gosh Lea how do I even begin to
thank you I'm writing to tell you I am
in college now studying my deserving ass
off and I'm going to graduate with great
grades I'm studying to be a journalist
one day I hope to meet you and give you
a great big hug your words help me know
me the real me and to know that I am
enough just thought you'd like to know
you've helped someone you don't even
know love Jenna so um profound right
21-year-old kid please don't be offended
Miss Jenna or anyone who is watching
this YouTube video who is that young I
am 52 so um someone who is 21 is a child
to me or a young adult let's put it that
way um but to me you're a kid um amazing
to think that a young woman at this age
of 20 21 years old has
discovered that in spite of her past
painful past that this darling human
being and we're all darling human beings
is enough that in spite of being tossed
around and shuffled around that in spite
of being treated less
than in spite of being used as a source
of
income in spite of her feeling like she
was undeserving and in spite of her
growing up believing that everything
that happened including her being giving
given up by her mother was not her fault
that in spite of all of it she learned
to believe that she was enough crazy
right it's amazing to me and I relate so
much to this letter and I'm sure all of
you do too or many of you do to this
idea that until we wake up we really
believe many of us believe that the
drama that we have tolerated was our
fault that somehow we were deserving of
being
abandoned abused and
criticized so often times I hear people
say men and women say that when I was in
a narcissistically abusive marriage I
thought that this was the way it was I
didn't think that I had a right to say
no I didn't think that I had I had a
right to question my happiness like I
wasn't happy and I knew I wasn't happy
but I didn't think I had a right to be
happy I didn't know that I could ask
myself am I happy what would make me
happy I didn't know and this becomes a
paradigm and a paradigm is essentially a
set of beliefs a set of ideas and
through repetition observation and
consistency of this one this one belief
that we are not good enough and don't
all children think that they're
responsible when their parents don't
love them of course we do because in
assuming responsibility for it we think
we have some control over it so if mommy
doesn't love me today because you know I
didn't eat my oatmeal maybe tomorrow if
I if I'm really really good and if I get
really really quiet and if I stay in my
room and I'm and I don't ask for too
much maybe tomorrow she'll love me maybe
tomorrow she'll see me and so in
assuming responsibility for why people
are not kind to us or are unable to love
us in assuming responsibility for it we
also believe in some fairy tale idea
that we have some control over it and
maybe tomorrow things will be better and
that doesn't end so we experience this
type of magical thinking in our
childhoods and then we attract very
similar people to to our parents or the
adults in our lives uh in our childhoods
the adults that were in our lives when
we were children we attract these type
of people as adults and the Paradigm
unfolds again very much like a hologram
and here we are attracting people who
abuse us minimize us torture us sexually
abuse us chastise us make us feel like
we're not good enough withdraw from us
um berate us from for for lots of lots
of things and here we go thinking like
well maybe tomorrow it'll be better and
all I have to do is just show him how
much I love him you know maybe if I if I
just stick it out and I let him abuse me
he'll understand what real love is
because his mother left him I'm not
going to leave him or you know my wife
just threw an ashtray at me because
she's upset because she feels abandoned
and so I'm just going to stay here with
my head bleeding you know and not
abandon her even though she just abused
me because her father abandoned her and
you know I don't want to reinforce this
abandonment issue so I'm just going to
stick around and these are faulty these
are faulty ideas and all of these
Concepts really need to be worked out
cognitively the brain has to understand
the idea of enabling someone is not
healthy the brain has to understand that
all of us are worthy the brain has to
understand that we are all enough and
that we have the right to question
whether or not we're happy we have the
right to question how we were raised we
have the right to compare our our
childhoods with healthy childhoods we
have that right we have that right to
put the pieces of the puzzle together we
have that right to feel our feelings to
identify our belief systems and to
change the Paradigm we have that right
now a lot of people talk about what's
wrong right A lot of people talk about
well the problem is you've got a bad
Paradigm running or you've got a bad
belief system running but not a whole
lot of people tell us what the hell to
do about it a lot of people say oh
you're not integrated but not a whole
lot of people tell us how the hell do we
integrate if I'm afraid to feel my
feelings and my brain Associates pain
with that then naturally my brain is
going to have me run away from my
feelings which leads to self harm which
leads leads to drinking which leads to
codependency which leads to love
addiction and porn addiction and dating
app addiction you name it you name it
right so so I think that I really well I
hope I hope that as we move forward
those of us on the healing path who
discover how to heal and I mean really
heal I mean get down to the nitty-gritty
what the hell is going on in my mind and
how can I learn to climb out of the
Paradigm and create a new paradigm all
while I'm learning to feel the feelings
that my brain has been designed to avoid
how do I do that and if you follow my
work you will and you watch the videos I
have probably about 350 videos on
YouTube this is what I've tried to offer
all of you here on YouTube I've tried to
teach you a what's
wrong B that you're enough C it's not
your fault it's not you it's your
programming and what you can do every
single day to help dismantle these old
paradigms and create new belief systems
that are built on sound understandings
sound understandings so um I just want
to say thank you to miss Jenna and I
also want to send a huge um shout out to
YouTube a huge shout out to
technology because without Youtube Jenna
probably would have never found me and
this young woman with all her the
paradigms from the past all the
subconscious beliefs from the past may
have consumed her
and I cannot tell you how humbled I am
that I have this opportunity by way of
YouTube to share this kind of
information with all of
you and I just want to continue to
motivate and Inspire anyone out there
who has grown up believing that you were
not enough and that the not enoughness
that you experienced was your
fault if you have suffered attachment
trauma if you have felt rejected by the
people who raised you then you have
suffered an attachment
trauma and your brain is designed to
seek connection so it is not your fault
that you may be stuck in a loop seeking
connections from people who are
impossible to connect to because they
are living below the veil of
Consciousness dear one it's not your
fault it's not you it's your programming
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June 1st um dear ones this might be the
last year I actually am Hands-On
involved with the program next year we
may be offering the 12we Breakthrough
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in the comments section so again dear
ones um we can heal we can change this
world when we change ourselves we do not
have to be victimized by the old belief
systems or the old old paradigms of the
past we are human beings we have a
prefrontal lobe and we have the ability
to undo what has been done it is not
easy it hurts like hell to learn how to
feel the feelings and the emotions that
we we that our brains have been designed
to avoid hurts like hell but we have to
learn to integrate we have to learn to
stay in our bodies no longer can we
avoid our bodies our bodies are
beautiful our bodies are amazing I don't
care what size you are what size your
pants are I I don't care I don't care
what your body size is it's not about
body size it's about the idea that our
human body is absolutely miraculous it
is absolutely miraculous and it has been
downloaded with feelings and energy and
if we use our mind enough we can learn
how to allow our bodies to express and
to feel and to allow our bodies to the
um permission
to release the energies that have been
stored in our ethereal bodies we can do
that dear ones it's not easy but we can
do that so thank you so much for
allowing me to come into your hearts
into your minds today may you be blessed
today and always and may you always know
that you are enough no matter what
anybody else says may you know that no
matter whether or not someone else
validates you you must know that you are
valid you are valid dear one and you are
enough and today as always I am I am
bowing to the absolute love and light
that is in you there is a love and there
is a light that is in you dear ones
Namaste bye