domestic partnership problems are some
of the most difficult ones to deal with
that we see in America today thank you
for joining us for today's active
self-protection lesson I'm your host
John Correa today's video comes to us
from Yonkers New York in the United
States it does show a domestic situation
and there's a lot of crazy stuff going
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us today's video so what we see here is
this is actually their work and this
woman is at work and that's her domestic
partner there who comes over and just
starts absolutely wailing a tune on her
hits they're about four times there and
now you can see the argument kind of
keep going and now this woman comes and
steps in the middle and I noticed that
the guy that's sitting there filling out
paperwork is still sitting there filling
out paperwork one of the other guys at
least got up and got his cell phone out
started talking to I think 911 but what
happens here is we see our perp is
actually gonna go and out of his
backpack you're gonna see him grab a
12-inch kitchen knife and put it up his
sleeve now as he has gone off a little
ways away to do that now he comes back
in the building here and she is still in
the building and other people there this
I guess was a few minutes later throws
his cellphone at her we could see that
from a couple different angles here and
then hits her multiple times again you
can see him kind of you know dancing
away and backing away and going a little
bit for that sleeve there with we know
has a knife in it and everybody else is
gonna come out and she's actually gonna
come up towards him and Yip at him a few
times here and he is gonna come back
through the door after that and now
they're gonna go a little bit you gonna
see him kick at her a couple of times
and she actually kind of threatens to
throw a punch in him you see him go
after his hand again but thankfully he's
gonna walk out of there without using it
now what you're gonna see him do here is
as he looks around it's gonna take it
out and get rid of that big old knife
now the crazy part of this one if you go
read the news story linked into the
because she didn't suffer serious
injuries the district attorney they when
they caught this guy was only able to
charge him with misdemeanors and he was
released without bail whatsoever so he
was just given a ticket to appear
because of New York's new bail system
that only allows them to do that which
seems pretty egregious to me but that's
where it is right now and that's where
it ends all right it's time to talk
about it again I got a question for you
out of this one if you see this happen
you happen to be in that Court or
whatever are you gonna step in and step
between them or are you gonna step out
of there and mind your own business I
think we know how dangerous this one is
but you know putting yourself in those
shoes what would you have done given the
fact that it's a potentially really
supposedly sterile environment and you
probably can't carry a firearm or other
tools there what would you do leave a
comment let me know I think it's a tough
one let's talk about it in the lessons
whole bunch of lessons in this one for
us to really think about first of which
of course is what goes down in a
domestic situation like this and guys
domestics are are a large part of what
the violence problem in America is is
that people who don't have any coping
skills end up hurting each other and
this happens both ways I you know if you
look at the statistics men and women
both are victimized by domestic violence
pretty significantly but of course
there's a size discrepancy in those
kinds of things so I can't tell you
enough man we just have to say as a
society as a country as a people a human
race we can't beat on each other go get
help get apart from each other whatever
but don't resort to stuff like this next
thing I see from her is she knows this
guy's violent she's got her hands in her
pockets okay and and as a self-defense
measure you never want to let somebody
who can be violent get close to you with
your hands down at your side
particularly hands in your pockets
because you're they're gonna get inside
your reactionary gap very very quickly
and you will not have the ability to
deflect or protect yourself in that
instance so you know they can be violent
again hands up at at least chest level
you know a chin level is much better
that hands out surrender posture hey I
don't want any trouble much better
notice here though that what she did
once the attack started she protected
her face in her head pretty well it's a
pretty instinctive thing to get your
hands up around your head to protect
your head and your neck because that's
where you're gonna get knocked out
that's where bad things are gonna happen
she pretty much did that as a reflexive
gesture here's something you can learn
on the mat as well when you're in
a bad situation you learn how to cover
up your face your head in your neck in
order to protect yourself from real
serious damage and that's what happened
here that she wasn't badly hurt by that
at least she's still emotionally present
now let's talk about the woman who is
stepping in here and of course anytime
you see these kinds of things happen
anytime you step into a third party
encounter you got to recognize the
danger is around you you got to
recognize that any of these domestics
especially can go south in a big hurry
because what we see all the time
actually happens in real life is a lot
of times though the victim in the case
will actually turn against you as well
and so it's very very dangerous but some
things are so shocking to you know the
core of who we are as people that you
have to step in and I just encourage you
to really think about that now which
ones would you step in which ones would
you not here would be a great case if
you chose to step in you could have
blessed this guy with hot sauce got in
him with the OC spray absolutely and
unequivocally right now and and and just
fend it off any further aggression by
putting this guy you know on some OC
spray and some good positive OC would
have been very very helpful in that
instance would have been helpful for
anybody again this hasn't raised to the
level of maybe aggravated assault or a
felony assault or a risk of great you
know death or great bodily injury at
this point but that's a great place for
a pepper spray now they're gonna get him
away and that's great okay fine but you
recognize as well the police are not
gonna get there in time you and only you
are going to be able to protect yourself
now it gets really scary we see the guy
here is going to get this big old knife
out and put it in his coat sleeve and I
want to recognize there's a big reason
we always say look at the eyes look at
the hands look at the waist eyes hands
waist when you're assessing threats
because that's where the danger comes
from the eyes are the windows to the
soul the hands are the windows to the
intent and you got to understand both of
them now he's gonna come in again throw
the phone at her and the assault starts
anew and then we got to ask wait am I
gonna step in here but this is of course
much more dangerous we know that but
they don't necessarily know that it's
much more dangerous but you can see
right here that he is checking that
sleeve he is keeping that knife handy
and my thought is here that he certainly
didn't go grab that knife because he had
no intent or ability or willingness to
use it but perhaps he was looking for
somebody to step in so he could get that
knife out and go to work so that makes
it even more dangerous to step into a
third party encounter but again when we
are talking about look at the eyes look
at the hands
look at the waste this is why because if
you look at his eyes this guy is
definitely angry and now you look at his
hands here you could see his grasping
his hands together and looking up his
sleeve of this coat just a little bit
and if you see those furtive gestures
he's picking out a weapon or he's
picking for something up there that when
he's reaching into places where you
can't see that is a real indicator and a
real tell that there is something there
and something bad and so you better
maintain your distance and again this
would at this point again as an
objective observer you wouldn't
necessarily see that knife but boy would
you want to have a better tool on you
then even just the pepper spray if he
decided to pull that knife now I don't
recommend this now she's gonna go out
here and start yipping at this guy that
just makes the the conflict go on longer
let him go let the cops get him and let
it figure out because she decides
instead that she's gonna get after him
and now the fight starts again and here
you notice one more time he's starting
to go for that that knife that's up his
left sleeve with his right hand and
thinking about going for it now he
didn't actually use the knife so again
if you go read the news story in the
description the prosecuting attorney
said well I can't actually charge him
with anything because he didn't use the
knife for anything so I can't prove what
his purpose was for it but I think we
can reasonably see here that he intended
to use that and that could have been
incredibly dangerous thankfully he chose
not to here but again the kicks and all
that stuff are egregious in this guy's
an immoral scumbag and of course we
should just never beat on each other
forensic Allah says never the answer and
so I think what we ought to remind
ourselves as a society is this is
egregious and wrong and we rejected a
hundred percent now finally as he tosses
and gets rid of that weapon he has a
danger not only to himself not only to
his you know a significant other but to
everybody in the community by doing this
so I just absolutely decry domestic
violence and I urge all of you to as
well if you need some resources we'll
put some resources in the description
for dealing with domestic violence and
for helping those escape violent
situations in their lives can't
recommend enough that you get the help
that you need to to get out of those
kinds of situations just so then that
way you don't have to deal with them
let's learn the lessons here about the
physical fight itself about the fight
before the fight let's think about
stepping in and keeping some tools on us
and watching their eyes the hands and
the waist as we cover our ass