What if you could improve your sensuality?
Not just your sexuality, but before clothes come off, there's any penetration or body fluids exchanged.
To engage with people in an intimate way that feels so much better!
You were able to have a better sense of the world around you?
(• Sexplanation Intro •) "Hum hum hum"
I'm Dr. Lindsey Doe, clinical sexologist, doctor of human sexuality, host of the sex curious show: Sexplanations.
Back in September, I went to a Somatica workshop where I worked with colleagues,
Danielle and Celeste, to learn a little bit more about sensuality. And I am in their space here in Sunnyvale, California,
and I want to share with you something amazing that they showed me.
Hi ! Thanks for coming on to sexplanations. - Hi (x2)
I went to your training and I saw this one demonstration you did: grabbing.
So you gave us as participants an option of I think the shoulders, arms, maybe the hips, or the butt. - Yes !
And then you demonstrated each of them and when you got to the ass part,
you Celeste were grabbing Danielle's ass and I was just like,
Whaaaaat! This is amazing! I love this, this is so good!
Celeste, will you tell us what Somatica is?
Yes, Somatica is an experiential and relational mode of sex and relationship coaching.
[Danielle] We engage in a vulnerable way with our alliance.
We don't pretend that we know it all, we really like share ourselves both emotionally and erotically,
to help them see what it feel like to be in a relationship like.
[Celeste] A practice relationship.
[Celeste] Learn all the skills and tools. [Lindsey] This is amazing !
[Lindsey] Well because we went to school, and we had the option to do it a special training called sexological bodywork.
And then you did that. I did not.
You became amazing, and I would always talk to you about it
And then you both developed Somatica.
[Celeste] I met her in sexological bodywork!
[Danielle] She did and we started from sexological bodywork,
and then as we progressed, we felt like what we really wanted to add is the relational piece,
where people could learn all those amazing tools and ways to be in their body and have amazing erotic bliss.
And then, how do you ask it from your partner? How do you communicate it?
How do you say what you want? How do you say what turns you on?
So that's how we came up with some Somatica in the relational way.
[Lindsey] And so you think you can just (finger snap) right now you, you can give us something?
[Celeste] Oh yeah! [Danielle] Always!
[Celeste] We are ready for action! [Danielle] We are ready! [Lindsey] Oh my gosh!
[Lindsey] Have the stage. I'm gonna sit over here.
[Celeste] Alright, tell me when you're ready.
[Danielle] Hum, would tell you if not
[Danielle] Hum, I like the way you check me out !
(• Air blowing into the microphone •) (• Breathing loudly •)
[Lindsey] Sorry to cut into your very hot moment, what are you thinking at that time?
[Celeste] So this is a passion exercise. Grabbing is really about showing how much you desire someone,
like you can't keep your hands off of them and you really also want to grab in a way that like
supports their body and holds them and then gently releases.
So it's a little bit like taking someone on a journey.
The physical and the psychological arousal.
[Danielle] And as a receiver it's really important to let yourself really like take it in,
and feed off the energy that Celeste is gonna send me here and really surrender to it.
[Celeste] So the way that I start to get in touch with my body and erotic energy is I just like to...
breathe and then I start to look at how gorgeous you are. [Danielle] And that's it. You've got me right there
[Laughs]
I'm already starting to feel my arousal just by you checking me out and feeling your arousal.
[Celeste] Oh, really?
And I also have a little performance anxiety of like, "oh, I hope I bring it. I hope I do right for her,"
There's that part. [Danielle] I like that. I like that you gonna worry a little bit about... [laughs]
[Celeste] Totally it my core desire about like am I getting it right for her? So yes!
[Laugh]
[Danielle] I Just love it when there's-- because there's like a beginning, a middle and an end, you know?
And there's like a buildup, the holding it and there's like a gentle release when you put me back on the floor here.
[Celeste] Yeah! It's so important not to drop the person because is brought them into this wave of energy, so.
[Lindsey] So Celeste just invited me to get my ass over here so that I can experientially learn. Yes?
[Celeste] Yes. I've been waiting to have your ass all morning.
Aaaaaah! [Laughs]
As the receiver, Daniel says that my part gets to be that I surrender.
Yes, you just see if you can enjoy it and take in all of the desire that I am offering. As much as you can.
[Lindsey] Okay, here we go. Do I put my hands anywhere ?
[Celeste] You can you can just keep them like that or you can grab. [Lindsey] You'll know what to do.
[Celeste] Whatever you want. I know what to do. [Lindsey laughs]
[Lindsey] Ok ! I'm ready...
[Breathing]
[Celeste, whispering] Good, breathe!
Oh my gosh! How do you do that without kissing?
[Celeste] I know, it's really hard, huh?
[Lindsey] Ok, come over here.
If you would like to learn more about Somatica, take their training, read their blogs,
watch their videos, go to CelesteAndDanielle.com [Celeste] or SomaticaInstitute.com
[Lindsey] Yeah! [Danielle] She lost here verbal capacity.
[Lindsey] Stay curious !