Hey there. Okay, are you so ready to stop caring
what the narcissist thinks right now?
By the end of this video, you're going to have five ways.
All right.
So the narcissist, they get in your head.
They just drive you crazy.
So you are so ready to stop caring and I'm going to tell you how to do it.
and I am so committed to helping you just shut them down.
Stop the madness.
I've helped thousands of people go from these lives of drama, trauma
and chaos to step into lives of freedom possibility
and purpose and how I do that is by helping you shift the dynamic.
Get the hell out of this craziness
and if that sounds good to you then subscribe to this channel and hit that notification bell.
All right.
I know they tell you it has everything to do with you.
They blame it all on you.
They want to push all their crap on you.
It actually has nothing to do with you.
You're just the collateral damage
because you actually ended up getting sucked into their world.
By the time when you're done, it's going to be, they're going to move on to somebody else
and then it's going to be that them.
It really has nothing to do with you. It's all about them.
They're the ones that have problem.
They have the problem.
You just were the ones that they glommed onto they're looking for narcissistic supply.
They were looking for somebody to give them that supply
and remember, by the way, what I always say,
which is they didn't attach themselves to you because you had so little value.
They attached themselves to you because you had so much.
They need the supply.
They go to you was for the value.
Remember what they do and and and their whole thing.
They're the ones that are screwed up in the head.
They have no inner sense of value.
You cannot take how they act personally.
You can't, you gotta stop.
It has nothing to do with you.
How people treat other people is always a direct reflection of
the way they feel about themselves who are good
or bad, period.
If people treat other people,
well, it's because they feel good about themselves inside.
People treat other people poorly is because they don't feel good about themselves inside,
right?
That's nothing to do with even being narcissist or not.
Just remember that.
A great book by the way is The Four Agreements and one of the agreements,
it's one agreements you make with your sell yourself.
One of the agreements is you never take anything personally because the way people treat
other people is a direct reflection of the way they feel about themselves.
So realize how narcissists treat people is because they don't feel good about themselves.
To care about how they treat you as you taking something personally.
When it's just they don't feel good about themselves.
You can't.
So that's number one.
Like I almost could stop there in a way,
but I want to give you some other good things.
All right, so that's that's number one.
Number one way to stop caring with the narcissist.
Things right now is just don't take it personally that that it doesn't have anything
to do with you and just start to understand them.
Start to understand narcissist.
Start to understand that there are
different types of narcissists who you're dealing with,
you know, and I do have a video on the three main kinds of
narcissist if you want to start understanding
what it is that you're dealing with.
Stop trying to please them. Stop trying to feed that Beast.
It's a black hole.
You're not going to be able to.
You are going to drain all the life out of yourself.
You're making deposits.
You never going to get withdrawals back
and your soul will feel like it's being drained
and until you feel like there's nothing left of yourself.
So you were going to have to be the one to change.
If you're truly in a relationship with a narcissist,
but there's business or personal and I know I've been it.
I've been there in a business relationship and wasn't even on all that long
and I felt like I was like the life was being drained out of me.
I literally, I kept saying leech.
I didn't even know the words, energy, vampire,
and all of these terms.
I had, I didn't have the vocabulary yet.
The word I was using was leech or parasite,
you know, stop trying to please them.
That's number two.
You have to be the one to change.
They will let you do everything for that.
They will and they will not give you credit for it.
They will certainly take credit for all the things that you do.
Oh, yeah, been there done that,
and they won't acknowledge you for it.
They won't thank you for it
and stop defending them.
So stop doing everything for them.
Stop taking responsibility for them.
Start taking care of yourself.
Stop feeling guilty.
You got to take care of you.
That's number three.
or minimum contact.
That's how you're going to start to heal because they want to trigger you.
They know how to trigger you. They've been conditioning
you since the day they like laid eyes on you.
Since you started to have conversation or interaction with this person.
They've been conditioning you to have
you think that they're so smart and they're so kind
and they're so stealth and they're all these things are not as smart as you might think.
Let me just say that.
So you just need to shut them down
and I want you to put that in the comments right now.
Shut them down so that you can start to put that into your head.
It is just start to condition your brain.
That’s what you're going to be doing. Shut them down
You know, whether it's listening to videos on a regular basis.
I always say I don't leave my thoughts unsupervised
because they start to get into your brain patterns and all of that.
It's really hard not to obsess over what they're doing the heart palpitations.
All of those things Mel Robbins has a really fantastic thing that she talks about.
You can do something like that.
Really easy
and you can do that at any time of the day, put Post-it notes reminding yourself of your mantras.
If you're in a place where you can do that.
Start creating your exit plan.
Listen to audio books.
Get your support system together, your support team,
whether it's your friends, your family, a pastor or a therapist,
create a plan for your future.
There's a business relationship.
Figure out how you're going to get out of this situation
and you know, whatever it is that you need to do start to do it.
Those are your five ways to stop caring with the narcissist
thinks right now.
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