- If you're out there and you haven't asked a guy before,
honestly, cannot recommend it enough.
I felt like Queen Nefertiti or Shelob,
the spider from "Lord of the Rings"
and I was bringing a guy
back to my lair. (upbeat music)
(air whooshes) (logo squeaks)
- Hey, I'm Nat. - I'm Coops.
- My name is Ayeesha. - My name is Alexandra.
- [Producer] Are you dateable?
- I would say so.
- Doll, I think I am dateable.
- I reckon I'm 100% dateable.
I don't know if most women feel this way
but sometimes I think about myself
and I'm like, damn, I reckon she might be a catch!
- If you're getting in the ring,
you've gotta back yourself. (bell dings)
That was so Aussie, wow. (producer laughs)
- [Producer] You're just an Aussie gal!
- Just an Aussie gal. - Just a dateable Aussie gal!
So why is dating in 2020 so hard?
- 'Cause pandemic. (laughs)
- We haven't been able to go to bars
or go to other places where you meet people.
- And also I think people are just reassessing their values
and maybe they're like, I don't need to date
someone right now.
- [Producer] What's the best and worst part
about modern dating?
- I think the best and the worst parts
are the same thing in a way.
We have so much selection now but then at the same time,
because we're so used to that
and we're so overexposed to that.
- Everyone else also has a lot of options,
so you have a lot of competition.
- I'd say the best part is ease of accessibility,
I guess that's also a con
and so you can go through people a lot faster.
So I guess the consistency in terms of relationships
is a lot lower than it was back in the day
with my parents' generation, for example.
- [Producer] What's an ideal first date?
- Just someone who's not stingy.
- Ooh, a vibe is important,
I think it's tough to go on a second date without a vibe.
- And someone who's not wearing Oakley sunglasses.
Is this why I'm not on any dates? I don't know.
- Going on adventures,
basically, just being consistently spontaneous.
I think that's really, really fun.
- Personally, I like to pick something
where I can flex a little bit,
so you can give someone insights
into what you're like as a person.
I might go Axe throwing so that he can see my primal rage.
And he can know that if we're in a post-apocalyptic scenario
that I can thwart (zombie groaning)
his enemies for him.
- [Producer] When is dating a relationship?
- Ooh. - Dating is a relationship
when you've been seeing someone consistently
for, I'd say, three plus months.
- Look, here's the thing,
I personally like to wrap that shit up by day two or three
because I just don't wanna waste my time, I've got hobbies.
- I'm pretty busy, so I don't like to go on a lot of dates
in a short amount of time and I need to spread it out,
I wanna miss you a bit.
Pretty much, I get bored of everyone
really, really quickly. (laughs)
- Wow, relatable! (laughs) - Wow, wow, oh my God,
I've never getting a date after this.
- [Producer] When does dating become serious?
- It could be the first date, could take three months,
could take two years.
Really depends on who you're seeing,
how you're talking and how you're communicating.
- Well, I think it always helps to define
your terms of engagement really early on.
- If you've met their friends, they've met your friends.
If you've baked a cheesecake for their family,
I don't really do that,
I've never done that before in my life,
I'm not sure why I said that.
- I think actually if someone meets you grandparents,
that's serious.
- [Producer] When do dating apps work?
(Alexandra laughs)
- In lock down, dating apps was so handy,
I jumped on Bumble, I was talking to heaps of guys.
I think a lot of people meet their partners at work
or in hobbies and things like that.
So if those aren't really options for you,
I think dating apps are a great way.
- If you're trying to get a hookup
then that works all the time. (laughs)
- [Producer] And when do dating apps not work?
- When you stop using them. (laughs)
- It doesn't work when they message
you really infrequently, it doesn't work
when you are constantly deleting the apps. (laughs)
- Honestly, I don't use dating apps too often,
only when I'm really bored and I'm procrastinating,
that's usually (laughs) when I'm swiping.
- Guys get this idea, who told them this,
who was like, you need to have a picture with a dog?
Doesn't matter if it's not yours,
you need to be hiking somewhere
and you need to have a gym selfie.
They work when people are just authentically their real self
'cause that's the whole point of it,
you want people to see your personality.
- [Producer] Is dating good for you?
- Yeah, dating's good for you, it's fun,
get you out of your comfort zone.
Meet someone new, tell a few jokes, have a few drinks.
- Ah, definitely can meet some toxic people,
so in that regard, it's not good.
- I think you should date around and see what's out there,
learn about what's good for you,
what you'll accept and what you won't.
Because, I mean, your life partner
is probably the biggest commitment you will ever make.
- [Producer] How is dating different from a friendship?
- (sighs) It's tricky as well 'cause in a relationship,
ideally, the other person is your best friend.
But I think what makes it a relationship
is the physical chemistry,
I think it's that next level of emotional connection.
- (laughs) This is the best question
'cause I'm actually dating my friend.
Look, I think friendship is a really important foundation
for any kind of relationship.
I think where a relationship differs is that you both
have a more significant commitment to each other.
- [Producer] What are dating apps missing?
- If dating apps could store identification cards of people,
in case something bad happens,
they can always offshoot that to authorities.
At the end of the day you don't really know
who you're meeting, you only have that initial impression
that you see in a photo.
- Do you know what would be really cool in dating apps?
There's a feature where you can send them a coffee
or a bottle of wine or something
without having to swap addresses.
Send someone a meal or a coffee or something
and you guys have them together on a virtual date.
Bumble, hit me up, I've got some ideas.
- If someone gets booted for not responding,
it would be good for vetting out those people
who are like, oh no, I was just busy with work.
And it's like, you weren't busy with work,
everyone has their phone on them 24/7.
- [Producer] What star signs do you think
make the first move?
- From the people that do chase me,
they usually Virgos, a few Scorpios, some Saggies,
I'm a cancer, so an emotional ball basically. (laughs)
- Well, I'm a Virgo, I often make the first move
because I'm very impatient and I just would like an answer.
- Fire signs, baby, I'm an Aries, we're in there,
in there like a dog on heat. (dog barking)
(laughs) Should I say that? That's rude.
Is there another analogy? (producer laughs)
- Taurus's I reckon. - I don't know.
- Maybe Scorpios 'cause they're like, these ones.
I'm literally just talking about the animals,
I have no idea. (laughs)
What are the other ones?
The scales, nah, they wouldn't, the Libra,
they'd be like, ooh, I don't know, do I go for him,
nah, I don't know about that.
- [Producer] Should women make the first move?
- Look, I think, why not? We're in the 21st century.
- I mean, it's always nice to be chased
and I think men also enjoy that.
My last relationship, I made the first move
and then boom, got into a relationship.
It can work in your favor, ladies, so.
- Ask someone out, I think it's fine.
I'll make the first move.
Doesn't always (laughs) go very well
but that's life and you know what?
Get knocked down, get back up again.
What would Rihanna do?
She's dating a billionaire,
why should I even mention that, yeah.
- Yeah, I think the girls should be making the first move
so much more often, you be the alpha,
don't be the Stacey, be the Chad.
If you're out there and you haven't asked a guy before,
honestly, cannot recommend it enough.
I felt like Queen Nefertiti (dramatic music)
or Shelob, the spider from "Lord of the Rings"
and I was bringing a guy
back to my lair. (upbeat music)
Just get on Bumble throw some messages out to some roosters.
- Slide shredding in those DMs.
I love a fire emoji reaction, (fire blazes)
- Yeah! - if someone's giving you
fire emoji reactions, they're into you.
(air whooshes) Dating is fun, it's awesome.
Get out there, give it a crack but be safe, kids.
- Just be yourself.
If you're a psycho, who needs to text every nanosecond,
well, it's better that someone knows that now.
- Just be you. - Hey, hey, listen,
Just be yourself. (upbeat music)