This is Clay with www.ModernLove.Life and this is relationshipinnergame.com.
This is obviously different from the usual relationshipinnergame.com experience episodes
that we do on a weekly basis and that's because I've decided to really change up relationshipinnergame.com
for reasons that it needed to be changed up and also reasons that would just make it more
enjoyable to me.
So if you guys don't know, my wife and I recently had a baby and that's been great.
Amazing, but it makes it really hard for me to record videos at home, which is one of
the reasons why I'm here at this park.
Our baby is, our daughter is really well behaved, but she still is a baby and still cries and
screams at unpredictable times so it just doesn't make much sense for me to try to record
at home.
And I actually started renting an office not too far away from home as well too to get
some work done because it's also hard to focus and get things done when you're at home with
a baby.
But unfortunately, that office, that coworking space that I've been using doesn't really
have a good setup for recording videos either.
So here I am at a park, I guess we'll just have to figure this all out as we go along.
One of the main reasons I'm doing this change is out of necessity, but also just because
the whole process had become really difficult and not enjoyable for me.
We hired this SEO guy to help improve the rankings of our youtube channel and to help
us bring some search traffic to our website, www.ModernLove.Life.
And so he gave me this list of these different keywords that he wanted me to make these relationshipinnergame.com
video topics on.
And on top of that there was the whole baby at home thing.
So when I would record videos at home, I'd have to batch produce them, you know, get
my wife and the baby to get out of the house for maybe an hour or two.
And then I would just try to boom, boom, boom, boom, boom, record as many videos as I possibly
could.
Maybe, you know, one day, a month or one day every couple of weeks and it just became really
constrictive really kind of locked in and it wasn't fun because I had the structured
content I had to make for the SEO guy.
I had a limited window of opportunity to actually make the videos and it just became like kind
of a burden.
And I think, I guess that's the relationship lesson is that when things aren't enjoyable
for you, when you're not enjoying the process of being in a relationship of dating somebody,
of making your relationship, then that's really a big sign that it's time to shake things
up.
It's time to really question what you're doing and to change the direction if necessary.
Obviously I'm not trying to get back together with my ex or anything like that right now.
My wife and I are pretty happily married, but I still try to embody the lessons that
I teach you guys and I'll use my own life as inspiration and the lessons that I learned
through my own life and try to translate that into what you guys might be going through
to help.
To teach you things that that have worked for me in my life.
That's the relationship less than and all of that is that if things aren't working,
do something to shake it up.
So that's what I'm doing with this video here.
I'm, I guess we're going to call this season two of the relationshipinnergame.com experience.
We're going to end the q and a portion, at least for now because I found that through
looking through the analytics on my kind of Admin side of the youtube account, a lot of
people weren't watching the question and answer and a lot of people were complaining that
it was too long and boring and stuff like that.
So I thought it would be good to end that and I wanted to just use this as a way for
me to share with you what's going on in my life and the lessons that I'm learning and
how they might be able to help you have a better relationship and just give you updates
on what's going on with me.
What's going on with our business, how things are unfolding.
Give you kind of a behind the scenes look, these videos probably won't be optimized for
any keywords, no SEO on this stuff, but hopefully you guys still find these videos somehow and
hopefully you enjoy them and hopefully you get something out of them.
So yeah, I don't know how I'm going to be filming these videos moving forward because
I do live in Seattle and we are about to start hitting the rainy season and I don't really
have a place to record on a regular basis, so we're just gonna have to figure this out
and we're just gonna have to figure this all out together.
I mean, you have to let go of structure when it starts to become suffocating and you have
to go with something that feels good and oftentimes going back to the whole relationship thing,
oftentimes we get so fixated on the other person on trying to make sure that they're
happy on making sure that things are looking the right way or progressing in the right
way based off of what they're doing, how they're behaving, how they are responding to us.
That we lose touch with ourselves.
Are we enjoying the process?
Are we enjoying the process ourselves?
Because if you're having a miserable time yourself, it doesn't matter if they're loving
you or if they're having an amazing time or anything like that.
Something's wrong because you are equally important factor in the relationship that
you have.
Your experience is equally important and ideally you and your partner should be able to enjoy
the relationship that you co-create together.
That's really the main lesson that I want to share with you here is that your experience
is absolutely important and my experience of making these videos for you is absolutely
important as well too.
And you know, I've been going through a lot of comments lately responding to as many as
I can and I'm just really reminded by some of the great comments that you guys are leaving
about how much these videos are helping.
And I'm really honestly kind of humbled because I started this youtube channel seven years
or so ago, honestly, in a park, kind of like this one back in Portland, Oregon.
And my life was way different back then.
And so I had a lot less experience making videos, but I feel like I'm returning to my
roots a little bit sitting here in this park, on this cold November day.
I'm making a video like this.
And so I hope that this is helpful for you.
I hope that you enjoy this new season, season two of the relationshipinnergame.com experience.
And I hope that you continue to stay tuned to all of this stuff.
Yeah, there's some other things that I've been working on as well too.
I always wanted the relationshipinnergame.com to be a podcast.
I never got to actually turning it into a podcast that you could listen to on like itunes
or your iphone or something like that.
Just because I was reading all these things about, oh, you have to really optimize it.
You have to really launch it in a like awesome way.
Otherwise it's gonna stagnate.
Nobody's going to listen to it and all of that stuff.
So I think what I'm probably just going to do is I'm just gonna take this video file,
strip out the audio, upload it to itunes and just be like, okay, here it is, here's, here's
the podcast and I'm, if it explodes awesomely than so be it, but if it doesn't, hey, no
worries.
Right.
That's where we're at.
That's how things have been going with me.
And that's where I'm at in my life and I'll talk to you guys hopefully next week if I
can figure out another place to record and if I can hopefully get a couple more weeks
of Nice weather out of this autumn here.
So thanks again.
And once again, if you liked this, please feel free to subscribe to the channel.
Please give us a thumbs up and just go ahead and give me a comment.
Let me know what you think about this new format of the relationshipinnergame.com experience.
Do you like this better than the kind of robotic structured SEO stuff?
Because I mean, I can already tell just for doing this for however many minutes I've been
doing this.
I like it a lot more.
Anyway, this is Clay.
I'll talk to you guys hopefully next week.
Take care.