Did you know that women also get erections during sex, not just men? That's right! And what I'm
about to tell you about female erections is going to truly enrich your sex life together so keep
listening! My name is Helena Nista and I make videos that help you have the best sex of your
life. And today, we're unpacking the concept of erections in women. From my thousands of
conversations about sex with people all over the world, it seems to me that a lot of both men and
women have a very unhealthy idea about vaginas and sex. They seem to think that the vaginal
canal is this sort of hole - always ready, always capable of taking the penis in and to expand its
size in order to accommodate the incoming member. This has become particularly apparent to me after
reading the comments under one of my recent videos about How Big Is Too Big in bed. And a lot of the
viewers were commenting about vagina's elasticity and about its ability to expand its size so much
that a baby could get through. Well, there's a big problem with that logic. For starters - no,
a woman cannot expand her vagina this much or to any degree really at will. It's just not
how female body works. In order to birth a baby, a woman's body goes through a very complex process
that is typically very painful and uncomfortable. And is a result of hours of contractions while the
body is getting the vaginal passage ready for the baby. So no, she cannot just grow her vagina to
that kind of size within a few minutes in order to have sex with a well-endowed man. Secondly yes, a
vagina can expand to twice its size during sex but that also requires a certain process to happen.
Vagina is not a balloon, it will not simply extend itself to accommodate a hard penis. You cannot
just reach in there and push its walls aside. If you try you will really, really hurt her. So
please, don't try! Another thing that trips a lot of people up when it comes to intercourse
and vaginas is that technically it is possible to just penetrate a woman without any steps that
need to happen first. A man needs something first - he needs an erection. It's a lot more tricky
to get a soft penis inside of her than an erect one. So anybody who has ever had sex knows that
typically a hard penis is required in order to have sex. But many people don't realize that a
woman also needs an erection. Because in reality yes, you can push a hard member inside of a dry,
unaroused vagina, that is possible. But it's not terribly pleasant to her and it can be actually
quite uncomfortable or painful. So we know that with a bit of foreplay a woman will start to
lubricate and that will help with pleasurable penetration. But where does this entire female
erection thing come into it? Let's talk about that. Female erections look very different than
a man's erections because they're not as apparent or as visible. Basically, a woman's genital area
contains erectile tissue that is very similar to a men's erectile tissue. But in a woman
that erectile tissue is much more internal. The clitoris and the vestibular bulbs (that are hiding
underneath her outer lips) are mostly made of it. And that erectile tissue consists of blood vessels
and muscles that respond to stimulation. So when a woman is not aroused, the smooth muscles in her
genital area are contracted allowing a normal, regular amount of blood in. But when she gets
aroused because she's being touched or because she's watching or thinking of something arousing,
there are actual changes happening in her body. A message is sent to her brain which
then directs her system to release nitric oxide within her erectile tissue. As that's happening,
the blood vessels begin to open up to allow more blood in. And those smooth muscles relax
to further support that process. So if you watch a woman's vulva in a state of arousal,
you'll see that her skin is much darker and that the whole area is sort of puffed up and sort of
swollen from all that blood rushing in. And that's her erection. Her genital area becomes engorged
and more sensitive to pleasure. Her vestibular bulbs swell up with blood and start pushing on
her vaginal canal causing the yummy tightness in her pussy. In this state, the woman will be much
more aroused and hot for you. And she'll also experience your touch and penetration is much
more delicious. But none of that will happen at will. She cannot just turn that female erection
on quickly. You need to spend time caressing her, stroking her, licking her and stimulating her body
and her arousal. This whole process of blood flow, engorgement and erection takes time. In fact, her
erection takes on average quite a bit longer than a male erection. So you really need to
give her the time she needs. Otherwise it's as if she was trying to ride your soft penis and
expecting you to orgasm. It's basically the same. If you think that all you need to do is stick your
penis inside of her and her vagina will magically expand and allow her to enjoy the penetration,
you're wrong. There are many steps between an unaroused vagina and that amazing, hot,
wet, juicy and receptive pussy that craves you inside of her. And if you try to skip those steps
you're just going to give her a poor experience. I cannot tell you how many guys I hear complaining
about how women stop wanting to have sex with them, and how they don't know what to do about
it. It's no mystery! If you give her poor quality sex, if you're stingy with foreplay, if you don't
understand and don't take care of her needs, she won't like having sex with you. But if you take
your time, if you learn all the best ways to touch and stimulate her, if you make sure that she has
an erection before you enter, my man, she'll never want to stop having sex with you. And if
you'd like to learn a thing or two about arousing, caressing and satisfying a woman fully, make sure
to check out my hugely popular online course How To Pleasure Her. It's a fantastic resource for any
man who wants to become an amazing lover. You'll find the link to the course in the description
bar below And please let me know in the comments: have you ever heard of female erections before or
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