Sierra: more bonding Sierra: ...mmmm
[Chase SCREAM laughs]
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Chase: hey everybody, it is me, Chaseypoo and today I am with ~who is she~?
[Sierra Laughs] Chase: this is Sierra, my partner. And I'm
finally going to be introducing her to the internets because, we've been together for
a while and uhm, and she's been like here and there in some videos and instagram posts,
in the background and people are wondering who you are, so if you want to introduce yourself
and like, talk to the people...[laughs] no pressure!
Sierra: Hi, I'm Sierra. like he said, uhm, I use she/her pronouns, and I am a typically
very private person, I don't do a lot of things on social media, uhm, sorry if that's boring
for everyone [both laugh]
Sierra: I'll try to get better. I am typically really private but I feel like it's important
to be visible about things that you really care about. So i've actually been kinda talking
to some of my colleagues and friends about whether or not i should be on social media.
Because once you're really public, it's hard to take that back. Uhm, and related to, I
guess like, my job, i'm in healthcare, so there's a lot of intersections there that
I've kindof been thinking about but, Overall, I feel like it's important to have positive
visibility and to show that there are supportive partners of people who are trans and I feel
like you can't have too much visibility. And i figured it would just be fun to show our
relationship dynamics. So.... Chase: aw, that's so cute. Uhm, so baby, baby
baby Sierra: mmhm
Chase: how did we meet? Sierra: hmmmmm, i guess initially, like most
of you all who know Chase, is through social media haha, because that's the age we're in.
So initially I was looking up things on the internet we related to the university that
i was at uhm, because i was looking to work at an LGBTQ clinic and my university had like
literally no information related to healthcare and trans people. So if you google anything
related to trans, Chase pops up, so I started following his videos - mostly related to the
healthcare topics that he was talking about. And then I figured, If I don't know a lot
of information, then a lot of my classmates probably dont either. so i ended up making
a powerpoint that was like a sensitivity 101 training, on like, uhm, trans cultural education.
Uhm, so then i messaged you to see if it was ok to use your videos and then i ultimately
ended up doing a presentation at a seminar for my university.
Chase: that powerpoint, when you sent it to me i was like "ugh, what is this?" no I was
really, like this is such a BIG file, but I'm like "I want to look at it, it's a big
file, you spent a lot of time on it, i don't really know who you are, but sure, I'll look
at it" because i think it was cool that you were doing something for your school to help
people because they didn't know anything and you didn't know anything and you just handled
them kind of like "here's a trans 101 of things we should probably know". Uhm, and I was going
through the powerpoint and I was like soooo oh my god, I was so surprised. Not that i
expected it to be bad, because that's not at all what it was. but it was SO much better
than I could have ever imagined a powerpoint to ever be. But it's such a good powerpoint,
so i'm really glad that you were able to also present that at the university, and I went
to that presentation and she was really good Sierra: thanks. And then after the powerpoint,
uhm, we kind of kept in touch a little bit and i was still following your videos and
then i wanted to tell you why I was still following your videos, so like "I promise
i'm not like this weird person".... [Chase Laughs]
Sierra: ....after my powerpoint is done so then we kinda were talking more. Uhm and then
you ended up doing a talk near me, so I was lik "oh well you're kindof in the area so
I might as well go say hi". So one, my, I went with a friend and we drove to your talk
and then we meet up afterwards. Chase: honestly, you just saying that, I have
butterflies in my heart. Like cuz like, I just like reliving that moment it was just...
like. It's going to sound a little weird, ~waiting for you to come to my hotel~ but
it was just because we were going to hangout and uhm, I remember you saying "i'm here"
and then you were walking and I could hear your steps in the corridor, and I was looking
in the hole. And then i saw you coming and I was like [GASP] and it was just so anxiety.
But like, we weren't together or anything. We had talked like a couple of times online
but I was just like... there's just something about you.. I don't know
Sierra: mmmmm, that's cute. Chase: so yeah, so I had my talk uhm, and
it was a good talk actually, it's one of my favourite talks and we kind of talked a little
bit afterwards and the rest is history I guess? I feel like our relationship, I don't have
a like "it went really fast" or "it went really slow" like theres no time. Like because some
people get together so fast, they get married right away blah blah, and some people are
really slow, and they've known each other forever. I don't see like a time with us.
It kinda just progressed naturally? Sierra: mmmhm
Chase: and i really enjoy that because I feel like a lot of my previous relationship were
very quick. Like very very quick. But with you it was different. I don't know, it just
felt right to just kinda let things happen as they were happening
Sierra: yeah, I agree, i like how things progressed also. I was really busy with like, so many
things in life, and school, and new jobs, so I felt like we didn't really pressure ourselves
into any like, conformed expectations Chase: and, we forgot to mention this, but
we are long distance Sierra: hmmmm
Chase: I live in Canada Sierra: I don't
[both laugh] Chase: so it's ugh.... we don't live THAT
far from each other. But it's still like an 8 to 10 hour drive, lets say. So ..... eee....you
know.... eeeeiiiittt's a little bit far. Uhm, so we kind of try to make that work. Right
now I am down here for like 2 months. And it's been amazing to be here for this long
and to live together and..to like make you lunch and wait for you when you get home,
because I work from home, right> so.. it's been really fun. But what I wanted to say
about the progression of our relationship, I think that the natural progression of it
really helped me in communicating Sierra: mmmm
Chase: because, in my previous relationships, I wasn't a really great communicator and I
had to learn that the hard way and it was really.. it sucked. and I feel so bad but
i feel like with you it was so much easier to communicate because we were long distance,
and you were so busy. So when there were things that we had to talk about, I didn't want to
be passive aggressive, I didn't want to like, "I'm fine" you know? No. "Here are the things
that are actually bothering me. Can we talk about them" And that has been amazing
Sierra: so that actually just reminded me of the same thing I wanted to talk about - being
in a long distance relationship definitely requires a lot of communication like really
really open communication about things. So our like 1 "ground rule" that uhm, is really,
has been really really helpful, is that no matter what, we are going to be honest with
each other, even if we know that thing we're going to say might be hurtful. Uhm, but at
least you know exactly where the person is coming from uhm and I feel like an example
of that, lets say, I'm not nervous that you are going out like, cheat on me. Because I
know that you're going to tell me how you're feeling about something, completely honestly,
and then we talk about it from there. So I'm not nervous about what you're doing when I'm
not there or how you're feeling when I'm not there because we know
Chase: right. Yeah, I think the that's been like the biggest blessing, the honestly, the
coolest thing uhm, that;'s part of our relationship. This this this, kind of, it's not really a
rule, but it;'s like this is like foundation to our relationship. Whenever something upsets
me and if I know it's going to upset you, I can't not say it, because I don't want it
to linger in my forever and then I use it 3 years later. I'm not doing that, I can't
do that. It's too much, I'm too old. uhm, and I don't want drama like that [laughs]
So, uh, instead we just kind of talk about it and how open we are. And I've said things
to you that I thought were going to be really hurtful to you but you let me explain myself,
and that felt really good to be heard. Because i feel like in the past, if I would have said
something that like, "this might hurt the person" i was kind of rejected, so then I
just didn't explain myself. Whereas this way, I can explain - like I could explain to you
where my thoughts are coming from. And that's happened with you too, uhm, where we are kind
of just are patient with each other. Like, even if it sounds weird at first, like ok,
whats up? you know? I like that Sierra: mmhmm. And i think the layer of trust
is just like exponentially higher when you have this kind of communication
Chase: mmmm. Yeah, there's no jealousy here, And that feels amazing because we talk about
everything. How long have we been together? Sierra: that's a good question
[both laugh] Sierra: so I guess, uhm, collectively, since
we started talking, uhm, it's been like 2 years but uhm, you know, i think things kind
of progressed over time, uhm.... Chase: we don't really have a date
Sierra: yeah Chase: like, we kinda made one up just to
have a date to celebrate on one day Sierra: yeah
Chase: but, yeah we don't really have a "this is when it happened"
Sierra: yeah Chase: it jiundof just pregressed, like I
was telling before. Sierra: mmhm
Chase: ok, so I have some questions from instagram and i just want to ask you maybe a couple
Sierra: ok... that I have not read yet [both laugh]
Chase: you're so nervous, you're so cute. Do we have any plans for the future?
Sierra: oooooo, mmmmm Chase: that's a serious one
Sierra: so many plans [both laugh]
Sierra: so many plans and no plans yet. Yeah, at some point I think living in the same country
would be really cool Chase: yeah, probably [laughs]
Sierra: yeah Chase: well, immigration is going to happen
eventually Sierra: mmmhm
Chase: whether its canada or united states. One of us has to move to a country that we
live in Sierra: mmmhm
Chase: so that's thats a plan. And somebody actually wrote "when's the wedding"
Sierra: aw Chase: which is cute, which is really cute.
And I was to acknowledge something. Sierra: okay
Chase: and I was to talk about something because everyone's been asking, "what are these rings?
Sierra: mmmmmm Chase: what are these rings?
Sierra: what ARE these rings? Chase: are those rings?
Sierra: whose idea was that? hehehe very cheesy Chase: it is very cheesy....
Sierra: was that a bad word? Chase: was that my idea?
Sierra: mmmhm Chase: oh you're saying I'm cheesy, awwwwoooo
Sierra: very Chase: ahhhhh haha.
So i thought that because we are long distance uhm, having something that reminds me of her
all the time near me, would make me feel closer to her and i don't know about you. But since
we got these, in like november? or something like that, I... it has helped with the distance
SO MUCH because I feel you here and i switch fingers all the time so people are like "are
you engaged" but i switch hands, i switch fingers.
Sierra: mmmmhm Chase: depending on the day. You just keep
it on one finger because you're just like "whatever"
Sierra: well I like that finger feels easier like i like it there
Chase: mmmhm Sierra: umm yeah I think it was a really sentimental
gesture and i thought it was really sweat. And it is a reminder when i look down, and
you're there so I really like it. We had uhmm, these really cute uhm bracelets firstm that
were like, the vibration, uhm so you could tap and uhm, the person can feel the pattern
that you tapped so it's like a vibration message but the batteries were not working very well
on them Chase: yeah, yeah it was really fun, I wish
that the battery would have lasted longer because it's yeah. But for me personally,
i don't know about you, kidding, we talk about everything, uhmnmm, I definitely see us getting
married in the future. Uhm, and living together and travelling together. Because that's my
big thing that I want to do. So you're coming with me, or you're not- I'm going to travel!
I'm just going to drag you with me [both laugh]
Sierra: okay Chase: sounds good. Ok perfect. Good good
good. Uhh so yeah, plans for the future for sure. So you're going to be seeing a lot more
of her, basically is what I'm saying Sierra: mmmhm, if you want, I mean if these
videos are boring, and you - this is the last one you want, then fine, but
Chase: FINE! [Chase laughs]
Chase: last question, how do you feel about me being on YouTube?
Sierra: mmmm that is a good question, ummm and i can definitely see how a lot of partners
would be nervous about having their life like so public on YouTube. Uhm, especially because
you talk about sex a lot, so knowing that like "hey, i'm the person you're talking about"
it could be stressful for people. That part doesn't uhm actually concern me. I guess overall
having a social media presence can make you very vulnerable, to like once you say something,
it's there forever, uhm, so I'm not hesitant about that because there can be a lot of backlash
for lots of different things. People can be very judgemental of the things that you're
saying and that changes with the times. also, so that could be nerv- make me nervous, and
then once you're in a public space ;like you can't. Once you're out like you're out, it's
hard to take back that privacy, so I was nervous about like, the privacy part. But overall
I like that you're on YouTube, I think it's really nice that you have a platform and you
get to share all of these beautiful experiences. And empower people and genuinely help people
with things that i think are really important. Uhmm, so honestly, I'm proud of you and I
like that you're on YouTube, I think it's sweet
Chase: bayyyyyybyyyyyy oooooaaww thank you. I'm glad that, not that you don't have a problem
with it but that you're just- that you're - you embrace it
Sierra: mmmhm Chase: like you know its a part of my life
and you don't like hide it. Like you know, when your family asks what I do, you don't
say like "oh he did his masters and he's doing research"
Sierra: mhmm Chase: you know, i don't have to like hide
myself, you just tell them what i do Sierra: mhm
Chase: and if they want to check it out, have fun, because there's going to be ~ A L O T
~ of reviews on there hahaha Sierra: I was going to say, my mom watches
his videos a lot [both laugh]
Chase: especially the reviews haha. So we have like, i think 17 other questions
but we're not going to answer them in this video. Were going to make actually, separate
videos so if you want any specific topics, uhm, for us to talk about, or even just for
Sierra because I could just leave you in the - do the video by yourself, you do you
[both laugh] Chase: uhm, put them in the comments below,
because uh, we are definitely interested in doing videos that you want to see. you know?
Not just things. So uh yeah, what do you think? Sierra: yeah, I think it would be fun, lots
of things to talk about Chase: lots of things to talk about. I'm just
excited to make more videos with you. Because like, this is my favourite thing to be in
the world and now I get to share it with you Sierra: hmmmm.... more bonding ..... mmm
[Chase SCREAM LAUGHS] Chase: that's enough for this video thank
you so much baby, for being this video Sierra: yeah, thanks for having me
Chase: ooooo, also we're on this really comfy bean bag chair, not sponsored [laughs] and
it is it, oh man, it's nice huh? Sierra: yes i like it
Chase: oh yes, it's great Sierra: mmmmhm
Chase: OMG THESE EYES SHE'S GIVING ME [both laugh]
Chase: okay, we'll see you later. Thank you baby, and have a great week!
Sierra: Bye!
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