KRISTEN:
KRISTEN: WELCOME BACK TO "GREAT DAY WASHINGTON."
DAY WASHINGTON." ACCORDING TO DAN MASON, THERE
ARE THREE RED FLAGS THAT IT IS
TIME FOR YOU TO BREAK UP WITH
YOUR JOB.
YOUR JOB.
YOUR JOB. I AM SO EXCITED TO GET TO TALK
TO YOU TODAY, BECAUSE I THINK A
LOT OF PEOPLE COME TO A PLACE AT
THEIR JOB THEY THINK, SHOULD I
STAY OR GO, AND YOU HAVE THREE
RED FLAGS TO KNOW IT IS TIME TO
GO?
GO?
GO? >>
GO? >> 64% OF PEOPLE GOING THROUGH
THE MOTIONS, DISENGAGED AT WORK
AND IT IS INTERESTING WHEN WE
THINK ABOUT WHETHER IT IS TIME
TO STAY OR GO.
THE RED FLAGS AREN'T THAT
DIFFERENT FROM BEING IN A TOXIC
ROMANTIC RELATIONSHIP.
ROMANTIC RELATIONSHIP. LET'S BREAK IT DOWN AND START
WITH NUMBER ONE, IS YOUR JOB
CAUSING YOU PAIN?
WE WANT TO LOOK AT THE AMOUNT OF
STRESS YOU ARE DEALING WITH
EVERYDAY.
EVERYDAY.
EVERYDAY. NOT ALL STRESS IN THE WORKPLACE
IS BAD.
IS BAD.
IS BAD. THERE IS GOOD STRESS THAT SHOWS
UP IN YOUR BODY IN THE FORM OF
EXCITEMENT.
EXCITEMENT. IT IS WHAT YOU FEEL BEFORE
GIVING THE BIG PRESENTATION OR
CLOSING A BIG DEAL.
THAT KIND OF STRESS KEEPS YOU
FOCUSED AND HELPS YOU PERFORM
BETTER.
BETTER.
BETTER. BUT OVER TIME, IF YOUR BODY IS
STAYING IN A FIGHT OR FLIGHT
RESPONSE, THAT IS SHOWING UP AS
ANXIETY, IT IS OVERWHELMED.
FOR ME AT 38 YEARS OLD, I WAS ON
BLOOD PRESSURE MEDICATION AND
CONTRACTED SHINGLES.
CONTRACTED SHINGLES. IF THE ENERGY REQUIRED FOR YOUR
JOB EVERY DAY IS MORE THAN YOU
HAVE IN RESERVE, IT IS TIME TO
STEP BACK AND REASSESS AND
FIGURE OUT IF YOU'RE IN THE
RIGHT PLACE.
RIGHT PLACE. ELLEN: THOSE ARE INCREDIBLE
FACTORS AND SIGNS THAT IT IS
TIME TO DO SOMETHING ELSE.
WHAT ABOUT FOR PEOPLE WHO ARE
THINKING, IS THERE A QUESTION TO
ASK BECAUSE I DON'T HAVE PASSION
FOR WHAT I'M DOING ANYMORE?
>> A BIG THING TO CONSIDER RIGHT
NOW, IS IF YOU LOST YOUR SPARK
WITH YOUR JOB.
IF YOU ARE LAYING IN BED IN THE
MORNING, HAVING AN EMOTIONAL
AFFAIR ON YOUR EMPLOYER AND
FANTASIZING ABOUT OTHER JOBS,
ASK YOURSELF, IS THIS ABOUT THE
PANDEMIC OR IS IT ABOUT MY
CAREER PATH?
CAREER PATH? THERE ARE SO MANY STUDIES OUT
THERE FROM PLACES -- WE KNOW
THAT WOMEN IN PARTICULAR HAVE
BEEN DISPROPORTIONATELY AFFECTED
BY THE WORK FROM HOME CULTURE.
IT IS LIKE THREE FULL-TIME JOBS.
ALL OF YOUR DUTIES AT WORK,
PLAYING HOMEMAKER AND IN MANY
CASES HAVING TO BE THE
SCHOOLTEACHER.
SCHOOLTEACHER. THAT CAN CAUSE BURNOUT.
IF THAT IS THE CASE FOR YOU,
MAYBE ALL YOU NEED TO DO IS
ENLIST MORE SUPPORT AS PER YOUR
NEEDS.
NEEDS.
NEEDS. ASK YOUR PARTNER TO STEP UP OR
YOUR FAMILY TO HELP.
IF THAT LOSS OF A SPARK IT WAS
BACK TO 2018 OR IF IT HAS BEEN
HAPPENING FOR FIVE YEARS OR
SEVEN YEARS, AND THE PANDEMIC
HAS JUST ACCELERATED THAT
SPIRITUAL DECAY, IT IS
DEFINITELY TIME TO GET SOME
SUPPORT AND TALK TO SOMEBODY AND
MAKE THAT PIVOT IN YOUR CAREER.
ELLEN: I THINK SOMETIMES WE CAN
GET LOST IN TRYING TO CLIMB THAT
LADDER, TO MAKE IT WHERE WE
WANTED TO BE WHEN WE FIRST
STARTED OUT.
STARTED OUT. >> LAST YEAR, I WOULD SIT DOWN
AT MY DESK EVERY DAY, TURN ON
THE COMPUTER AND MUMBLE PASSIVE
AGGRESSIVELY UNDER MY BREATH,
CORPORATE SELLOUT REPORTING FOR
DUTY.
DUTY.
DUTY. THAT PRESSURE IS EVEN HIGHER FOR
MANY PEOPLE RIGHT NOW.
THERE HAVE BEEN BUDGET CUTS
BECAUSE OF THIS PANDEMIC, A LOT
OF PEOPLE FEEL LIKE THEY HAVE TO
TOE THE LINE AND MAY HAVE TO
PORTRAY THEMSELVES OR THEY ARE
TAKING ON WORK THAT ISN'T EVEN
IN THEIR ZONE OF GENIUS.
THEY ARE DOING THINGS THAT DON'T
MATTER TO THEM, JUST BECAUSE
THEY WANT TO BE PERCEIVED AS
VALUABLE.
VALUABLE.
VALUABLE. IT IS A GREAT TIME TO LIST, WHAT
ARE MY CORE VALUES?
WHAT ARE THE THINGS THAT MAKE ME
ATTRACTED TO THIS EMPLOYER IN
THE FIRST PLACE AND MI STILL IN
ALIGNMENT WITH THESE EVERY DAY?
YOU COULD HAVE A CONVERSATION
WITH YOUR EMPLOYER ABOUT IT.
IT DOESN'T MEAN THEY ARE GOING
TO CHANGE YOUR RESPONSIBILITIES
OR YOUR DUTIES, BUT YOU MIGHT
WANT DIFFERENT THINGS AT THIS
POINT AND IT IS OK TO PART WAYS.
ELLEN: DO YOU HAVE A TIP FOR US
ON HOW DO WE FIND OUR PURPOSE IF
WE ARE SAYING I RELATE TO THOSE
FLAGS?
FLAGS?
FLAGS? ELLEN: FIND YOUR PURPOSE IN 30
SECONDS -- >> FIND YOUR PURPOSE
IN 30 SECONDS.
YOUR PURPOSE EXISTS AT THE
INTERSECTION OF ABOUT THREE
PLACES.
PLACES.
PLACES. YOU WANT TO ASK WHAT AM I GOOD
AT, NOT JUST THE SKILLS THAT
HELP ME SURVIVE CORPORATE BUT
WHAT ARE THE THINGS THAT COME
EASY TO ME?
MY INTRINSIC GIFTS?
WHAT MAKES ME FEEL ALIVE?
WHAT BRINGS ME JOY, WHEN I AM AT
THE HIGHEST LEVELS OF JOY IN MY
LIFE?
LIFE?
LIFE? WHAT ARE THOSE THINGS?
NUMBER THREE, WHAT DOES THE
WORLD NEED?
WORLD NEED? HOW CAN I HELP SOLVE PROBLEMS OR
WHAT ARE THE PROBLEMS I HAVE
OVERCOME IN MY LIFE THAT I COULD
HELP SOME BUDDY ELSE WITH?
WHEN YOU CAN MEET IN THE CENTER
OF THOSE CIRCLES, THAT IS WHAT I
LIKE TO CALL THE AMPLIFIED LIFE.
THAT IS WHEN YOU ARE USING YOUR
GIFTS AND TALENTS IN A WAY THAT
LIGHTS YOU UP AND ADDS VALUE IN
THE WORLD, AND THAT IS WHEN YOU
FEEL MOST UNSTOPPABLE.
ELLEN: THANK YOU SO MUCH.
WE APPRECIATE YOU TAKING TIME
FOR US.
FOR US.
FOR US. >> I APPRECIATE YOU.
THANK YOU FOR HAVING ME.
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