- Crafty, like hands-on.
So I don't know if he was kind of like a carpenter
in some way.
And saying like, "Congratulations
"that I was here with you."
That's why she was bringing that up.
As if you kiss her in some ways and saying thank you.
So she wants to validate you that she's here with you.
Hi, my name's A.J. Barrera.
I'm a psychic medium and intuitive counselor.
Being a Latino in the community
and being a psychic medium, it's pretty interesting.
It's considered, like, the Devil's work.
It's considered taboo.
It's considered like it's not coming from a place of God.
It's not coming from a place of holiness, if you will.
And I really believe if you understand religion
and spirituality, they blend beautifully together.
When we connect with a higher power, the higher self,
it comes from within.
And as long as you come from a good place
and you're working from good energy,
that's what you're gonna put out
to your clients and to the world basically.
Today, I am reading three people.
Curly, Alexis, and Maya.
- Alrighty y'all, so today I'm super excited.
We're gonna talk to a medium.
I have been wanting to talk to this medium
for a super long time.
I'm hoping to possibly talk to my grandma.
I just want to know if my abuelita's with me.
I'm just excited to see if she comes through.
- So here's the thing, I want to explain to you a little bit
how I work as a psychic medium before we just in
so you're kind of aware about the process.
You may kind of see me staring off to the side
or onto the floor.
It's just kind of my way of focusing
on what's coming through.
So it's not that I don't want look at you or anything,
it's just how I'm receiving the information.
Also, when I do give names of loved ones,
it's either who they are on the other side,
who they're with on the other side with,
or someone they want to say hello to who is still living.
Now what I find interesting
is I do feel like there's an older female figure
that comes through
and I feel like there's very maternal energy.
So I don't know if she was actually more like an aunt figure
that comes forward here.
But once she comes through,
she wants to come through and embrace you in a way.
And when she talks to you,
she's made me feel like it's so important
for you to know that you are loved and you were loved.
And I don't know if she was ever able to express that
that often, but there's a way with her
that she's made me feel like, it's like I wanna give you
this big spirit hug from the other side
and making sure that you know that she's here.
I don't know if you were unable to say goodbye
in the moment of her passing either
because you weren't physically there
or there was a geological distance that happened here
or too, if there was some sort of
cardiovascular thing that happened here with her
that she's bringing up here.
Would that make sense?
- Yes, I think that's my grandma
and I'm trying not to get emotional.
- And there's a way with her that she wants to honor you.
Because it's so funny,
I don't want to get too personal
but I'm very honest in all my reads.
- Please, please. - It feels like that either
she kind of became this inspiration
when you're still physically living.
So it's almost like you kind of are still empowered
to do the things that are due in your life, because of her.
Because of what she'd physically done.
But I kind of see her just sitting with coffee
and kind of dipping cookies or bread basically in it.
- Yes. (laughs)
Oh my God, yeah.
- And there's a way with her that she wants to let you know
she's enjoying herself
and she's here with you and validating you.
And I want to say this respectfully, a very sassy energy
when I get your grandmother, in some ways.
- She was very sassy and I didn't understand it as a kid.
I was like "She's mean, I don't understand her jokes."
- In some element with your grandmother,
there's a way with her,
that I don't obviously speak a lot of Spanish
but I know a lot of Spanish in some ways of symbolism.
And I think it's her way of kind of giving you besos.
Like, I keep on hearing besos.
So I really believe it's her way of giving you kisses
from the other side to validate you.
And I really believe for her,
is I need to kind of honor you.
I don't know if you live by yourself, but if I first walk
say for instance, in your front door into your living room,
am I already into your living room off to the right?
- You have to walk up the stairs
then you are off to the right in my living room.
- Okay, would you actually have a memorial
of your grandmother right in that room, specifically?
Okay, she wants to say thank you for doing that.
Thank you for honoring her.
Because I feel as if she's there in your home
vibrating with you.
Because I feel as if you give her the kisses.
That's why she's bringing that up,
as if you kiss her in some ways and saying thank you.
So she wants to validate you that she's here with you
and seeing what's going on in your life.
Because I really, really believe with her
that you need to know that she's always been with you,
but more so on a spiritual essence
that she's seeing what's going on in your life.
Because I really believe
this woman did not want to leave this physical realm
but I really believe her body just gave out.
You know what I mean?
And I really believe her soul was so dominant, so strong
that you need to know her soul, her energy, is there.
- I mean, it's so funny because I do give her kisses
and I walk in and I talk to her all the time.
But we didn't have a relationship.
I was a kid.
How do you talk to a little six year old?
Do you know what I mean?
- To me, as someone who does this work,
it shows that she valued that relationship.
I don't know if you have much of your grandmother's,
meaning not so much personal items,
meaning like photos, per se.
But I feel like as if we need to talk about a physical photo
that we have either out,
but I actually feel as if we're,
seeing sitting on the couch together or having a good time,
but it just feels like it's just you
and maybe two other kids or two other individuals.
But I feel like it's out that we need to acknowledge
that she's saying like,
"I enjoyed my time with the kids."
So. is there two other siblings
we need to acknowledge then for you?
- I mean, my sister. - Or two other kids?
- My sister was my sister she raised,
but she raised all of us.
- Okay, so she's just identifying your sister.
Give your sister the love from your grandmother,
that's her way acknowledging her
and seeing that love there as well.
- Am I allowed to ask questions?
- Absolutely, please! Yes!
- I mean, is she chillin'?
Can you see her physically or can you hear her?
- So it's interesting, the way I work is that
everything's out of my frame of reference.
So when they show me dates, names, birthdays
and all that stuff, it's their way of identifying
who I need to speak with or who I need to talk about.
So, when they show my mom's side, my dad's side,
I know which individual this person's coming from.
I don't see them.
I don't identify with them as this is what they look like
unless they show me someone in my family
what they look like.
I interpret everything based in that way.
But when we talk about where are they
or we're like, "What's going on here",
we have to understand their energy.
We're all made up of energy and they vibrate
so, I tell people I'm like WiFi.
Once I turn on my WiFi signal,
whoever I download and connect with,
it's who I connect with basically.
So, I don't pick and choose who I wanna connect with
but it's whoever steps forward.
- I can't believe you knew where her picture was.
(laughs) - Thank you so much.
- Uh, That was amazing. - Thank you.
- Thank you so much. - Oh my God, I'm a little
sweaty, sorry. - Oh please.
That's amazing. (laughs)
Alright girl, I'll see you at home.
So, I'm home now.
This is the staircase that I was talking about
that leads you up and immediately
when you turn to the right is my living room.
Immediately above is my grandma,
the photo of my grandma that we were talking about.
I actually will come and talk to her
and I always kiss my two fingers
and I touch the bottom of the photo.
And it was weird because he knew immediately
where it was in the house.
This is like my dedicated wall to her.
He mentioned a photo,
which at first he thought was me
and then after the conversation he said
it was a sign for my sister
and when I texted my sister I was like,
"Hey, there's a photo of me and grandma"
and she's like,
"He's talking about me, homeboy,
"that's the photo of me and two other kids."
There are three kids in the photo.
He described a happy time
and my sister is miserable in the photo.
She has chicken pox.
But the two other kids are having a lot of fun.
I can't express what a gift that really was
to experience my grandmother again
and in a way just kind of know that she's here with me
and I'm happy to have her here.
- I'm about to go and talk to the medium.
I'm really interested in connecting with my grandmother
who passed away when I was 16.
I feel like she's missed a lot of my life and I just
have so many questions for her.
- Before I sat down,
I already felt like there was already a lady
on dad's side that was already stepping forward here.
Very dominant lady, very strong lady,
but I feel like in a very good way.
When she does talk about herself,
she wants to validate how strong she was
before she passed over.
I keep on hearing a lot of congestive
or coughing in some ways
and I feel like there's something asphyxiating
where I can't breathe.
So what-- - She had asthma.
- Okay, so she wants to validate that she can breathe.
Like I have fresh air and I can breathe now.
And I don't know if your grandmother
had a very funny or loud laugh
but she's laughing and she's slapping her leg,
saying like, "I'm having a good time."
And she wants to say like, "I'm here, I'm here."
And what I find very cool with her is that
once she comes through, she obviously
knows how to work with a medium.
Because once she comes through, she says,
"I've done this (bleep) before."
Excuse the language, sorry. (laughs)
But I feel like in some ways that perhaps
she may have even done something
with tea leaves or coffee beans.
I wouldn't be surprised
because of the very spiritualist energy.
I feel like in some unique way,
there's either some sort of artist work
that was done in honor of her.
What is it, if you don't mind me asking?
- There's a photograph that I took when I was in high school
that actually went on and did really well.
It's her sitting in a chair.
- My hair's just rising.
I'm wearing a long sleeve, but my hair's rising.
- Yeah, I can't, I'm really blown away by this.
- Wow, I'm getting emotional
because I really, really believe
this is her way of just being very proud of you.
I really believe this is her way
of validating what you're doing.
Because I really believe you have
a lot of energy like her ingrained in you.
She's also identifying,
I don't know if this is mom's side
or if this is the same side but, is there
a Bernice or Bernadette or Bertha connected here?
- Um, uh - Woe.
(Mysterious music)
Go figure, talk about signs, right?
(laughing)
- [Woman] I don't know, I feel like we should turn it off.
- Woe - [Man] That's crazy.
- [Man] Do you wanna switch it?
- I should have mentioned this, because every time I do sets
or something, batteries die or lights go out.
- I know that so I have extra sound, like, extra everything.
- Oh my God.
- Extra lightning. - Yeah, yeah.
- [Man] It looked like lightning went off.
So yeah, I believe I want to go over too with the B name,
basically on to mom's side of the family.
So the B name, so just remember that.
And I think it's our way, acknowledging that individual.
It may also represent moreso the health concerns
that may be around her,
which is why they're acknowledging her.
It's interesting because I really believe
that your grandmother, when she brings up this energy,
she's bringing up a younger male
we need to acknowledge here and it feels very,
very important we need to highlight.
I feel like your brother, in some ways,
is dealing with a moment of numbness,
that he may have lost that baby,
that energy around him that feels like,
I lost my best friend.
And it seems like that we need to acknowledge
how the transition happens, but it seems like that
as if we did the right thing
in the transition of that pet per se.
You know what I mean?
It feel like it's so important for him to know
and for you guys to know.
- He did experience the loss of his dog
who saw him through a really hard time
and the dog came to him miraculously and
it just passed away, not last night but the night before.
- I am so sorry. - So he's like deep
in the heart of grief right now.
- I wouldn't be surprised though,
because it seems like that your brother
will still actually hear his dog walking.
So I believe it's his way of validating.
It is his dog, it's not him wanting to hear it,
it's not him making it up.
But I really believe his dog is kind of making
it's energy known there to validate him.
But more importantly, so tell him
he's not, again, making this up.
It's that experience of that soul
and spirit right there with him.
What I find interesting, do you know
your mom's side of the family pretty well?
- Mm-hmm.
- Would her father be passed? - Mm-hmm, yeah.
- Because I need to acknowledge
this gentleman coming through, like your grandfather.
There's a way with him when he comes through
that he's like bringing forth like,
"Well, here I am! What do you want?"
It's almost like there's a straightforward approach with him
and I feel like that's no bars, like there's no--
- My face is getting so hot! (laughs)
This is so real, it's so real.
- I find it still hard for you to grieve for him.
You understand that?
And there's a way with him
that he wants you to be happy in your heart
because I really believe you haven't
allowed yourself to let go, because it's like,
if I let go of him, he's not gonna be around me.
And I feel like there's a way with him
that he's saying, "I just want you to be happy."
So you can be happy, because I really feel like
the emotional process is very, very important for you.
He's also telling me to talk about the coins.
Why are the coins significant? - Oh yeah.
I got married a couple of months ago
and my grandmother saved us these coins
that she gave us as a part of our wedding present.
- Just know that this is his way of validating
he was there for your wedding.
So just know that this is his way of validating you
and saying like, "Congratulations
"that I was here with you."
So I really, really believe it's his love
and his emotion validating what you need to know
that even though he wasn't physically present,
his soul and his spirit was right there with you.
And I think that's the beautiful part about this
is that, something so small like that
is a big validation for you
but also for them to say, "We're just dead."
"We just transitioned."
And for us we're kind of like,
oh my God I wish they were here,
I wish they could see this and to be quite honest
obviously, he did see it.
He was there for that event.
First of all, obviously, congratulations
from me, but also from him as well in a huge, huge way.
But I just want you to kind of be happy
and move in that process for yourself as well.
- Thank you so much for these messages.
- Oh my God, thank you. - This means so much to me.
- Thank you so much.
This means a lot.
Thank you for allowing me to do this for you.
- I'm totally shook, in a way.
I mean, I definitely have always considered myself
to be very spiritual and nurture those connections.
But, that reading was exactly what I needed to hear
from the people that are my spiritual family.
I have been holding in a lot of grief.
It was therapeutic for me to go through that.
A lot of people don't allow themselves
to even think about their spiritual connection
and the people in their lives that have passed.
They think them in a fleeting way but, I think
I've really learned how important it is to honor them.
Especially after this experience.
- So I'm about to set up for the shoot today with A.J.
and I really want him to try to connect
with my grandfather on my mom's side
because, I feel like I have honored him
in so many different ways.
Like with the tamale video where I made his recipe.
He's just a really huge part of my life
and so hopefully he can pick up on that.
If not, maybe my nana.
I don't know how these things work
but, I hope he can connect with my grandfather.
- I do want to go over to your mom's side of the family
because there is this gentleman
that is knocking on my door, spiritually.
It's like, "I'm here, I'm here, I'm here."
So I definitely need to validate,
this is actually gonna be more of a father figure,
grandfather figure on mom's side on the family, please.
So has mom's father passed over, please?
- Yeah. - I need to validate.
He's very funny, very loud when he comes through
because, he's making me feel like
I'm not gonna miss this for the world, basically.
So there's a way with him that he comes through
that he's acknowledging himself in a very cool way.
What I love about your grandfather
is that it's not in a sad way.
He doesn't want to talk about sadness.
He doesn't want to talk about death.
He's more so like, pull my finger.
You know what I mean? - Yes, he was a jokester!
He was a prankster! (laughs loudly)
- Apparently he still is.
Like, things have not changed. - Oh my God.
- So I really believe in him, when he comes forward here,
he wants to be happy and fun and loud and have a good time.
So I really, really like his energy
because it's not about his death or the sadness.
But, I really believe your grandfather is a gentleman
that you actually physically had a lot of time with.
So I don't believe that you lost him at
three-years-old, five-years-old.
I feel that you had him at an older age.
It's his way of saying. "Thank you
"for spending the time with me."
Your mom is still here though correct, right?
- Yes. - Because that would be
her father, so I need to acknowledge two things.
I don't know if your mom's birthday is this month
or it's his birthday, but he's talking about
February being significant.
- His birthday was Friday.
- Okay, he's making me feel that
he's having a party on the other side.
So basically, he's celebrating his birthday
when he comes forward here.
And I really believe it's his way of stepping forward
and coming through and kind of giving that love
but more importantly, giving the love to your mother.
I want to be very clear and I may misinterpret this here,
is that when he does talk about maybe perhaps
leading up to his transition,
not so much the transition itself,
it feels like it's more of a sudden,
but not unexpected passing.
He's telling me that he said he just went to sleep.
- Yeah.
- He just went to sleep. - Yeah.
- He always wanted to be active
and do what he wanted to do and it just feels like
that as he got older he was unable to provide
and do things for himself.
And it feels like that, it's so important
for you guys to know that he's active
and able to physically walk around
and move and do these things because he's saying that,
"I'm not stuck.
"I'm able to walk.
"I'm able to move."
- Well, he had cancer and his leg,
they had to cut off his leg.
- He's making me feel like he can walk
and he's making me feel like whatever happened,
whatever disability is here,
he's making me feel as if he can walk and move again.
So it feels very significant.
- Yeah, he was so active.
When that happened, when he had to be in a wheelchair,
it just broke him, I feel like.
And it broke us to see him in a wheelchair
and not doing things himself, you know?
So that makes me so happy that he's active.
- There's a way with him
that I'm kind of seeing my grandfather
who was very kind of like, crafty, hands-on.
So I don't know if he was kind of like
a carpenter in some ways, but there's a way with him
that I just feel like there's
kind of like a lot of hard labor,
hard hands that were evolving here.
- Yes!
- I may have to acknowledge this
to your mom or to your grandmother
but. I don't know if someone actually is huge into
say, crocheting or knitting or something like that.
But there's a huge needle point type of thing
we need to bring up here.
- Yeah, my mom is an artist.
She does a bunch of different things.
She does crocheting sometimes, she does sewing,
she does painting, she paints all this stuff.
My grandpa was actually super crafty.
He used to-- - [A.J.] Are you serious?
- Yeah, he used to build a lot of things
and stuff with metal and make necklaces.
He had his own workshop.
- Wow, what I think is super cool too
is that I really believe this is someone,
like your grandfather, who loved his food.
Who loved the energy of food.
So I really believe if you brought him out
a plate of say, mole or whatever, he would eat it.
Like, I really believe this is a guy that can eat.
- He used to make tamales.
Tamales, he's such a (speaks in Spanish).
This year I actually made his recipe,
so I'm kinda like, that was a way I could connect with him--
- Honoring him. - Through food, honoring him.
- Absolutely.
- In a lot of ways, I feel like I got my humor from him
and I feel like I'm honoring him by being who I am
and funny and everything through videos and stuff.
Yeah, I think a lot of the time,
the reason why I get sad is because I wish he was here
to see everything that I'm doing.
I think it's like that physical thing that I want to be like
look at all these things that I've done!
- Absolutely, but I think in some ways,
I think you said it perfectly,
that all the things that you're doing today
is because of him.
So he's always vibrating in your heart.
Not even just your mind.
He's always there with you.
So those moments of the passion
or the feel of you being funny,
all that is obviously a piece of you
ingrained into you of him spiritually.
And I think it's his way of identifying that with you
that you have this guidance from him.
What I do find interesting with you, Maya,
is that I feel like that you do, sense him quite often.
Like you feel him.
- I was literally gonna say that.
(laughs)
That's crazy.
- Because I just feel like there kind of this
overwhelming feeling that I just get.
It's almost like you're an empath.
Like you can feel emotion, you can feel energy.
And I feel like with him, he wants to let you know
that moment that you feel that, that's him.
- So it's a couple days after our reading with A.J.
and I cannot believe how spot on he was
throughout the entire process.
Right off the bat, he knew my grandfather was very happy
and joyful and a jokester.
Nobody would really know that about my grandfather
unless you knew him.
Also, it was very confirming to me
that he validated the moments
when I do feel and sense my grandfather,
that I'm not just crazy.
That it is really him that I'm feeling.
Overall, I can't express how much of a healing process
this was for us all and I'm just so grateful
to A.J. for coming in and blessing us with his gifts.
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