You know the feeling you're going down on a woman and all
you hear is
nothing. You're wondering to yourself? Is she liking it?
Is she not liking it? Is this working? It seemed to be working
last time when I did this. This was working. But now she's not
working. Am I going in the right direction is the pressure right?
Should I be going up and down instead of left and right, what
letter of the alphabet have my eye on? And on the other hand,
there's her internal mindset. I mean, right now she's trusting
you face first, in her most sensitive area. She's got her
own internal game going, is he liking it? Am I liking it? What
is he doing with his tongue? Has he spelling the same letters
over and over again? I'm joking. The alphabet thing. It's not the
worst advice. So the best advice ever anyways, you want to
uplevel your oral sex game. I know that because I know you
because you're here on my channel. And you subscribe to my
channel where I give you advice like this all the time. You want
to give her a mind blowing experience and you want to make
her come? How can you know exactly what she's thinking
during oral sex so that you can give her what she wants and
needs. And so that you can give her an experience of pleasure
and satisfaction and stimulation that brings her to new heights
of joy, and bliss. And orgasm. In the next few minutes. I am
going to explain to you exactly what she's thinking while you're
going down on her and what to do about it so that you can give
her the best oral sex of her. I don't know, because I'm a woman
have been my whole life. And I'm also Caitlin V, you're a sex and
relationship coach. So let's dive in five things that she's
thinking about during oral sex. Number one of five, do I smell
or taste bad, almost every woman has some level of insecurity
around her vulva. And this sucks. It's something that we've
been told, since we were little girls is that we're smelly,
we're fishy. We're stinky, we're weird, tastes bad, it smells
bad, etc, etc. All of this stuff is so harmful. So please, if you
are guilty of spreading those nasty rumors yourself cut it
out, because most of us actually don't taste a whole lot. And if
they do taste, they don't taste bad. You know, they taste like
honey grams or Captain Crunch or trail mix. But unfortunately,
unless she has a lot of experience tasting her own or
other women's vase, she may not know that. And so your job is to
remind her of how hot she is, how great she tastes, how
wonderful she smells, how lovely and wonderful her is until she
tosses her head back in ecstasy. Number two, is he enjoying
himself once again, enthusiasm is essential. This is your
opportunity to worship her and go all in. Because if she's not
sure that you're enjoying yourself, it's going to make it
harder for her to relax and enjoy herself. So kiss her vulva
lovingly make out with it. Use your tongue and your lips and
your full on attention. even give it build sweet kisses.
women enjoy knowing that you are enjoying yourself. It takes the
pressure off of us because women are also givers just the same
way that men are. We want to get back to you and make sure that
you're having a great time. So let us know that you are which
is thinking number 3am I taking too long. Why haven't I come yet
women and men to be fair, get self conscious about how long it
can take us to orgasm. And we start wondering, Is he getting a
kink in his neck? How long have you been at it? Oh my god, he
must think that I'm frigid for taking this long. I need to come
right now in order to make up for how long? He's been down
there over and I'm not sure that I'm that close to orgasm. Oh my
God, should I tell him to stop? When is he going to stop isn't
gonna stop on his own? Does he hate me? It's a hot mess. So
because she is asking herself, how long is it going to take
before he loses interest or he gets tired or he just never
wants to go down on me again. You can quiet all of those
anxieties by proactively saying, Hey babe, I plan on being down
here for a while. So why don't you just relax and let me play
with you. Melt bust the clock, take the pressure away. Let her
know that orgasm is not the end goal. Pleasure is the goal and
you are getting pleasure from the pleasure that you are giving
to her. All right what she's thinking. Number four, five, why
is he not getting my subtle movements women are trying to
tell you without telling you what it is that she wants. She's
moving her body and her hips in suggestive ways hoping that you
get the hint, communicating non verbally where to put your
tongue that you need to be giving more pressure or less
pressure so make sure that you are listening to her body
language and the cues that she's trying to communicate to you,
because the man who listens to his woman's body is a fan tastic
lover. So ask yourself, Is she encouraging me to go slower, to
go lower to go softer? Often, if you hold your tongue and your
mouth still, she will actually angle her body to bring it into
alignment. And if she's not doing that, encourage her to
say, hey, why don't you move around and put me in the
position that works best for you. If she's tilting her hips
towards you, you know that she wants more pressure. If she's
pulling your hips away from you, she wants less. And this is
basically true. All of the time. Women are constantly trying to
send you signals move forward, move back, a little to the left,
etc. All right, and number five of five, she's asking herself,
why am I thinking at all? Why can't I just get out of my head,
it can be hard for women to turn off our thinking brain between
insecurities and wondering if I'm taking too long to trying to
get into the right position to wondering about the state of the
relationship or the groceries or whatever. We're thinking we're
thinkers, what can I say the best way for you to counteract
that is by starting slowly, taking your sweet time and
savoring her. Think about a slow and steady roll into sex instead
of going from date, or work, or whatever we were doing before to
now trying to have an orgasm. And instead think about this as
a journey that has distinct parts from the beginning to the
middle of the end. You can also help her to get out of her head
by using some firm grounding techniques may be squeezing or
scratching along the inside of her thighs, maybe licking and
kissing behind her knees, things that help her to ground into her
body
because they are intense stimulation. Now, this doesn't
need to be intense, like an intense flogging or a spanking
session. This can just be a little scratch a little pat.
Something that helps her to get back from here into here. And by
watching this video practicing the techniques that I teach here
in my course she comes to you can be so great at cunnilingus
that she won't even be able to think because she's going to be
so wrapped up in what is going on between her legs. So to recap
if she is moaning, bucking, squeezing panting you are doing
it Alright my friend keep going don't change. And if you want a
little bit more advice about how to absolutely crush it in the
oral sex game, check out my other video three secret oral
sex tips she wants you to know I actually teach you three
distinct techniques and tongue exercises. Check out the rest of
my videos on YouTube. Make sure that you are subscribed because
oral sex is just one part of what makes you a master of the
bedroom. But if you can nail this part, boy or boy, you are
going to be legendary in her eyes. So thank you so much for
tuning in. Make sure you are subscribed and I will see you
here next week.