Hi there this is Clay, I'm answering more of your questions today. Today is a question
that basically goes, I've improved myself a lot, thanks to several weeks of active,
no contact but I'm still struggling. What do I do? Okay. And I really want to clarify
this because sometimes there's a little bit of confusion about this and that's the active
no contact, but we teach, you know, which is fundamentally different from regular no
contact that you may have read about elsewhere. But active, no contact is not about just feeling
better, not about healing yourself in a breakup, not about just, you know, Yay, my life is
perfect and all that because, you know, happiness, that is, that, that's so vague and nebulous
these days. Basically, you know, if you want to be happy, you just go out and buy a bottle
of wine, boom, you're happy, right?
But there's so much more to really active, no contact and to the message that we're trying
to convey to you. Then just, you know, healing yourself, you know, not crying everyday when
you come home, stuff like that. I mean, obviously that's part of it, but beyond that, we're
teaching you relational strategies that really help you to open up someone else to the point
where the two of you can communicate in a much more open and transparent and honest
and authentic way. We're teaching you how to really stick up for yourself so that you
won't be taken advantage of by your ex are used by your ex or anything like that or become
like, you know, a a booty call or a friends with benefits or something like that. When
you really want a committed relationship, we're teaching you about a lot of stuff like
that so that you can actually show up so you can actually inspire trust and you can actually
have a deep emotional connection with your ex one.
The two of you talk when the two of you meet up, when the two of you interact and when
the two of you have any sort of exchange in any way whatsoever, and I'm trying to hopefully
conveyed this to you that, that this goes much, much, much further than just, you know,
Yay. I feel better. Hooray. It's rainbows out double rainbow outside, you know, it,
it goes much deeper than that and I hope that you can understand this and I hope that, you
know, you can realize that, you know, what I've been trying to teach you through, you
know, the many, several, countless videos that I've done at this point and through the
newsletter and everything that you know, Mika and Francis and Rashmi, everyone on our team
have been doing is really to, to really hopefully a move you in this direction to where you
can have better, more transparent, more authentic, more understanding, interactions with your
ex, with other people in your life so that you can actually have stronger relationships
in every area of your life.
I mean, obviously we're going to help you with, the romantic side, but it's my hope.
It's my vision for you that you can take this to your friendships, to your relationships
with your family, to your relationships with your coworkers, to just a, you know, fully
being present and enjoying every aspect of your life. Whether that's a sunny day or whether
that is sleeping in on the weekends or whether that is just eating a delicious meal or something
like that. It's about bringing all of that together because you know, even though something
as simple as you know, enjoying a delicious meal may sound simple and mundane and like
it has absolutely nothing at all to do with getting your ex back. It really does have
a lot to do with getting your ex back because you know, if you're with your ex and if they
see you truly enjoying yourself with something so simple as eating a meal, something so simple
is really opening yourself up to that experience.
Opening yourself up to all the flavors and the smells and everything, and not just shoveling
it in your mouth. You can get onto the next thing, but you're really enjoying it in that
moment. You know they're going to feel that, yes, this person is going to be here. This
person's going to bring 100 percent of their attention to any interaction with me as well,
and they're going to totally see me. They're totally going to get me. They're totally going
to understand me and we were going to be able to have this deep and intense connection.
And you know, like we've said before, how you do one thing is how you do everything.
And that's just an example of that. You know, how you eat a simple everyday meal is how
you interact with someone else. You know, it gives clues how you do. One thing is how
you is a clue to how you, everything else in your life.
And what we're trying to do is get down beneath all of that stuff and really look at the lenses
through which you see your life and help you to hopefully see life in a different way so
that it can change every aspect of your life. But you know, obviously, most importantly,
your relationships, your romantic relationships, your relationship that you have with your
action, getting back together with them. Because once you change the way that you see the world,
you can really change the way that you interact with your ex and interact with anyone in anything
else out in the world. And I think this goes much, much deeper than just, you know. Yeah,
yeah, I feel better. yeah, it's a half day at work today or something like that, you
know, I hope that you can understand that this is something that goes so much deeper
than just some of that, like trivial stuff like that and if you'd like to learn more
about how to do this and you're new to all of this to you, new to me and all these videos
and just go over and go to a relationshipinnergame.com and sign up there so that you can get on our
email newsletter and we can start helping you today. All right, thanks.