Tommy has never developed the skill
to tolerate social conflict.
If you don't agree with him and the way that he thinks,
he wants to punish you for it.
He blows up and attacks you.
Now I said I wanted to take a look
at what's been written on the slate
of this young man.
One thing is since this young man
has been five years old,
I counted up that he has been on at least
50 different medications.
That is absolutely obscene!
And let me tell you something.
The evidence is very clear,
this isn't a close call when you put a young child
on polypharmacy,
for even a short period of time,
let alone across years, it changes their brain
to the point that you dysregulate their ability
to inhibit anger.
Then you come along and uh,
how old were you when the divorce happened, Tommy?
I was in about third grade.
That changes a child, but he's not alone.
He does have a brother.
Did you tell him that the reason you had him
was so his brother would have somebody to play with?
No.
Why are you lying?
How can I get better I'm not talking to you.
I'm talking to you.
No never told him that, no.
Did both of you say that we actually have
to admit we did favor his brother?
I did not favor his brother.
I feel like his dad did.
I favored Tom. You admitted that
you favored his brother.
I did. I admitted that I spent more time with him.
His brother was
a baseball player I was the coach
of the team. And his little brother
dressed up in weird costumes and outfits
and wore suits in kindergarten in first grade.
He was a weird kid that did weird things
and his brother played baseball
and you were into baseball,
and you favored him with time
and attention and energy.
True or false? Correct.
This brother is the favorite,
and that he, Tommy, is pretty much
regarded as the strange kid.
And mom, how can you say you favored me
when you supported me being in suits
at school you knew I was gonna be ridiculed.
I used to come home crying saying "I have no friends.
People make fun of me."
As a mother how could you just be okay with that?
Did your mother when she was drunk
tell you that you were a waste
of a perfectly good kid?
Yeah, when I first went into treatment for heroine.
You were drunk and you said that.
Never.
You're still lying.
You keep on lying.
How can I get better if you believe your own lies?
That's the problem. Did you tell him that
you wish you had had an abortion?
Never! Again when you're drunk.
You get blacked out drunk and
forget what you say. You have a drinking problem?
No. I have a couple glasses of wine
at night when I get home.
Haha.
I'm sorry.
So he is completely fabricating this?
Yes. I've never told him I wish
I'd had an abortion I'd never tell him
any of those kinds of things. You were blacked out drunk.
How do you know what you say You never said you're
a waste of a perfectly good kid
now listen No!
Hang on if he is totally manufacturing this,
if this is delusional,
this is important in what direction
I move him and what I don't
and if you send me down the wrong road,
you are cheating him to cover your own ass.
I have never said those things.
So he's making this up?
I think that Tommy with some of his past issues
may not have total recall but you know what?
Fine I'll throw myself on the sword.
I said it.
Wait a minute that's,
if you say you said it when you didn't
then that sends me down the wrong road too.
I need facts.
I don't, I can never imagine myself
ever saying that, drunk sober or anything else.
Then don't tell me you did.
Don't tell me what you think I wanna hear
'cause you don't know what I wanna hear.
What I wanna hear is what is.
I would never say that.
And you're just literally sitting here
telling me you're not an alcoholic
you don't have a drinking problem?
That is the biggest lie I have heard in
a very very long time.
I can't even believe you have the audacity
to sit on this stage that I poured my heart out
and you know what?
You're sitting here bleep me and
you're pointing me out to be the liar.
When you know what I have lied.
And you know what I'll admit the things
I've lied about and I will do that
and I have done that and I will
continue to do that from this day forward
as long as you will do the same
and you will do the same.
I need to change but you guys need
to change with me so we can come together.
(applause)