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So, let's talk about Dr. Dre and what is actually
going on and why you might want to care as well.
So, as you all may know,
Dr. Dre is one of the wealthiest people on the planet.
Why is that?
Well, because he was one of the guys
who was behind Beats, those headphones, and
he sold Beats for something like 3 billion.
Yeah, that's billions, with the B and
he did all that while he was married
to his beautiful wife, Nicole? Yeah.
They got divorced, well, I guess
they filed for divorce on June 29th, 2020,
after 24 years of marriage.
Yeah, it came to a kind of an abrupt halt, and
it's deeply actually, a surprise
because leading up to the divorce,
they were holding hands,
they were all smiles,
they were at events, holding hands,
they were talking nicely about each other,
they were doing things together.
It seemed like, everything was all good
but you know how it is, right?
I mean, normally you never really know
what goes on behind closed doors.
I mean, even me, I was a divorce attorney
for a really long time before I started
doing this pretty much full-time and even me,
I would see people out and about, and
I would be at events and
I would be seeing people together, and
I would be like “Oh yeah, they've consulted with me”, and
“they've consulted with me” and
“there they are together”.
You never really know what goes on
behind closed doors, frankly, and
there's lots of reasons why people stay together.
Yeah, I mean kids, money, prestige.
I mean, who knows? Right?
So Dr. Dre, AKA Andre Young, who was married
to Nicole, apparently, they didn't sign a prenup.
At least that's the word on the street,
by the way, I have a whole video
on celebs who haven't signed prenups and
if you want to check it out and in that video,
I break down why you need a prenup,
why you don't need a prenup,
what you can cover in a prenup,
but you can't cover in a prenup, kind of in general terms.
Obviously, there's laws that govern that as well,
but if you want to know all about that,
you can definitely check out
my video on that topic as well.
But, if they have a prenup it could make
sorting things out a little bit of a messy process.
But anyway, apparently, she was asking for a lot
of different things but they weren't really talking
about what actually had them calling it quits.
But, leading up to the divorce theme
they were like at Hamilton,
they were at like a Tom Ford event,
but, the thing is sometimes, you just gotta get out.
Sometimes your soul just knows that it's time to break free.
I was in that situation myself in my first marriage,
I'm happily married to my second husband now.
But, my first marriage, I had three kids,
I got married at 19 the first time, and
I three kids by the time I was 22 and
I know that I was in a situation where I was like…
I wasn't married to a narcissist or anything, but
I just remember thinking I don't want my kids to
think that this is an example of a loving relationship,
that this is an example of what marriage should look like,
I remember like I was at a baseball game,
one of my son's played baseball and so we were like,
together all the time with these other parents and
the one mom came in and she was like so excited.
She and her husband were going to get to
go spend a weekend away alone,
because I guess in-laws were going to come in and
watch the kids and she was going to get
to be alone with her husband, and
I remember thinking, like, I really have
no desire to be alone with my husband.
I remember thinking, “Oh, that's probably bad”.
Yeah, so I just knew like I just needed to be free and
that's why I called my first book,
the book I wrote on divorce,
I called it “Breaking Free” and I cover
emotional freedom, and physical freedom
which is like the whole divorce section,
like how to actually physically get divorced and
then like your spiritual freedom
because, it’s kind of all happening at the same time
but to me it was like freedom, right?
So, I just know like, sometimes you just know
if you just need to be free and
your soul knows it needs to be free.
If you're watching this right now and you know
that in your heart, I'm right on this,
Like, just even writing that word,
doesn't it like feel like your energy shifts, right?
You just feel lighter, just writing that word.
Can you feel that?
So, apparently, Dr. Dre has like this dark history
with women and to my knowledge,
neither Dr. Dre, nor his wife Nicole has never actually
come right now and divulge the details of their divorce,
but he does have a controversial history
with women and multiple women have
accused him of abuse and infidelity.
Of course.
Apparently, he even addressed his dark past
in a 2015 interview with the New York Times,
not just like thumbs muddy thing,
like the New York Times and he said,
The Straight Outta Compton rapper also
addressed his past in an HBO documentaries,
“The defiant ones”, which, by the way,
it was a really cool series.
It was a very interesting series.
If you ever want to check it out,
Jimmy Iovine was in it and it’s really interesting, and
he actually said that any man who
puts his hands on a female is an f**** idiot and
“I was out of my f**** mind at the time
I have this dark cloud that follows me,
it's going to be attached to me forever
It’s a major blemish on who I am as a man”.
So you know, there was that and
who knows, it's like if that really ever
came back to haunt him or whatever
but it is a good time for me to actually bring up here
that if any of you are in a relationship where
you feel like you are not in a powerful position
or you are feeling abused
or you are in a place where you are not feeling safe.
Then, I think, it's one thing to say,
Hey, make a plan, go to therapy, try
to negotiate your way out of a situation,
use negotiation skills, create strategy, create leverage.
That's a very different thing than
your safety being at risk.
if your safety is at risk,
then you need to call the police,
you need to go to a safe house,
you need to maybe go to a shelter,
you need to maybe get an injunction
if you feel that you've been sexually assaulted,
you could call the sexual assault hotline
which you know I will put all of the numbers below
here, in the show notes.
National Sexual Assault Hotline is
or you could visit RAINN for additional resources.
RAINN.ORG for that.
I don't want to say
oh, you can just negotiate your way
out of anything like that because
you certainly definitely can't.
So, I don't know what happened exactly with Dr. Dre,
I mean, I guess is that maybe they grew apart or,
maybe there was some sort of infidelity or whatever,
but I just felt like this was a good opportunity
to bring up that if you feel like you are
in a relationship that is not safe,
that you should do what you need to do
to get out of the relationship and
get yourself to a safe place.
For those of you who are out there,
who are negotiating, you do want to
get the free “Crush my negotiation” prep worksheet.
You are certainly welcome to do that
at winmynegotiation.com and
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