Are you wanting to learn how to decrease your social awkwardness when talking to people,
and more specifically girls?
In this video, I give you some amazing tips to help increase your confidence when talking
with people.
Social skills can be particularly daunting for many people as they aren't skills that
are taught like other subjects.
This means people lack the confidence and skills to do this.
So in this video, let's look at How to Talk to People With Confidence - Reduce Social
Awkwardness and Improve Communication Skills...
1.
Use Visualisation - Visualisation can be an incredibly powerful
way to develop confidence and help control emotion in a particularly situation, including
when you meet and speak to someone - Many, if not all, top athletes and performers
use visualization as a way to perform at peak levels, such as boxers who do shadow boxing
before facing an opponent - The reason is that visualisation helps motivation
towards doing something you may find intimidating, as essentially the brain doesn't distiguish
reality from thoughts, meaning if you visualise talking to someone, you've already sent signals
to the brain of feeling confident with that person
- I've used this myself, as when I was first going out to meet clients to offer consultancy,
I would use visualisation techniques to try and reduce nerves, which worked phenomenally
well
2.
Change Your Physiology - Here's a great hack for anyone wanting an
instant boost of confidence, change your physical posture to feel more confident, as this can
have immense effects on the brain - For example, let's say you feel a little
nervous when meeting someone, little things like keeping a good, straight posture, having
your chin up and leaning back a little to have a more relaxed posture goes a huge way
- The reason is, by changing your posture physically sends signals to the brain that
you feel confident and good, so your brain reacts accordingly, such as reducing cortisol
levels - As a result, your positional change results
in your feeling better in that moment in time, and amazingly, it's not just limited to using
it when speaking to a girl
3.
Make Eye Contact - Probably one of the biggest ways to convey
confidence, or a lack of it, is to make regular eye contact with the person you're speaking
to - It can be easier said than done, but the
thing is it's a skill you can develop.
For example, try to watch videos and keep eye contact with the person you are watch,
or use visualisation techniques mentioned earlier.
Often, the best is just to practice, maybe with people you already feel comfortable around
- The thing with eye contact is that it doesn't just convey confidence, but is a form of communication
in itself as you can express thoughts in that given moment
- ...and it shows you're attentive in the conversation, which is vital when building
a relationship with someone and showing them you're engaged in the conversation
4.
Use Small Talk - People seem to think small talk is bad conversation,
as it's fairly mundane and meaningless when trying to build a relationship and rapport
with another person right?
- No!
The fact is small talk can play a fundamental role when in a relationship, as it builds
mutual trust between two people as they speak about common interests and learn about each
other - However, here's the thing about small talk,
it also plays a great role in helping ease you into a conversation, making it easier
to adjust and thus feel more confident about it
- Think of it like entering a swimming pool, jumping straight in can be quite a shock to
the system, but if you first take steps to adjust, such as splashing a little water on
your body, it becomes much easier and more comfortable
5.
Take Your Time - Here's the problem, most of us speak too
fast, and when you're nervous, we have a natural tendency to speak even faster, not giving
ourselves time for thought - Now when you do this, what naturally occurs
when you need to time to think?
You're more likely to use filler words like "umm" and "err" right?
- All of this is then conveyed to the person you speak to, meaning you appear less confident
to them.
So slow down, have pauses for thought and articulate yourself in a positive way
- Doing this, in addition to the other tips mentioned, will help you appear significantly
more confident and less awkward during communication
Are any of the tips given new to you and if so, which ones?
Let me know in the comments section below.
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