-Hi. In this video,
I'm going to share four simple ways to magnetically inspire a man's love.
Hi, ladies. Mat Shaffer here,
your empowerment, connection, and relationship coach.
I'm a former attorney who's committed his life to supporting you
in creating the fun, fulfilling, dynamic connections,
and relationships with men that you are so worthy of.
I am so excited about the topic of today's video.
We're going to dive into some simple,
yet powerful ways to help you magnetically inspire
a man to love you
and want to be in relationship with you in the deepest way possible.
These are the sort of tools I use with my clients and my students
all the time, and I know they're going to make a big difference for you,
but before we dig into it, take a second, hit that little subscribe button.
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Now, when it comes to being irresistible to high-value men
and getting them to really drop in and love you in a deep way,
it makes sense to think that words would be your best friend.
To an extent, they really can help complimenting a man
on specific aspects of his appearance,
or his personality, or how he's showing up to you.
It really can be a powerful way to draw him close to you
and activate his love,
but the funny thing is,
what's even more powerful than that are your actions.
That's right, ladies.
When it comes to men,
actions speak louder than words,
but here's the thing,
it can't just be any type of action.
In order for it to really activate and inspire a man to drop in
and love you more,
it has to be the type of action
that empowers him and builds his confidence,
both in your connection
and in the relational container that the two of you
have created together.
Here are four examples of empowering actions
you can use with a man
that will both touch his heart
and inspire him to step up and into the type of relationship
that you really want.
Number 4 is acts of trust.
This is a big one,
and it's something I like to refer to as throwing a man the ball.
This is where you leave a man alone with someone
or something that's really valuable to you.
For example, it could be a child if you have a kid,
it could be a furry child if you have a pet,
or maybe it's just something like letting him house-sit
for you while you're out of town on business,
but no matter what it is,
when you throw a man the ball
and you give him an act of trust,
you allow him to take care of something that's valuable for you,
even if it's watering your plants at your house,
it's demonstrating that you trust him
and that you honor and respect his ability to take care of you,
even when you're not there.
It demonstrates to him non-verbally
that he's earned your trust,
which is something that deep down,
men are really craving in relationship with women.
Engaging in an act of trust with a man
or throwing him the ball is also a great filter,
because if a man that you're dating or getting to know,
is unwilling to take that responsibility on,
or he seems really uncomfortable with it or insecure about it,
it's probably a sign that he's either not invested in you
as you would like him to be
or that he just doesn't have the degree of character
or willingness to take
on that responsibility in the relationship,
which either way, he's filtering himself out.
Just a little disclaimer, ladies,
to all my single moms out there, I'm not telling you to throw your child
at a guy that you've just started dating,
because honestly, that's a big responsibility
and it might be overwhelming to a guy
too early in getting to know him, and obviously,
you don't want to put your child at risk,
but once your relationship has hit a certain point
and you really want to gauge the level of investment he has in you
and maybe his capabilities as a potential father,
yes, throw him the ball and see how he responds.
It'll tell you a lot about who he is and where you're at in the relationship.
If he's invested,
he's really going to feel honored by the trust that you've given him.
The third action you can take to magnetically inspire a man to love you,
is to ask him questions in his passion zone.
What is a man's passion zone?
It's his area of expertise, it's the things that he is into,
and passionate about, and he is an authority in.
Every guy has that stuff, whether it's cars,
or MMA, or housing stuff, or maybe it's cooking.
Whenever you have a question,
say you want to know how to cook a perfect soufflé,
instead of going to the internet, ask your man.
If he knows cooking,
allow him a chance to demonstrate his authority
and his expertise to you.
It's very empowering for a guy to be asked by his woman to speak
into a subject and to be seen as an authority
on something that he's really passionate about.
Know, that when you do that,
when you ask him questions about things that he's passionate about,
that he's into,
it's going to help empower him and make him feel more confident
in his own masculinity within the relational container.
Number 2 is allowing him to lead.
This may seem counterintuitive but sometimes,
the best action to take
to empower a man that you're getting to know
is to allow him to take action
because here's something I've noticed
in working with my clients and students and in my own life,
that when you and your partner in the relationship
are faced with a situation or a challenge,
isn't it so often the default response of the woman to want to dive
in and fix it herself or to tell her male partner what to do?
"Gary, why are you taking 43rd Street to go to dinner
when you know that the tunnel is so much faster at this time of day?
We're going to be late to dinner now, Gary.
What are your parents going to say?"
Ladies, how do you think a man feels
when you take the driver's seat
both literally or figuratively in situations like that?
He often feels emasculated, disempowered,
and like you don't really trust him
to make the right decision.
It's so important to recognize
that in order to create polarity and to empower
and honor the masculine in a relationship,
that you have to give him the space
and the ability to make decisions and to lead the way,
even if it's going to take a little bit longer to get to dinner.
Remember that the masculine is craving being acknowledged
and trusted for what they're doing in the world,
what their actions are.
By allowing him to lead,
you're giving him what he's craving at the energetic level
within the relationship and helping him build his confidence,
build his decision-making muscles,
and really helping him understand and believe that you really do trust him,
which more than anything is what he wants.
The Number 1 way to magnetically inspire
a man's love through your actions is to touch him in an authentic,
meaningful way.
I cannot emphasize this enough.
Touch is a primary,
fundamental love language for so many men out there,
and most men are completely starved for it.
I'm not just talking about touch during sex.
Oftentimes, that's the only real physical affection
that a man gets is during foreplay and during sex.
I'm talking about just rubbing his back when he gets home from work,
or playing with his hair, or using your nails on his arms
while you're sitting there watching TV.
All of these little small acts of physical affection and playful,
tender, authentic, emotional touch
are really going to help him drop out of his head
and into his body, which is so important, especially after he's been at work,
and he's been solving problems and he's been in his head all day.
It's a great way to get a man to soften and get out of his head and into his body,
which is really important because, ladies, at the end of the day,
if you want that deep, incredibly loyal, passionate connection with a guy,
you want him to see you as his sanctuary,
his emotional and his physical sanctuary
from the hardships of his life and the heaviness of his responsibilities.
Touch is literally the greatest way that you can be that sanctuary
for the man in your life.
If you want to empower him and help him really drop in,
and trust, and be confident with you in the relational container,
touch the guy.
There you go, ladies.
If you're able to use these four powerful actions
in your relationships and connections with men,
you are going to empower the men in your life
to really drop in, and connect with, and love you at an entirely new level.
To review them one more time, Number 4 is acts of trust.
Demonstrating that you trust a man by throwing him the ball
and letting him look after your house,
or your pets, or even your kids,
if the relationship has reached a certain level.
It's a huge way to show
that you really believe in this guy and you see him
as someone who's a partner for you.
Number 3 is ask him questions in his passion zone.
Tap into and acknowledge him as an authority
in his zone of genius, in the things that he's an expert at.
That's going to empower him
and really help him understand that you see him
as a resource and someone that you can trust.
Number 2 is allowing him to lead.
Sometimes the most powerful action
you can take is to allow him to take action.
Men are craving being the physical drivers in relationship.
When you stop trying to micromanage a man's action
just because you may know a better way
and you just allow him to lead,
it's going to be very confidence building for him
and help him see himself
as that powerful leader and navigator in the relationship
that he really wants to be.
That's the role that he wants to have with you.
Number 1 is touch him in a meaningful and authentic way.
All men are craving touch in some way, shape, or form,
unless they have trauma around it.
In most cases, a man is wanting and yearning for your touch,
not just in the bedroom, not just during sex,
but just casually throughout the day.
The more that you do that, the more consistently you do that,
the more you're going to build intimacy with him,
build connection, and build trust with him.
He's going to start to see you more as that sanctuary
that you really want to be
if you want to inspire his loyalty, dedication, and love.
I hope you enjoyed these four actions you can go out there and take today,
but before you do that,
be sure to hit that subscribe button and sound off in the comments.
Let me know what was your number one tip or any additional sorts of actions
that you think are super important and powerful
for you to take to magnetize and inspire a man to love you.
Let's get that conversation going down below.
Don't forget to click the link in the comments and caption.
I have created some great training that's going to make a huge difference
in your connections and relationships with men.
I'll see you in our next video.
Bye-bye.
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